The Way of Cain

The Way of Cain

The Way of Cain

By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Warfare

Scriptures: Jude 8-11, 1 John 3:10-12, and Genesis 4:3-8

Jude 8-11
Likewise these dreamers defile the flesh, reject authority, and speak evil of dignitaries. Yet Michael the archangel, in contending with the devil, when he disputed about the body of Moses, dared not bring against him a reviling accusation, but said, “The Lord rebuke you!” But these speak evil of whatever they do not know; and whatever they know naturally, like brute beasts, in these things they corrupt themselves. Woe to them! For they have gone the way of Cain, have run greedily in the error of Balaam for profit, and perished in the rebellion of Korah.

1 John 3:10-12
In this the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not from God, nor is he who does not love his brother. For this is the message that you heard from the beginning, that you heard from the beginning, that we should love one another, not as Cain who was of the wicked one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his works were evil and his brother’s righteous.

Genesis 4:3-8
And in the process of time it came to pass that Cain brought an offering of the fruit of the ground to the Lord. Abel also brought of the first born of his flock and their fat. And the Lord respected Abel and his offering, but He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry and his countenance fell.

So, the Lord said, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

Now Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him.

 

I was watching the news the other day and they were interviewing this man from Great Britain, Winston Aubrey Aladar Marshall, a former band member of Mumford and Sons, but because he spoke up about things like Antifa and BLM, he had to leave the band. He was being persecuted for speaking the truth. In the interview, he was speaking about Ann Widdecombe, who was a former governor in parliament who was murdered for her stance on protecting life in the womb and biblical marriage. He then mentioned something I never heard before, “The spirit of Cain,” or also known as “the way of Cain.”

When I thought about Cain in the past, I felt sad for Him that God did not receive his offering because he was a tiller of the ground. I came to find out after reading some commentaries that God did not accept his offering because Cain was coming to God on his own terms; he rejected God’s way. Cain’s heart was not right before God. The way of Cain is a rebellious and prideful religious system; they are consumed with jealousy, hatred, envy, and they will even murder others who disagree with them. They have sexually perverted God’s design for marriage and sexual intimacy.

Does this sound familiar? This is what people today on the extreme left are doing. If they don’t like what you are saying, they will silence you by killing you. It’s been almost a year since Charlie Kirk was assassinated in broad daylight with thousands of people present. What a tragic and very sad thing.

How did we find ourselves under the spell of this insidious spirit? For those of us who had abortions, we terminated our child’s life because they stood in our way. They did not fit into our plans at the time. We were our own little “g” god. We wanted to control our own destiny. They were an inconvenience, a problem to be taken care of. How heartless of us. We were blinded and deceived by the evil one instead of recognizing the beautiful gift from God that they were.

For those of you dear ones who have been abused, that same spirit of Cain caused the perpetrator to be taken over by this prideful evil spirit, doing things that were ungodly and an abomination in the sight of God.

This same spirit seems to be in those who are running for political offices here in the U.S. as DSA Democratic Socialist of America, aka communism. Many of them have won in cities such as New York City, Portland, Washington DC, and it’s definitely concerning.

What are we supposed to do about this? I would say, first if you are an American citizen and are not a registered voter, you need to be. Second, you need to vote in every election. Get involved at serving at the polls or distributing voter guides to inform people of the issues and the candidates. Luci and I met back in 2010 when we were distributing voter guides to our churches. There are still organizations you can get that information from.

How do we combat this evil spirit? The answer can be found in the verse above in Jude , “The Lord rebuke you!” Also pray that God will remove the blindness so these people can see clearly the error of their ways and receive the beautiful and life-transforming power of the Gospel and be saved. We need to build and continue to have relationships with family members and friends who have become disillusioned and bitter about God and our country. We need to speak the truth when we can, if we can, and never stop praying for them.

Articles of interest:

You can research this topic on www.GotQuestions.Com search the Way of Cain.
https://www.gotquestions.org/way-of-Cain.html
Six Characteristics of the Way of Cain, Pathway to Victory, August 7, 202, ptv.org.
https://ptv.org/devotional/six-characteristics-of-the-way-of-cain/

Questions:

  1. What are your thoughts about, “The way of Cain?” Have you heard about this before?
  2. Have you personally experienced this spirit through another person’s words or actions?
  3. Please pray for our nation to come back to God.
  4. How can we pray for you?

Please do not allow the evil one to gain even more ground. Stand on the truth, defend the faith, and vote your conscience. Please reach out if you need to talk, toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are loved,
Toni

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Why Are Boundaries Important?

Why Are Boundaries Important?

Why Are Boundaries Important?

By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Disciplines

Scriptures: Exodus 20: 1-17 and Ephesians 4:32

While growing up, I never learned how to have healthy boundaries. In my home of origin, we were all intermeshed with one another, without a clear separation between me and another person. At a young age, I learned how to cope in a chaotic, unpredictable home.

Never knowing when the proverbial next shoe would drop or someone would overreact and yell or throw a shoe or smack you. I always felt like I had to be guarded, and because of this, I hid in the shadows. I wanted to be loved so desperately I was willing to do anything. As a result, I became a people pleaser. All I wanted was to make others happy with my behavior, my performance, and accomplishments. I would be whatever the other person needed me to be, just to feel loved and accepted. By doing this, I allowed others to treat me badly, to manipulate and control me. I had no boundaries. I allowed others to do these things, and I just accepted it. I just thought I must not be a person of any value, because if I were, why did others treat me this way?

Because I did not have any boundaries, I struggled with receiving love and giving love. All my relationships were unhealthy, and I truly didn’t know how to have healthy relationships. I would struggle with this for most of my life. I felt very alone and disconnected from others. I was lonely because I never truly felt loved and accepted by anyone.

Lack of clear boundaries is a very common character defect with post-abortion women and women who have been abused. We have a distorted view of God, ourselves, and others. We do not trust that God will not abuse us also.

There has to be some level of trust in a relationship to have the courage to set up boundaries. Boundaries help us form healthy relationships that are based on love and respect for each other.

Boundaries are important because they help us to set up parameters to protect us from others and to help our relationships grow in a healthy and loving environment. Just like the 10 commandments were set up by God as guard rails to protect us from sin, so are boundaries important to protect us also.

Setting Up Healthy Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, pages 106-107. AACC The Bible for Hope: Caring for People God’s Way.

1. What are some areas where you have boundary issues?

2. Have an accountability partner and meet regularly to discuss this; be truthful. Saying NO is hard for a person with no boundaries.

3. Recognize your part in this. Why are you fearful to set boundaries.

4. It is important to give and receive love and forgiveness.

5. Set up limits and consequences for not respecting your boundaries, and be consistent. Ex. Walking away from someone when they start yelling at you. A consequence can be, “When you yell at me, I will walk away.”

Questions to take to heart:

1. Did you grow up learning how to have healthy boundaries?

2. What areas do you struggle with enforcing boundaries and insisting they are respected?

3. How did you learn how to put up healthy boundaries?

4. How can we pray for you?

A great resource on this subject is the book, Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

I pray this topic has been helpful to you. Please reach out if you need to talk: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are loved,

Toni

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Hidden Grief

Hidden Grief

Hidden Grief

By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools

Scriptures: Psalm 34:18 and Psalm 51:17

Grief has a way of showing up quietly. Not always in ways others can see—but deeply, intensely, within.

In Scripture, we see this kind of grief in the life of David.

David wasn’t a stranger to sorrow. He experienced loss, regret, and deep emotional pain. In one of the most difficult seasons of his life, after his own failure and its consequences, David found himself overwhelmed with grief.

And he didn’t hide it from God.

In Psalm 34:18, he later writes:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

That wasn’t just a comforting idea—it was something David lived.

David understood what it meant to feel brokenhearted, to carry sorrow that others may not fully understand, and to wrestle with both grief and the weight of his own choices.

And yet—he brought all of it to God.

In another moment of honesty, David writes:

“My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.” (Psalm 51:17)

David didn’t try to hide his grief.
He didn’t pretend he was fine.
He didn’t push his emotions away.

He brought his brokenness fully into the presence of God.

And that’s where healing began.

Grief after abortion can feel complicated—just like David’s grief was.

There may be sorrow mixed with regret.
Questions mixed with silence.
Feelings that don’t seem to fit into neat categories.

But David’s story shows us something important:

God is not repelled by your grief—He draws near to it.

You don’t have to have the “right words.”
You don’t have to sort out every emotion first.

Like David, you can come as you are—honest, broken, unsure—and still be met with compassion.

Grief is not something to rush past.

It’s something to bring into the light—gently, honestly, and at your own pace.

And sometimes, healing deepens when you’re walking through that grief with women who have walked that road and now experience the healing that is available to you.

Being in a space where others understand—where you don’t have to explain or hide—can make a meaningful difference. Post-abortion support groups, like those at My Ashes to Beauty, are created to offer that kind of safe, compassionate environment. We invite you to join us on a conference call, a safe place where you can speak honestly about your abortion, in an understanding and loving environment.

David didn’t heal by ignoring his pain.

He healed by bringing it to God—and allowing himself to be seen in it.

You can do the same.

Your thoughts:
If you’re dealing with grief right now and would like to be as honest as David was about his grief, what would you say to God about your grief right now?

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are loved,
Toni

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You’re Not Alone: The Silent Struggle After Abortion

You’re Not Alone: The Silent Struggle After Abortion

You’re Not Alone: The Silent Struggle After Abortion

By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools

Scripture: Psalm 147:3

There are experiences many women carry quietly—tucked deep into the hidden places of their hearts. Abortion is often one of them.

On the outside, life may appear normal. Smiles, responsibilities, routines. But underneath, there can be a swirl of emotions that feel confusing, heavy, and isolating. Thoughts that go unspoken. Questions that feel too complicated—or too painful—to share.

If this is part of your story, you need to hear this: You are not alone.

Many women walk this road, even if it doesn’t look like it from the outside. The silence surrounding abortion can make it feel like you’re the only one struggling—but that silence is often shared by countless others who simply don’t know how to begin the conversation.

Silence can be heavy.
It can convince you that your feelings don’t matter.
It can whisper that no one would understand.

But the truth is, your experience matters. Your emotions matter. You matter.

Healing often begins with one simple, brave step: acknowledging what’s real.

That doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone your story. It doesn’t mean rushing into conversations before you’re ready. But it might look like being honest—with yourself. Naming what you feel. Allowing space for your story to exist without pushing it away.

Post-abortion creates several emotions and stages. Some women feel relief. Others feel grief. Many feel both at the same time. But emotions may shift over time, appearing months or even years later.

Whatever you’re feeling, it’s valid. And you don’t have to carry it alone forever. You deserve support that meets you with compassion, not judgment. This may be a chapter of your story—but it is not the whole story.

God has a wonderful plan for your life, and He has people who can help you move forward. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

There is more ahead. There is healing ahead. And there are others who understand more than you think.

There are safe places. Safe people. Gentle paths toward healing.

For some, that looks like opening up to a trusted friend or counselor. For others, it may mean connecting with women who truly understand this specific journey.

If you’ve been longing for that kind of space, there are communities created just for this purpose—like the post-abortion support group at My Ashes to Beauty, where women can begin to heal in a safe, compassionate environment.

You don’t have to take a big step today.
Just a small one toward connection here.

Your thoughts:
What is one feeling you’ve been carrying silently that you can begin to acknowledge today?

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are loved,
Toni

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