secrets

secrets

SECRETS

by Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools
Références bibliques: John 8:31–32, 36

John 8:31–32, 36
Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

“Therefore, if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.”

 

YOU’RE ONLY AS SICK AS YOUR SECRETS

You may have heard the familiar recovery term, “You’re only as sick as your secrets," and it is a true statement. Until we feel safe to share our secrets, we keep them locked up in a type of “Pandora’s Box,” where we keep all of our deepest and darkest secrets hidden, because we fear them coming out to expose the ugly truth.

For the post–abortion woman, it is the truth that we terminated the life of our child. This horrible secret was our child. For those of us who have been abused, our fears of retaliation, rejection and judgment keep us silent. Where can we go to share in a safe place?

God doesn’t want us operating in secrets because He knows how destructive isolation and secrets are. I started secrets when I was 12 ans, hiding my drinking. Then it was getting high at 13, then sex at 16, and the worst offense was my abortion at 21.

My secrets and sins were piling up, and it became harder and harder to keep them from coming out. I feared my parents’ reaction, punishment and disappointment in me. I knew all of this was wrong, but I kept those secrets until I was 50 ans.

They had no idea about my destructive, coupable, sorted past because I wore a great mask. It was not an easy conversation, but I wanted them to hear it from me because I was starting this ministry and I didn’t want them to find out from another source. It needed to come from me. I felt a great release when I was finally able to share this with my parents.

WHY ARE SECRETS DESTRUCTIVE?

D'abord, secrets keep us isolated from God and others, and that’s exactly where the enemy wants us. He wants us isolated and hiding because then he can torment us over and over again, until we realize what’s going on. Secrets keep us from the very people that can help us.

Second, the dysfunction is perpetuated and will continue as long as we nurture this thing, and protect it, like it was some prized possession. The secret needs to be exposed and brought into the light.

Third, secrets can hinder or prevent healing in our lives. Because of the abuse many of us have experienced in our past, we are already fearful of exposure, et we think this secret is a way to keep us safe. But actually it is causing us to stay sick. God gives us the courage to step out of isolation and secrets so we can be healed.

Fourth, secrets are destructive because they distort our view of reality, and we feel like we are all alone. Secrets are usually combined with lies that we believe about ourselves, Dieu, ou d'autres. God’s Word and the Holy Spirit help us to know the truth so we can walk in it and so these secrets and lies can no longer hold us back from becoming the women God created us to be.

God wants us free from bondage. Secrets keep us in chains and in darkness.

Jésus cunme to set the captives free.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. What secrets are you still holding onto?
  2. Why are you fearful to share them? Is it fear of retribution, fear of rejection, fear of hurting another person, fear of abandonment, or fear of judgment?
  3. When did you have the courage to share your secrets?
  4. How did you feel after you shared your secrets?
  5. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

Please be aware that even in Church, there are some people who are emotionally unsafe to share secrets with. Make sure it is a person/group you trust.

I pray you have the courage to trust God and allow Him to show you the areas of your life that need healing. Trust Him with your secrets.

If you need help, please reach out to me. M.y email is: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Tu es aimé,
Toni

 

 

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Prière pour le réveil

Prière pour le réveil

Prière pour le réveil
by Toni Weisz/Spiritual Discipline

Références bibliques: Psaume 51:1–17, Psaume 139:23–24,
2 Timothy 2:21, James 5:16, et Éphésiens 4:29–31

Lire le Psaume 51:1–17

Dans Février 1970, revival broke out at Asbury College in Wilmore, Kentucky.

On Wednesday, Février 8, 2023 (53 années later almost to the day), revival again broke out on the campus at Ashbury University in Wilmore, Kentucky. UNEfter chapel service, some students lingered for spontaneous worship, prayer, and confession. The revival continued for many days and spread to other universities, and many people traveled from all over the world to experience God in that place.

PRAYER & SCRIPTURE

We are hungry for Ouiou, Seigneur. Just like in 1970, there was much turmoil in the world, the Vietnam War, protests, bad economy, high gas prices, inflation, and chaos all around, not much different today in our world. People are hurting. They are confused et fearful about what the future will bring. But our hope is in You, Seigneur. Only You know it all, see it all, and control it all.

We humble ourselves before you today and ask Your Holy Spirit to help us. We cry out as David did in the Psalms.

Psaume 139:23–24
Search us, O God, and know our hearts. Try us, and know our thoughts and see if there be any wicked way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting.

Lord God, remove any blindness that may be keeping us from repenting of sin in our lives.

2 Timothy 2:21
Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from these things, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work.

We want to be clean vessels sanctified and useful in your kingdom work. Purify us by the Word of God and the working of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

Father God, we are expecting You to move mightily to heal the brokenhearted and to heal all our wounds. We are waiting for you to heal us and our families from disease and demonic oppression, in the name of Jesus, nous prions.

We are praying for our family members, friends, and neighbors who do not know Ouiou yet, that Your Holy Spirit will break their hearts of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Have mercy upon them, O Lord. We are crying out to You for revival in our own hearts, our homes, our neighborhood, our state, our nation, and the world. Viens, Holy Spirit, and have Your will and Your way in us today.

We are surrendering all to You today. We are asking, seeking, and knocking on the door. Let revival continue right here and right now in us.

In the powerful name of Jesus, nous prions, amen.

James 5:16
Confess your faults one to another and pray one for another that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Éphésiens 4:29-31
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, mais ce qui est bon pour l'édification nécessaire, qu'il puisse donner la grâce aux auditeurs. Et n'attristez pas le Saint-Esprit de Dieu, par qui tu as été scellé pour le jour de la rédemption. Laisse toute amertume, colère, colère, clameur, et que les mauvaises paroles soient éloignées de toi, de toute malveillance. And be kind to one another, tendre, se pardonner les uns les autres, even as God in Christ forgave you.

 

Preparation for Revival:

  1. Is there someone who you are harboring unforgiveness toward for something they did or did not do?

Would you like to confess that right now?

 

  1. Are you willfully going against what you know is right?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Is there something that you are unknowingly doing that is not honoring to God? Ask the Lord to show you so you can repent.

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Are you angry with God because you are really struggling with loneliness, depression, loss of job, health issues, a relationship, and God is not moving fast enough and you are really suffering?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

Please reach out if you need prayer or encouragement. Ouiou can email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Tu es aimé,

Toni

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La volonté « parfaite » de Dieu

La volonté « parfaite » de Dieu

La volonté « parfaite » de Dieu

by Luci Boudreaux/Spiritual Insights
Juin 4, 2023
Écritures: John 14:23 and Colossians 1:9b–12

 

John 14:23 (NKJV)
“Jesus answered him, ‘If anyone loves me, he will keep my word; and my Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.’”

Col 1:9b–12 (NIV)
“We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.”

 

Before I met Jesus at 25, I had lived a hard life. I carried a lot of baggage because of others who had harmed me, both physically and emotionally. And because of my damaged self-image, I made a lot of poor choices. I abused alcohol and drugs and became promiscuous after being raped at age 12. As a single woman at 24, I got pregnant. Then I added injury to the pain and confusion by aborting my precious child.

As Jesus entered my life, He began to open my eyes and show me a love that I had never experienced. There was acceptance and a desire to know and be known, without fear of rejection. I knew I was safe, and this is when I began to open up to receive God’s will for my life.

Early on in my faith, I thought that God was in the business of answering “reasonable” prayers just because I prayed them. After all, I was His beloved daughter, and I knew He wanted to bless me. I strongly desired a godly husband and children, a smooth path to a vibrant ministry where I could share my faith and help other women who had been wounded, and to have no conflict with other members in the church.

I didn’t marry until I was 43, have no living biological children, didn’t establish a “vibrant” ministry (not how I imagined) and have had conflict with other members of the body of Christ. God hasn’t answered my prayers the way I desired. He did so much more! He answered them according to His perfect wisdom. Alors, I was able to grow closer to Him, and He has been glorified in my life.

As I grow in my faith, I am coming to understand that God’s perfect will is not always Him answering prayers according to my desires and my limited perspective. I am learning that His perfect will comes about when, in humility, I surrender. It’s key to a fulfilling relationship with Him. I had to come to the place where I wanted to fully surrender to God and be in an intimate relationship with Him, more than having any of my prayers answered, whatever that looks like.

 

Des questions:

 

  1. Have you surrendered your will to God? Sinon, why? What are you afraid of?
  1. Are you in God’s will right now? If so, what does that look like?
  1. How do you respond to detours and unanswered prayers?
  1. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

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Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes

Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes

Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes
par Toni Weisz/Outils de récupération

Romains 3:23, John 16:8, Philippiens 4:13, Matthieu 7:7-8, et Psaume 147:3

Nous avons tous grandi dans des foyers dysfonctionnels parce que nous sommes tous nés dans le péché et avons une nature pécheresse. La Bible dit, « Car tous ont péché et sont privés de la gloire de Dieu. » (Romains 3:23). Certains d'entre nous ont connu une extrême négligence, abuser de, abandon, et le rejet. Cela a provoqué une blessure profonde dans nos âmes et une perception déformée de l'amour.. A cause de ce traumatisme, nous ne faisons pas confiance aux autres et avons peur qu’ils s’approchent trop près; nous ne voulons plus être blessés. Pour cette raison, il est difficile de croire que Dieu ne nous fera pas de mal non plus. De nombreuses femmes ont du mal à développer une relation intime avec Dieu, notre Père céleste, parce qu'ils n'avaient pas de bonnes relations avec leur père terrestre.

Peu importe ce que nous avons vécu dans nos vies, nous sommes toujours responsables de réparer, en bonne santé, décisions pieuses. C’est le Saint-Esprit en nous qui nous conduit à marcher dans la vérité et nous convainc de péché., droiture, et jugement (Lire Jean 16:8). Nous avons la capacité, grâce à l'aide du Saint-Esprit, de arrêt le cycle de dysfonctionnement provenant de notre pays d’origine ou les traumatismes que nous avons vécus ailleurs.

Nous pouvons faire de bons choix. Nous ne sommes pas obligés de réagir aux choses sans nous arrêter, prier, et y réfléchir. Nous contrôlons nos pensées et nos actions. En fait, C'est le seulement chose sur laquelle nous avons le contrôle. Nous devons prendre la décision consciente de ne pas perpétuer ce dysfonctionnement et de le transmettre à nos enfants et aux générations futures.. La seule façon d'y parvenir est de:

1. Avoir une relation avec Jésus.

2. Obtenir de l'aide soit par le biais de conseils chrétiens et/ou de réunions de rétablissement, et lire des livres utiles.

3. Avoir des responsabilités : une personne ou une communauté sûre pour vous aider à continuer à travailler sur vous-même.

Des questions:

  1. Sur quels domaines avez-vous dû travailler à la suite d'un traumatisme passé?
    Toni:     Le rejet a été une énorme blessure pour moi. Faire également confiance aux autres pour ne pas contrôler, manipuler, et m'utiliser en était une autre. J'ai dû apprendre à utiliser ma voix et à imposer des limites saines pour me protéger. J'ai dû apprendre la maîtrise de soi parce que j'étais un volcan ambulant, rempli de rage. J'ai appris pourquoi j'étais si en colère et j'ai accepté cela. Dieu m'a guéri dans tous ces domaines parce que j'étais prêt à le laisser entrer et à me guérir..
  2. Quels sont les domaines sur lesquels vous devez encore travailler?
    Toni: J'ai eu du mal avec la codépendance, alors j'ai commencé à lire le livre, Plus de codépendance, par Suellen McDolly. Cela m'a été très utile de m'arrêter et de vérifier ma motivation pour faire les choses que je faisais.. Je veux toujours être prêt à travailler sur moi-même. Quand je suis déclenché par quelque chose, Je demande à Dieu de me montrer ce qui se passe réellement. J'ai l'habitude de tenir un journal lorsque cela se produit parce que j'ai besoin de l'entendre dans un endroit où/quand je suis prêt à l'écouter..

Notre guérison est un processus qui dure toute la vie, mais si Dieu est impliqué, nous serons victorieux. Nous pouvons tout faire par le Christ qui nous fortifie (Lire Philippiens 4:13). Si vous commencez tout juste votre parcours de guérison, continue de demander à Dieu de t'aider, continue de le chercher de tout ton cœur, et continuez à frapper à la porte pour plus de perspicacité et de sagesse divine (Lire Matthieu 7:7-8). Dieu est fidèle, et Il veut panser ton cœur brisé et guérir tes blessures (Lire le Psaume 147:3).

Je prie pour que cela soit utile. S'il vous plaît tendre la main; nous sommes là pour vous aider et prier pour vous.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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Ma vie serait à jamais changée (Partie 6): Le dernier chapitre

April’s Story

My Life Would be Forever Changed (Partie 6)
Le dernier chapitre

In July 1997, I accepted the Lord into my life. I felt like I was a new person. I was alive in Christ. The same year I accepted the Lord into my life, I met my husband, and we were married three years later. I got pregnant right away, but sadly, lost the baby. This was ten years after my abortion. Of course, I thought God was punishing me. But I soon learned that it wasn’t God. It was actually my body holding onto the pain of the past. During that time, I had a lot of anxiety and fear in my heart. I knew God was near, but I didn’t really believe it. I was afraid in my own home and scared to drive my car on the freeway. I asked myself how I could possibly raise a baby with this hurt still inside me. I was holding onto everything. I walked around with a smile on, but deep down I was hurting.

Soon after this pregnancy, I became pregnant again. Alors, in 2002, we had our first child! Our second child followed a few years later in 2005. Malheureusement, right after the birth of our second child, I became really crazy about germs. I couldn’t do it; I felt helpless in my own body. I was so afraid I was going to die. I started to search my heart, and I realized that I was afraid of death for our children. Why was I afraid of death? Because I had faced death myself as a child. Later, I found out that death has NO sting!!!

Aujourd'hui, I have the honor and privilege of walking women through their abortion stories as well as mentoring women that have been through trauma, including sexual abuse. I get to see women be set free from the pain of their past and walk in their newfound freedom in Christ. My goal is to help lead women to freedom from the bondage that has been holding them back.

I now hold a Mental Health Coaching Certificate, and I am working on getting a Christian Counseling Certificate. I have been through the Making Life Disciples course and some trauma classes through church. But one of my favorite accomplishments to date is that I’ve completed one year of Bible College to be able to minister the Word to those who are lost and hurting. #SetFree

I share my whole story to tell you that our God is good, no matter what our circumstances. When I was around drugs and alcohol throughout my life, God was good. When I was kidnapped and raped at 12, God was good. When I had an abortion, God was good. When I was living in sin, God was good. When I felt shame, culpabilité, or fear, God was right there. When I was afraid, God was revealed. When death was around me, God saved me. When I was hopeless, God was full of hope for me. God is forgiveness and my help. What would I do without my Father? He saved me, forgave me, and redeemed me. It was only recently that I discovered that God has been with me all along. He has been pursuing me and chasing me since the day I was born.

I believe that Jesus takes all the hurt on Himself. I believe that I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I believe I am reconciled to Him. Merci, Jésus, that the old is gone and the new has come. Merci, Jésus, that I am highly favored and deeply loved. Thank you that I am a called out, separated person for God’s Kingdom work. Merci, Jésus, I am a New Creation. Merci, Jésus, for Your Amazing Grace!!!

 

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