Bien-être mental et relation avec Jésus le guérisseur

Bien-être mental et relation avec Jésus le guérisseur

Mental Wellness and a Relationship with Jesus the Healer

Par Toni Weisz/Disciplines spirituelles

Écritures: Matthieu 11:28 (NIV)
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

In the journey of mental wellness, many people are searching for more than coping strategies—they are searching for true, lasting peace. For those navigating the emotional aftermath of trauma, including abortion or abuse, healing often requires both practical support and spiritual restoration. A relationship with Jesus as Healer offers a powerful source of comfort, renewal, and stability for the mind.

Understanding Mental Wellness After Trauma

Mental wellness after trauma involves caring for your thoughts, emotions, and overall psychological health. Trauma can leave lasting imprints—such as anxiety, intrusive thoughts, depression, or feelings of guilt and shame. These mental patterns can feel overwhelming, especially when they persist over time.

Mental wellness is not about ignoring these struggles. It’s about learning how to respond to them in healthy ways—developing awareness, building resilience, and creating new thought patterns that support healing. This is where both intentional habits and spiritual connection become essential.

Jesus the Healer and the Mind

A relationship with Jesus is not only spiritual—it deeply impacts mental and emotional health. Throughout Scripture, Jesus is shown as a healer of the whole person—body, mind, and heart. He meets people in their brokenness and brings restoration, not condemnation.

When the mind is burdened with anxiety, culpabilité, or pain, turning to Jesus can bring a sense of peace that goes beyond circumstances. His presence offers rest for overwhelmed thoughts and comfort in moments of emotional distress. Pour beaucoup, this relationship becomes an anchor during seasons of mental instability.

Renewing the Mind Through Faith

One of the most powerful aspects of mental wellness and faith is the concept of renewing the mind. Trauma often plants negative beliefs—about self-worth, safety, or identity. These beliefs can become deeply ingrained.

Through a relationship with Jesus, those thoughts can begin to shift. Replacing lies with truth—such as moving from “I am broken” to “I am being restored”—is a key part of healing. This process takes time, but it creates lasting mental and emotional change.

Spending time in prayer, reading Scripture, or sitting in quiet reflection allows truth to take root and reshape how you think and feel.

Practical Ways to Strengthen Mental Wellness

While faith is foundational, daily practices also play an important role in supporting mental health. Combining both creates a balanced approach to healing:

  • Prayer and Quiet Time: Helps calm anxious thoughts and create mental clarity
  • Journaling: Allows you to process emotions and track your healing journey
  • Community Support: Encourages connection and reduces isolation
  • Healthy Boundaries: Protects your mental and emotional space

These habits, paired with faith, help build consistency and strength in your mental wellness journey.

Healing from Guilt, Shame, and Emotional Pain

For those walking through post-abortion and/or abuse recovery, mental struggles often center around guilt, la honte, or self-blame. These emotions can be deeply rooted and difficult to release.

This is where Jesus as Healer becomes especially significant. His message is one of forgiveness, grace, and new beginnings. Bringing your pain honestly before Him—without hiding—creates space for healing to begin. Instead of carrying the weight alone, you are invited to release it and receive peace.

Moving Forward with Hope and Healing

Mental wellness and a relationship with Jesus work together to create a path toward wholeness. Healing is always not instant, and it’s not always easy—but it is possible. Each day is an opportunity to take a step forward, to think a little differently, and to experience a little more peace.

If you are on this journey, know that you don’t have to navigate it alone. Jesus meets you where you are—in the middle of the struggle—and walks with you toward healing. With time, intentional care, and faith, your mind can find rest, your heart can find peace, and your life can move forward with renewed hope.

Being in a space where others understand—where you don’t have to explain or hide—can make a meaningful difference. Post-abortion and abuse recovery support groups, like those at Mes cendres à la beauté, are created to offer that kind of safe, compassionate environment. We invite you to join us on a conference call, a safe place where you can speak honestly about your abortion or abuse, in an understanding and loving environment.

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Here for you,

Toni

 

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Les pièges du diable (Séries): Veille

Les pièges du diable (Séries): Veille

Les pièges du diable: EVE

A Series Taken from Dr. Charles Stanley

Écritures: Genèse 2:16-17 et 3:1-9

Genèse 2:16-17
And the Lord commanded the man, adage, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.”

Genèse 3:1–9
Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?" And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’” Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?"

The enemy tries to take our attention off of God and focus on the one thing we don’t have. For Eve, it is the fruit she cannot eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. The serpent has been observing Eve for a while. He cannot read her mind, but he watches for her reactions and her behavior patterns. He sees her approaching the tree and looking at the beautiful fruit. She is perhaps thinking, "I wonder why God is keeping this from me. God is holding back something good from me. It’s because He doesn’t really love and care about me. If He did, He would let me have this fruit.”

For those of us who have children or have spent any time with children, we understand that children do not know what is best for them. They would eat junk food all day and watch TV and play video games all night. As adults, we know that is not a healthy way to live. We love them. Alors, we teach them and put up boundaries so they learn to make healthy choices. We do this because we care about their well-being and their future. God loves us too and wanted to protect Adam, Veille, and the whole world from the destructive effects of sin. That’s why He told them not to eat of the fruit.

We see in Scripture that Eve has a conversation with Satan the serpent. That was her first mistake. Do not have a dialogue with the enemy. Do not even entertain his thoughts because he is more cunning than you know. We cannot reason or trust the enemy to lead us to do anything that would benefit us in any way. His ways always lead to death and destruction. That’s why knowing the Word of God is so important. When the enemy lies to you, you will know the truth and you will not fall into temptation or sin.

The second thing we see is Satan causing Eve to doubt God’s Word.

God said, “You shall not eat it: for in the day that you eat of it, you shall surely die.” (Genèse 2:17)

But Satan said, “You shall ne pas surely die, for God knows that in the day you eat of it, your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

Becoming like “god” was all Eve needed to hear. Pride will destroy a godly person faster than anything else. I can be my own “god.” I can do whatever I want. I am in charge of my life. I don’t need God. I took that approach when I had my abortion because I thought I knew better. I wanted to be in control of my life. I am my own “god.” Look what that did for me and my dear son. He died as a result of my decision. Consequently, I was plunged headlong into deep despair, depression, self-loathing and suicidal thoughts. Don’t listen to Satan. He will destroy you. Only God’s way leads to life, peace, joie, and true freedom.

Alors, where was Adam when this was all happening? When Eve took of the fruit and ate it, Adam should have said, “What are you doing? God told us not to eat it.” But the Scriptures say that Eve gave it to her husband, and he ate. Then their eyes were opened, and they knew they were naked. Puis, they sewed fig leaves together to cover up their nakedness and their sin. je, aussi, have done that in my life. I rushed to hide my sin never thinking about the consequences. Those decisions have never led to good outcomes for me. The fear of being unmasked is a powerful motivator. My false persona of being the good quiet one was in danger of exposure. Par conséquent, I rushed my decision to have an abortion. In my mind, there were no other alternatives. Hurry up and take care of it, or do this before someone finds out that the good quiet one in the family is a phony. My whole life had become a lie.

God calls out to Adam, “Where are you?" God knew where Adam and Eve were. He wanted to give them a chance to come out of hiding and confess their sin. toutefois, they didn’t. We hide from God too. We isolate ourselves as Christians. We stop going to church or stop being accountable to people when we sin because it’s easier. Then we wake up one morning and say, “How did I get here?” It happens very quickly, my friends. It’s important to confess sin daily to God and to stay in a close Christian community like this group where there is accountability. Each one of us is just one step away from falling into grievous sin. Stay close to God, read His Word, memorize Scripture, and stay in community with other believers, and when you feel like isolating do the opposite and reach out for prayer. If you do this, you will be protected from the lies and the fiery darts of the enemy.

Keep your focus on God alone, and you will be safe.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. What things have you done in your past you knew were wrong but you did them anyway?
  2. How did you feel when you were sneaking around?
  3. How did you feel when you got caught?
  4. Are there still sins that you are hiding now?
  5. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

Je prie ce sujet qui vous a été utile. Veuillez nous contacter si vous avez besoin de parler: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

 

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Comment Dieu a-t-il utilisé votre douleur?

Comment Dieu a-t-il utilisé votre douleur?

(2 Corinthiens 1:3-5)

Quand je suis venu à Christ à l'âge de 34, Je souffrais d'une grave dépression, douleur physique dans mes articulations et fatigue. J'ai demandé des réponses à plusieurs médecins, mais ils n'ont rien trouvé. Mes résultats de tests, Analyses CAT, MRIs and blood work all came back normal. I was perplexed. What is wrong with me? I now realize that my mental, emotional and health struggles were God’s way of getting my attention. Because of how poorly I felt, I couldn’t participate in my regular activities. It was during this time of suffering that God began drawing me to Himself.

How has God used suffering in your life to get your attention? In my case, God used my pain, weakness, fatigue and depression. God knows exactly how to reach all of us so that we turn to and focus on Him. God has always used my physical health issues to remind me to lean on Him. He uses suffering so that first, we will realize how much we need Him in our life and secondly, what kind of changes we need to make.

When I had the courage to trust God and finally wanted more than mere survival, God met me right where I was. God used my distress to bring me to Him. Even during my period of pain, God used me to help others. When I followed His lead by reaching out to those in need, I received even more healing for myself. Dans 2 Corinthiens 1:3-5, God’s Word says, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted of God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.” (ESV) God never wastes our suffering. It is all for a specific purpose. Some of you dear ones have suffered for a long time, and my heart goes out to you. It can seem very lonely at times, but God sees you. He loves you and has a purpose for your pain.

Christ suffered a horrific death on the cross for us. He also endured torture having been scourged, beaten, slapped, hit with rods and pierced in his skull with a crown of thorns. If anyone is acquainted with anguish and pain, it is Jesus. Come to Jesus just as you are, and He will give you comfort. Only He can carry you when you can’t take another step. He is the only one who will never leave you. He will not abuse you or take advantage of you. His love is pure, holy, just and life-affirming. His ways lead to true freedom and healing.

How has God used suffering in your life?

What is God showing you?

One day, beloved, we will be in glory in a place called Heaven where there is no more pain, sorrow or crying—a place where we will be embraced by the peace and love of Jesus.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

 

 

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Mes mécanismes d'adaptation malsains

Mes mécanismes d'adaptation malsains

Les mécanismes d'adaptation sont définis comme des techniques que nous utilisons pour nous aider à gérer le stress et la douleur dans notre vie.. Les mécanismes d'adaptation courants sont évitement et isolement, le déni, activité, rationalisation et contrôle. De mon enfance, J'ai appris évitement et isolement pour me protéger des personnes ou des situations malsaines. Courir et me cacher sont devenus ma réaction habituelle face aux problèmes lorsque j'étais petit enfant.. À l'âge adulte, J'ai continué à utiliser ces tactiques jusqu'à ce que je commence mon parcours de rétablissement et que j'apprenne de nouveaux mécanismes d'adaptation sains.. Louons Dieu! Au lieu d'éviter, Dieu m'a donné une voix, et j'ai appris à communiquer mes goûts et mes dégoûts. Je n'ai jamais développé une voix en grandissant. toutefois, une fois que j'ai mis des limites, utiliser ma voix était nécessaire pour communiquer ces limites aux autres. Au fur et à mesure que le temps passait, Je me sentais plus à l'aise de partager mon cœur avec les autres sans craindre le rejet. Dieu m'a aussi dit d'arrêter de courir et de me cacher et de lui laisser le résultat..

J'avais d'énormes angles morts en tant que femme après un avortement en ce qui concerne mon rôle parental. Concernant mes enfants, Je suis devenu extrêmement sensible et surprotecteur. J'ai été parent par peur. Je ne voulais pas qu'ils ressentent la douleur que j'avais ressentie. Je pensais que si je pouvais les contrôler, peut-être que je pourrais les empêcher de vivre ce que j'ai fait. À présent, Je sais que c'était une erreur de penser. j'étais dedans le déni jusqu'à ce que je réalise deux choses: Je ne peux pas contrôler une autre personne, et faire quoi que ce soit par peur ne donne jamais de bons résultats. Alors, J'ai appris à m'excuser auprès de mes enfants pour ma parentalité surprotectrice, laissant Dieu tout-puissant changer le cœur des autres.. Quand je me sens impuissant, Je me souviens d'abandonner le contrôle à Dieu pour créer un changement chez les autres ou dans les situations. Je vivais dans le déni à cause de ma peur du rejet de mes parents et de mon conjoint.. Par conséquent, J'ai obéi à des règles ridicules pour être accepté et aimé des autres. Honnêtement, ça n'a jamais fonctionné. Quand j'ai finalement reçu l'amour de Jésus dans mon cœur, J'ai eu le courage de me débrouiller seule sans craindre d'être rejetée parce que je savais que Dieu ne me quitterait jamais ni ne m'abandonnerait..

Occupé C'était un outil que l'ennemi a utilisé pendant de nombreuses années pour que je n'aie pas le temps de reconnaître ma vie dysfonctionnelle et de travailler sur moi-même.. Dans l'année 2010, Dieu m'a dit d'arrêter de servir. Je ne pouvais pas croire qu'il voulait que je fasse ça. Que penseront les autres? Poser cette question m'a conduit directement à la réponse :tu dois travailler sur toi parce que tu es un chiot malade. J'ai répondu par obéissance et j'ai pris le temps de travailler sur ma propre guérison 2010-2012. Pendant ce temps, Dieu m'a emmené dans un endroit désert avec Lui afin qu'Il puisse dissiper tous les mensonges auxquels j'avais cru. En se concentrant sur Sa vérité, Je pourrais être guéri et enfin libéré. Bien que Dieu m'ait appelé à ce ministère en 2006, Il a finalement pu m'équiper une fois que j'ai ralenti et que je me suis concentré uniquement sur Lui..

j'avais rationalisé mon avortement parce que je croyais que puisque je prenais tellement de drogues lourdes et que je buvais en fumant 2 paquets de cigarettes par jour, mon bébé serait gravement déformé. Je sentais que mes parents me rejetteraient et seraient extrêmement déçus de moi. Mais en y repensant 40 années, J'aurais aimé avoir le courage de leur dire que j'ai fait une erreur et de leur demander de l'aide. Je ne peux pas changer mon passé. Tout ce que je peux faire, c'est en tirer des leçons et partager mon expérience, force et espoir avec les autres. Avec un peu de chance, ceux que je contacte avec mon témoignage peuvent faire des choix sains en connaissant toutes les informations à l'avance.

Contrôle était un autre outil que j'ai appris à utiliser très jeune. Je croyais honnêtement que je pouvais contrôler ce que ressentaient les autres et ce qu'ils pensaient afin de déterminer l'issue d'une situation.. Tout cela n'était qu'un mensonge. Je n'avais aucun contrôle sur aucune de ces choses. J'ai essayé de contrôler la façon dont les gens réagissaient et se comportaient envers moi. J'ai essayé de contrôler ce que les autres voyaient en moi en me cachant derrière un masque. J'ai également essayé de contrôler mon poids en prenant des pilules amaigrissantes et des pilules amaigrissantes et en me purgeant après avoir trop mangé.. Dieu m'a montré qu'en lui cédant le contrôle, Je peux être libéré de ces obsessions et de cet esclavage.

Je suis tellement reconnaissante d'avoir aujourd'hui été libérée de tous mes mécanismes d'adaptation malsains.. J'ai acquis de nouvelles compétences pour m'aider à faire face à la douleur et aux traumatismes de mon passé. J'ai dû complètement abandonner tout et tout le monde à Dieu. Je ne tenais plus si fort mes enfants. Je ne me souciais plus de ce que les autres pensaient de moi. Je n'ai pas obéi à des règles ridicules par peur d'être rejeté. J'avais maintenant une voix, et Dieu m'a appris à l'utiliser pour exprimer mes sentiments de manière saine., voie divine. Je ne suis plus esclave de mes anciennes pensées et de mes anciens comportements.. Dans les Romains 12:2, la Bible dit : « Ne vous conformez pas à ce monde mais laissez-vous transformer par le renouvellement de votre esprit… » Le temps quotidien passé avec Dieu dans sa Parole et l'écoute du Saint-Esprit m'ont aidé à sortir du chaos., dysfonctionnement et de la misère dans un monde paisible, une vie ordonnée et épanouissante.

Quelles choses malsaines avez-vous utilisées pour vous aider à faire face au traumatisme de votre passé?

Quelles sont les façons saines dont vous faites face aux choses maintenant?

Contactez-nous et obtenez l'aide et les encouragements dont vous avez besoin. Nous sommes ici prêts et attendant de vous servir et de vous aider à devenir la femme pour laquelle Dieu vous a créé..

Bénédictions,

Toni

 

 

 

—Toni

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Fuir Dieu

Fuir Dieu

Running From God

par Toni Weisz/Disciplines spirituelles

Écritures: Jonah Chapters 1 & 2, John 8:44, 10:10, Jérémie 29:11, et les romains 8:28

When Jonah decided to go against God’s plan for him, he took a ship to Tarshish, in the opposite direction from Nineveh, to flee from the presence of God. God continued to pursue Jonah, but it was impossible for Jonah to get away from God.

God sent a great wind and a mighty tempest so that the ship was almost broken (Jonah 1:4). Even the mariners, men who were used to the sea and storms, were afraid, but they knew this one was different. Jonah tells the mariners that he is a Hebrew and that he fears the Lord, the God of heaven, and he tells them to throw him overboard so that the sea would become calm (Jonah 1:8-12). The mariners were exceedingly fearful, but God, in His mercy, prepared a great fish to swallow up Jonah, and he stayed in the belly of the fish for 3 days and 3 nights. God had to isolate Jonah to get his attention, and finally, he cried out to God (Jonah 2). God rescued him, and Jonah did go to Nineveh, and all were saved.

When I think back on my abortion, I see that I too was fleeing from God. I isolated myself from Him and my family. I allowed the enemy to lie to me and tell me, “Your parents will never accept you and the baby; it’s a big mistake. Take care of it now before anyone finds out.”

I had a fear of authority figures at home and in the church. At the Christian School I attended, I saw students hit with rulers if they disobeyed the rules. So naturally, I assumed God was like that. The church we attended was dark, froid, and they spoke in Latin. I didn’t see God’s love there, only harsh treatment for the smallest offenses. I thought God was angry and was ready to hit me over the head with a hammer if I sinned. It’s so sad how the evil one used my perceptions as a child to keep me away from the only one who could have saved me and my son.

We are in a spiritual battle against the devil. He is the father of lies, and his purpose is to steal, kill, and destroy. When we are young and vulnerable, he isolates us and lies to us about the very character of God. Alors, when we find ourselves in trouble, we don’t go to God; but instead we follow Satan, and for many of us, it’s to the abortion clinic.

God had pursued me also, like He did with Jonah. He gave me a way to escape my abortion. The first time I went for my abortion, I was partying the night before. I was hung over and needed food, so I stopped at a place to eat on the way to the clinic. But when I got to the clinic, they said I could not have the abortion because I ate. When I think back to that day, I drove myself and was all alone. What was I thinking? That’s the point; I wasn’t thinking clearly, at all. Whenever I have made decisions based on fear, they have never been good ones. But I didn’t allow this bump in the road to stop me from having the abortion. I bought into the lie that my child would be deformed because of my heavy drinking and drug usage. This was something I had to do; I didn’t see any other options.

I made another appointment, and that time, I did follow through with it. To this day, I wish I had not done it. But I cannot change my past. I had my abortion on December 10, 1980, and at that moment everything changed. My heart was broken and my soul was shattered into a million pieces. It was the worst decision I had ever made in my life. My heart goes out to you precious sisters who were forced by someone else to have an abortion against your will.

I struggled with depression, crying episodes, feelings of isolation, and loneliness. I continued with the drinking and drugs, and thoughts of suicide started entering my mind. I just wanted the pain to go away.

Then one glorious day, I heard the gospel for the first time on January 2, 1994, and in 4 semaines, I went running to Jesus instead of running away from Him. I had given my heart to the Lord and asked Him to forgive all my sins and to heal my broken heart. From that moment forward, I would never have to feel alone again. I have a Savior who will never leave me nor forsake me. Merci, Jésus.

God has a beautiful plan and purpose for your life too. In Jeremiah 29:11, “FOR I KNOW THE THOUGHTS I HAVE FOR YOU, SAYS THE LORD, THOUGHTS OF PEACE AND NOT OF EVIL, TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE AND A HOPE.” God can turn the darkest times in your life into something beautiful for His honor and glory.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. When have you run away from God?
  2. What things have you run to instead of God to help you cope with your past trauma?
  3. Are you still running now?
  4. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

I pray that you know how much you are loved by God and that He has a beautiful plan for your life. God is able to redeem your life from your destructive past. He only can heal us in all our broken places. He takes your ashes, your horrible mistakes, and makes something beautiful out of them for your good and His glory.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

 

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