Pensamiento apestoso: Mi visión distorsionada de mí mismo

Pensamiento apestoso: Mi visión distorsionada de mí mismo

Pensamiento apestoso: Mi visión distorsionada de mí mismo


por Toni Weisz/Pensamiento apestoso

 

Referencias de las Escrituras: Isaías 43:18–19, Salmo 62:6-8, Salmo 27:10, John 8:32, y romanos 5:9

Pensamiento apestoso refers to the negative or disturbing thoughts that torment us, especialmente cuando estamos DETENER (hinfeliz, Aenojado, lsolo o tenojado). We will be looking at our distorted view of self. Aprenderemos a discernir la verdad de las mentiras que hemos creído toda nuestra vida.. Nuestro objetivo es equiparte para que puedas tener la victoria en cada área de tu vida..

Isaías 43:18–19
“No os acordéis de las cosas pasadas, ni considerar las cosas de antaño. Mirad, haré algo nuevo, ahora brotará; ¿No lo sabrás?? Incluso haré camino en el desierto y ríos en el desierto”.

Salmo 62: 6–8
“Él sólo es mi roca y mi salvación; el es mi defensa; Preferiría que no me movieran. En Dios está mi salvación y mi gloria.; La roca de mi fuerza, y mi refugio, esta en dios. Confía en Él en todo momento, Tu gente; derrama tu corazón delante de él; Dios es un refugio para nosotros."

Salmo 27:10
When my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will take care of me.

John 8:32
“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

Romanos 5:9
Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him.

I was the oldest of three and came from a strict second-generation, Italian-American family. My father and his two brothers and sister ran a family-owned construction company started by my grandfather.

My grandfather had a drinking problem. And my dad acted like an alcoholic even though he did not drink. I refer to his behavior as a “rageaholic.” He worked extremely long hours and was dealing with a lot of stress and family drama. No podía comunicarse de manera saludable sin enfadarse y alzar la voz.. He had a very short fuse. Entonces, cuando estaba en casa, Literalmente quisiera correr y esconderme..

My mom tried her best to control our home environment as not to cause my dad any stress. We had to be very quiet and obedient when he was home. The slightest thing could set him off. When my dad was at work, my mom had her own way of dealing with the chaos in our home. She yelled a lot too. It wasn’t a very calm or peaceful environment. But I believe they did the best they could. They were preoccupied with putting out fires that my sister and brother were starting. It was easy for me to hide in the shadows.

As a young child, how was I supposed to get the love and attention I needed? Después del “bueno, quiet one” persona was not working anymore, I started sneaking Scotch whiskey from my parents’ liquor cabinet at 12 años. Now I was really hiding because of all of my secrets, which now were piling up, and it became even more difficult to keep up my façade. Por 13, Me estaba drogando y consumiendo otras drogas.. En 16, I was having sex; then the unthinkable, my abortion at 21. My life was a disaster, one poor decision after another led me down a very dark path. I was very alone in this pit even though I had friends; no one really knew what I was suffering with because I wore the perfect mask. I was right where the evil one wanted me. Isolated, solo, and hiding in my secrets.

Now in my early 30’s after many years of destructive choices, Mecanismos de copia nocivos y adicciones., Mi autodesprecio estaba en su punto más alto. My depression would last for weeks at a time, and it was preventing me from functioning normally, and all the pain I had been stuffing all my life was coming out sideways. no tenia control sobre eso. Yo era como un volcán andante. I literally just wanted to end this torment of a life. But God gave me two children, and I wasn’t going to leave them without a mom. Entonces, I decided I needed to do something different because what I was doing was not working. I was tired of putting my mask on every day and pretending.

Sentí que no era digno de ser amado. De hecho, I thought I deserved to be emotionally abused by others because of my sin. No me veía como una persona valiosa para nadie., ni siquiera a dios. Este patrón destructivo continuaría hasta que yo fuera 34, cuando por la gracia de Dios, Escuché el evangelio y dentro 4 semanas fui salvo y le pedí a Jesús que perdonara mis pecados y fuera mi Señor y Salvador. El día más hermoso y memorable de mi vida es febrero. 6, 1994, cuando nací de nuevo.

Incluso después de mi salvación, I felt I had to work for love and approval from God and especially from others in leadership at Church. My people-pleasing was consuming my life, y Dios me mostró que esto es idolatría, that anything that I put above Him is a sin.

Over the past 20 años, God has slowly been showing me my character defects and areas of sin, my codependency, people-pleasing, and lack of clear boundaries and how I was enabling unhealthy behavior. I didn’t love or respect myself so how could I expect others to. I allowed people to walk all over me, to manipulate and control me, but slowly over time, I started putting up boundaries and using my voice.

God helped me to see myself through His eyes of love, care, and compassion. De nuevo en 2015 when struggling with rejection, I wrote out these words of affirmation that I read out loud to myself every day: Soy digno, soy amado, pertenezco, Soy aceptado, soy adoptado, Tengo confianza y soy competente., I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, soy un niño de Dios, Soy victorioso en Cristo, just to name a few. This is my Spiritual Armor; I put this on every morning to protect myself from the fiery darts of the enemy. Our battle is won and lost in our minds. What we believe about ourselves and about God matters. God’s word is truth, and the truth will make you free.

I hope I never take for granted the miracle that took place in my life 31 hace años que, when I received the gift of salvation through the blood of Jesus shed on the cross for me.

QUESTIONS TO TAKE TO HEART:

  1. How has your distorted view of yourself opened you up to all kinds of abuse and sin as a way to cope with your pain?
  2. How did you see yourself?
  3. Who does God say you are? Give examples of Biblical truth.
  4. What do you do to put your Spiritual Armor on daily to protect yourself from the enemy?
  5. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you if you need to talk, you can text me or email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Eres amado, Toni

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Misterios

Misterios

SECRETS

by Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools
Referencias de las Escrituras: John 8:31–32, 36

John 8:3132, 36
Entonces Jesús dijo a los judíos que le creían., “Si permanecéis en mi palabra, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

“Therefore, si el Hijo te hace libre, seréis verdaderamente libres”.

 

YOU’RE ONLY AS SICK AS YOUR SECRETS

You may have heard the familiar recovery term, “You’re only as sick as your secrets," and it is a true statement. Until we feel safe to share our secrets, we keep them locked up in a type of “Pandora’s Box,” where we keep all of our deepest and darkest secrets hidden, because we fear them coming out to expose the ugly truth.

For the postabortion woman, it is the truth that we terminated the life of our child. This horrible secret was our child. For those of us who have been abused, our fears of retaliation, rejection and judgment keep us silent. Where can we go to share in a safe place?

God doesn’t want us operating in secrets because He knows how destructive isolation and secrets are. I started secrets when I was 12 años, hiding my drinking. then it was getting high at 13, then sex at 16, and the worst offense era my abortion at 21.

My secrets and sins were piling up, and it became harder and harder to keep them from coming out. I feared my parents’ reaction, punishment and disappointment in me. I knew all of this was wrong, but I kept those secrets until I was 50 años.

They had no idea about my destructive, pecaminoso, sorted past because I wore a great mask. It was not an easy conversation, but I wanted them to hear it from me because I was starting this ministry and I didn’t want them to find out from another source. It needed to come from me. I felt a great release when I was finally able to share this with my parents.

WHY ARE SECRETS DESTRUCTIVE?

Primero, secrets keep us isolated from God and others, and that’s exactly where the enemy wants us. He wants us isolated and hiding because then he can torment us over and over again, until we realize what’s going on. Secrets keep us from the very people that can help us.

Second, the dysfunction is perpetuated and will continue as long as we nurture this thing, and protect it, like it was some prized possession. The secret needs to be exposed and brought into the light.

Third, secrets can hinder or prevent healing in our lives. Because of the abuse many of us have experienced in our past, we are already fearful of exposure, y we think this secret is a way to keep us safe. But actually it is causing us to stay sick. God gives us the courage to step out of isolation and secrets so we can be healed.

Fourth, secrets are destructive because they distort our view of reality, and we feel like we are all alone. Secrets are usually combined with lies that we believe about ourselves, Dios, u otras personas. God’s Word and the Holy Spirit help us to know the truth so we can walk in it and so these secrets and lies can no longer hold us back from becoming the women God created us to be.

God wants us free from bondage. Secrets keep us in chains and in darkness.

Jesús Came to set the captives free.

Preguntas para tomar en serio:

  1. What secrets are you still holding onto?
  2. Why are you fearful to share them? Is it fear of retribution, miedo al rechazo, fear of hurting another person, fear of abandonment, or fear of judgment?
  3. When did you have the courage to share your secrets?
  4. How did you feel after you shared your secrets?
  5. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

Please be aware eso even in Church, there are some people who are emotionally unsafe to share secrets with. Make sure it is a person/group you trust.

I pray you have the courage to trust God and allow Him to show you the areas of your life that need healing. Trust Him with your secrets.

If you need help, please reach out to me. METROy email is: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Eres amado,
Toni

 

 

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Oración por avivamiento

Oración por avivamiento

Oración por avivamiento
by Toni Weisz/Spiritual Discipline

Referencias de las Escrituras: Salmo 51:117, Salmo 139:2324,
2 Timothy 2:21, Jaime 5:16, and Ephesians 4:2931

Leer Salmo 51:1–17

En Febrero 1970, revival broke out at Asbury College in Wilmore, Kentucky.

On Wednesday, Febrero 8, 2023 (53 años later almost to the day), revival again broke out on the campus at Ashbury University in Wilmore, Kentucky. After Chapel service, some students lingered for spontaneous worship, prayer, and confession. The revival continued for many days and spread to other universities, and many people traveled from all over the world to experience God in eso place.

PRAYER & SCRIPTURE

We are hungry for You, Caballero. Just like in 1970, there was much turmoil in the world, the Vietnam War, protests, bad economy, high gas prices, inflation, and chaos all around, not much different today in our world. People are hurting. they are confused y fearful about what the future will bring. But our hope is in You, Caballero. Only You know it all, see it all, and control it all.

We humble ourselves before you today and ask Your Holy Spirit to help us. We cry out as David did in the Psalms.

Salmo 139:23–24
Search us, O God, and know our hearts. Try us, and know our thoughts and see if there be any wicked way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting.

Lord God, remove any blindness that may be keeping us from repenting of sin in our lives.

2 Timothy 2:21
Por lo tanto, if anyone cleanses himself from these things, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work.

We want to be clean vessels sanctified and useful in your kingdom work. Purify us by the Word of God and the working of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

Father God, we are expecting You to move mightily to heal the brokenhearted and to heal all our wounds. We are waiting for you to heal us and our families from disease and demonic oppression, in the name of Jesus, we pray.

We are praying for our family members, friends, and neighbors who do not know You yet, that Your Holy Spirit will break their hearts of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Have mercy upon them, O Lord. We are crying out to You for revival in our own hearts, our homes, our neighborhood, our state, our nation, and the world. Venir, Holy Spirit, and have Your will and Your way in us today.

We are surrendering all to You today. We are asking, seeking, and knocking on the door. Let revival continue right here and right now in us.

In the powerful name of Jesus, we pray, amen.

Jaime 5:16
Confess your faults one to another and pray one for another that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Efesios 4:29-31
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

 

Preparation for Revival:

  1. Is there someone who you are harboring unforgiveness toward for something they did or did not do?

Would you like to confess that right now?

 

  1. Are you willfully going against what you know is right?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Is there something that you are unknowingly doing that is not honoring to God? Ask the Lord to show you so you can repent.

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Are you angry with God because you are really struggling with loneliness, depresión, loss of job, health issues, a relationship, and God is not moving fast enough and you are really suffering?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

Please reach out if you need prayer or encouragement. Ypuedes enviarme un correo electrónico a: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Eres amado,

Toni

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La voluntad “perfecta” de Dios

La voluntad “perfecta” de Dios

La voluntad “perfecta” de Dios

por Luci Boudreaux/Perspectivas espirituales
Junio 4, 2023
Escrituras: John 14:23 and Colossians 1:9b–12

 

John 14:23 (NKJV)
“Jesus answered him, ‘If anyone loves me, he will keep my word; and my Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.’”

Col 1:9b–12 (NIV)
“We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.”

 

Before I met Jesus at 25, I had lived a hard life. I carried a lot of baggage because of others who had harmed me, both physically and emotionally. And because of my damaged self-image, I made a lot of poor choices. I abused alcohol and drugs and became promiscuous after being raped at age 12. As a single woman at 24, I got pregnant. Then I added injury to the pain and confusion by aborting my precious child.

As Jesus entered my life, He began to open my eyes and show me a love that I had never experienced. There was acceptance and a desire to know and be known, without fear of rejection. I knew I was safe, and this is when I began to open up to receive God’s will for my life.

Early on in my faith, I thought that God was in the business of answering “reasonable” prayers just because I prayed them. After all, I was His beloved daughter, and I knew He wanted to bless me. I strongly desired a godly husband and children, a smooth path to a vibrant ministry where I could share my faith and help other women who had been wounded, and to have no conflict with other members in the church.

I didn’t marry until I was 43, have no living biological children, didn’t establish a “vibrant” ministry (not how I imagined) and have had conflict with other members of the body of Christ. God hasn’t answered my prayers the way I desired. He did so much more! He answered them according to His perfect wisdom. Entonces, I was able to grow closer to Him, and He has been glorified in my life.

As I grow in my faith, I am coming to understand that God’s perfect will is not always Him answering prayers according to my desires and my limited perspective. I am learning that His perfect will comes about when, in humility, I surrender. It’s key to a fulfilling relationship with Him. I had to come to the place where I wanted to fully surrender to God and be in an intimate relationship with Him, more than having any of my prayers answered, whatever that looks like.

 

Preguntas:

 

  1. Have you surrendered your will to God? If not, why? What are you afraid of?
  1. Are you in God’s will right now? If so, what does that look like?
  1. How do you respond to detours and unanswered prayers?
  1. Cómo podemos orar por ti?
Sigo siendo responsable de mis acciones

Sigo siendo responsable de mis acciones

Todavía soy responsable de mis acciones
por Toni Weisz/Herramientas de recuperación

Romanos 3:23, John 16:8, filipenses 4:13, mateo 7:7-8, y Salmo 147:3

Todos hemos crecido en hogares disfuncionales porque todos hemos nacido en pecado y tenemos una naturaleza pecaminosa.. La Biblia dice, “Por cuanto todos pecaron y están destituidos de la gloria de Dios”. (Romanos 3:23). Algunos de nosotros hemos experimentado negligencia extrema, abuso, abandono, y rechazo. Esto ha causado una herida profunda en nuestras almas y una percepción distorsionada del amor.. Por este trauma, No confiamos en los demás y tenemos miedo de que se acerquen demasiado.; no queremos que nos vuelvan a hacer daño. Por esta razón, es difícil confiar en que Dios tampoco nos va a hacer daño. Muchas mujeres luchan por desarrollar una relación íntima con Dios, nuestro padre celestial, porque no tenían una buena relación con su padre terrenal.

Independientemente de lo que hayamos experimentado en nuestras vidas., todavía somos responsables de hacer el bien, saludable, decisiones piadosas. Es el Espíritu Santo dentro de nosotros el que nos lleva a caminar en la verdad y nos convence de pecado., justicia, y juicio (Leer Juan 16:8). Tenemos la capacidad mediante la ayuda del Espíritu Santo de detener el ciclo de disfunción que surge de nuestro hogar de origen o de los traumas que hemos experimentado en otros lugares.

Podemos tomar buenas decisiones. No tenemos que reaccionar ante las cosas sin detenernos., Orando, y pensando en ellos. Tenemos el control de nuestros pensamientos y acciones.. De hecho, es el solo cosa sobre la que tenemos control. Tenemos que tomar una decisión consciente de no perpetuar esta disfunción y transmitirla a nuestros hijos y a las generaciones futuras.. La única forma en que podemos hacerlo es mediante:

1. Tener una relación con Jesús.

2. Obtener ayuda ya sea a través de consejería cristiana y/o reuniones de recuperación., y leyendo libros útiles.

3. Tener responsabilidad: una persona o comunidad segura que te ayude a seguir trabajando en ti mismo.

Preguntas:

  1. ¿En qué áreas tuviste que trabajar como resultado de un trauma pasado??
    Toni:
    El rechazo fue una herida enorme para mí.. También confiar en que los demás no controlarán., manipular, y usarme era otra. Tuve que aprender a usar mi voz y poner límites saludables para protegerme.. Tuve que aprender a controlarme porque era un volcán andante., lleno de rabia. Aprendí por qué estaba tan enojado y lo acepté.. Dios me ha sanado en todas estas áreas porque estuve dispuesto a dejarlo entrar y sanarme..
  2. ¿Cuáles son algunas áreas en las que aún necesitas trabajar??
    Toni: He estado luchando contra la codependencia., Entonces comencé a leer el libro., No más codependencia, por Suellen McDolly. Ha sido muy útil para mí detenerme y comprobar mi motivación para hacer las cosas que estaba haciendo.. Siempre quiero estar dispuesto a trabajar en mí mismo.. Cuando algo me provoca, Le pido a Dios que me muestre lo que realmente está pasando.. Por lo general, escribo un diario cuando esto sucede porque necesito escuchar de Él en un lugar donde esté listo para escuchar..

Nuestra curación es un proceso que dura toda la vida., pero si Dios esta involucrado en ello, nosotros ganaremos. Todo lo podemos en Cristo que nos fortalece. (Leer Filipenses 4:13). Si recién estás comenzando tu viaje de curación, sigue pidiéndole a Dios que te ayude, sigue buscándolo con todo tu corazón, y sigue llamando a la puerta para obtener más conocimiento y sabiduría divina. (Leer Mateo 7:7-8). Dios es fiel, y Él quiere vendar tu corazón quebrantado y sanar tus heridas. (Leer Salmo 147:3).

Espero que esto haya sido útil.. Por favor contacta; Estamos aquí para ayudarte y orar por ti..

Eres amado,
Toni

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