Hidden Grief
Hidden Grief
By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools
Scriptures: Psalm 34:18 and Psalm 51:17
Grief has a way of showing up quietly. Not always in ways others can see—but deeply, intensely, within.
In Scripture, we see this kind of grief in the life of David.
David wasn’t a stranger to sorrow. He experienced loss, regret, and deep emotional pain. In one of the most difficult seasons of his life, after his own failure and its consequences, David found himself overwhelmed with grief.
And he didn’t hide it from God.
In Psalm 34:18, he later writes:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
That wasn’t just a comforting idea—it was something David lived.
David understood what it meant to feel brokenhearted, to carry sorrow that others may not fully understand, and to wrestle with both grief and the weight of his own choices.
And yet—he brought all of it to God.
In another moment of honesty, David writes:
“My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.” (Psalm 51:17)
David didn’t try to hide his grief.
He didn’t pretend he was fine.
He didn’t push his emotions away.
He brought his brokenness fully into the presence of God.
And that’s where healing began.
Grief after abortion can feel complicated—just like David’s grief was.
There may be sorrow mixed with regret.
Questions mixed with silence.
Feelings that don’t seem to fit into neat categories.
But David’s story shows us something important:
God is not repelled by your grief—He draws near to it.
You don’t have to have the “right words.”
You don’t have to sort out every emotion first.
Like David, you can come as you are—honest, broken, unsure—and still be met with compassion.
Grief is not something to rush past.
It’s something to bring into the light—gently, honestly, and at your own pace.
And sometimes, healing deepens when you’re walking through that grief with women who have walked that road and now experience the healing that is available to you.
Being in a space where others understand—where you don’t have to explain or hide—can make a meaningful difference. Post-abortion support groups, like those at My Ashes to Beauty, are created to offer that kind of safe, compassionate environment. We invite you to join us on a conference call, a safe place where you can speak honestly about your abortion, in an understanding and loving environment.
David didn’t heal by ignoring his pain.
He healed by bringing it to God—and allowing himself to be seen in it.
You can do the same.
Your thoughts:
If you’re dealing with grief right now and would like to be as honest as David was about his grief, what would you say to God about your grief right now?
Please reach out if you would like to talk this week: toni@myashestobeauty.com.
You are loved,
Toni
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