Sigo siendo responsable de mis acciones

Sigo siendo responsable de mis acciones

Todavía soy responsable de mis acciones
por Toni Weisz/Herramientas de recuperación

Romanos 3:23, John 16:8, filipenses 4:13, mateo 7:7-8, y Salmo 147:3

Todos hemos crecido en hogares disfuncionales porque todos hemos nacido en pecado y tenemos una naturaleza pecaminosa.. La Biblia dice, “Por cuanto todos pecaron y están destituidos de la gloria de Dios”. (Romanos 3:23). Algunos de nosotros hemos experimentado negligencia extrema, abuso, abandono, y rechazo. Esto ha causado una herida profunda en nuestras almas y una percepción distorsionada del amor.. Por este trauma, No confiamos en los demás y tenemos miedo de que se acerquen demasiado.; no queremos que nos vuelvan a hacer daño. Por esta razón, es difícil confiar en que Dios tampoco nos va a hacer daño. Muchas mujeres luchan por desarrollar una relación íntima con Dios, nuestro padre celestial, porque no tenían una buena relación con su padre terrenal.

Independientemente de lo que hayamos experimentado en nuestras vidas., todavía somos responsables de hacer el bien, saludable, decisiones piadosas. Es el Espíritu Santo dentro de nosotros el que nos lleva a caminar en la verdad y nos convence de pecado., justicia, y juicio (Leer Juan 16:8). Tenemos la capacidad mediante la ayuda del Espíritu Santo de detener el ciclo de disfunción que surge de nuestro hogar de origen o de los traumas que hemos experimentado en otros lugares.

Podemos tomar buenas decisiones. No tenemos que reaccionar ante las cosas sin detenernos., Orando, y pensando en ellos. Tenemos el control de nuestros pensamientos y acciones.. De hecho, es el solo cosa sobre la que tenemos control. Tenemos que tomar una decisión consciente de no perpetuar esta disfunción y transmitirla a nuestros hijos y a las generaciones futuras.. La única forma en que podemos hacerlo es mediante:

1. Tener una relación con Jesús.

2. Obtener ayuda ya sea a través de consejería cristiana y/o reuniones de recuperación., y leyendo libros útiles.

3. Tener responsabilidad: una persona o comunidad segura que te ayude a seguir trabajando en ti mismo.

Preguntas:

  1. ¿En qué áreas tuviste que trabajar como resultado de un trauma pasado??
    Toni:     El rechazo fue una herida enorme para mí.. También confiar en que los demás no controlarán., manipular, y usarme era otra. Tuve que aprender a usar mi voz y poner límites saludables para protegerme.. Tuve que aprender a controlarme porque era un volcán andante., lleno de rabia. Aprendí por qué estaba tan enojado y lo acepté.. Dios me ha sanado en todas estas áreas porque estuve dispuesto a dejarlo entrar y sanarme..
  2. ¿Cuáles son algunas áreas en las que aún necesitas trabajar??
    Toni: He estado luchando contra la codependencia., Entonces comencé a leer el libro., No más codependencia, por Suellen McDolly. Ha sido muy útil para mí detenerme y comprobar mi motivación para hacer las cosas que estaba haciendo.. Siempre quiero estar dispuesto a trabajar en mí mismo.. Cuando algo me provoca, Le pido a Dios que me muestre lo que realmente está pasando.. Por lo general, escribo un diario cuando esto sucede porque necesito escuchar de Él en un lugar donde esté listo para escuchar..

Nuestra curación es un proceso que dura toda la vida., pero si Dios esta involucrado en ello, nosotros ganaremos. Todo lo podemos en Cristo que nos fortalece. (Leer Filipenses 4:13). Si recién estás comenzando tu viaje de curación, sigue pidiéndole a Dios que te ayude, sigue buscándolo con todo tu corazón, y sigue llamando a la puerta para obtener más conocimiento y sabiduría divina. (Leer Mateo 7:7-8). Dios es fiel, y Él quiere vendar tu corazón quebrantado y sanar tus heridas. (Leer Salmo 147:3).

Espero que esto haya sido útil.. Por favor contacta; Estamos aquí para ayudarte y orar por ti..

Eres amado,
Toni

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Mi vida cambiaría para siempre (Parte 6): El capitulo final

La historia de abril

My Life Would be Forever Changed (Parte 6)
El capitulo final

In July 1997, I accepted the Lord into my life. I felt like I was a new person. I was alive in Christ. The same year I accepted the Lord into my life, I met my husband, and we were married three years later. I got pregnant right away, but sadly, lost the baby. This was ten years after my abortion. Of course, I thought God was punishing me. But I soon learned that it wasn’t God. It was actually my body holding onto the pain of the past. During that time, I had a lot of anxiety and fear in my heart. I knew God was near, but I didn’t really believe it. I was afraid in my own home and scared to drive my car on the freeway. I asked myself how I could possibly raise a baby with this hurt still inside me. I was holding onto everything. I walked around with a smile on, but deep down I was hurting.

Soon after this pregnancy, I became pregnant again. Entonces, in 2002, we had our first child! Our second child followed a few years later in 2005. Desafortunadamente, right after the birth of our second child, I became really crazy about germs. I couldn’t do it; I felt helpless in my own body. I was so afraid I was going to die. I started to search my heart, and I realized that I was afraid of death for our children. Why was I afraid of death? Because I had faced death myself as a child. Later, I found out that death has NO sting!!!

Hoy, I have the honor and privilege of walking women through their abortion stories as well as mentoring women that have been through trauma, including sexual abuse. I get to see women be set free from the pain of their past and walk in their newfound freedom in Christ. My goal is to help lead women to freedom from the bondage that has been holding them back.

I now hold a Mental Health Coaching Certificate, and I am working on getting a Christian Counseling Certificate. I have been through the Making Life Disciples course and some trauma classes through church. But one of my favorite accomplishments to date is that I’ve completed one year of Bible College to be able to minister the Word to those who are lost and hurting. #SetFree

I share my whole story to tell you that our God is good, no matter what our circumstances. When I was around drugs and alcohol throughout my life, God was good. When I was kidnapped and raped at 12, God was good. When I had an abortion, God was good. When I was living in sin, God was good. When I felt shame, guilt, or fear, God was right there. When I was afraid, God was revealed. When death was around me, God saved me. When I was hopeless, God was full of hope for me. God is forgiveness and my help. What would I do without my Father? He saved me, forgave me, and redeemed me. It was only recently that I discovered that God has been with me all along. He has been pursuing me and chasing me since the day I was born.

I believe that Jesus takes all the hurt on Himself. I believe that I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I believe I am reconciled to Him. Gracias, Jesús, that the old is gone and the new has come. Gracias, Jesús, that I am highly favored and deeply loved. Thank you that I am a called out, separated person for God’s Kingdom work. Gracias, Jesús, I am a New Creation. Gracias, Jesús, for Your Amazing Grace!!!

 

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La guerra espiritual en los estudios bíblicos posteriores al aborto

La guerra espiritual en los estudios bíblicos posteriores al aborto

Spiritual Warfare in the Post Abortion Bible Studies
By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Warfare (Blogs de Toni)
Salmo 91:1-12

Why is spiritual warfare so intense when women decide to step out to be healed from a past abortion?

I have been in the post-abortion ministry since 2006, when I went through my first post-abortion recovery Bible study. Desafortunadamente, no one prepared me for what was going to be one of the most tragic and saddest times of my life. Satan came in and ripped my family to shreds. My husband and children stopped speaking to each other; my husband and I had a huge conflict; my son’s roommate stopped paying rent and stole from him; my daughter broke up with her boyfriend because of a porn addiction. All of this started two-and-a-half weeks into my first post-abortion recovery Bible study. I was in shock, and I was numb. Much of that time is still a blur to me.

To give you a better idea of how this all started, allow me to set the scene for you.

It was January 22, 2006, Sanctity of Human Life Sunday. I was sitting in my Sunday school class learning about the book of Jeremiah. More specifically, we were discussing how God called Jeremiah to be a prophet from the womb. Our teacher asked each of us, “What has God called you to do?"

For years I had asked God to reveal my calling to me. Up until that day, I thought it was just to be a godly wife and mother. But the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and said, “I want you to help other women feel forgiven for their past abortions.”

Inmediatamente, I raised my hand and told our group what God had just shared with me. I then shared with my Pastor after the service what God had said. I was so excited but had no idea what this would mean or how this would change my life forever.

Entonces, I told my husband, “God wants me to help other women heal from their past abortions.” His reaction was, “No, that’s not good for you; that will be too hard. You should be in children’s ministry. You will be happier there.”

To respect my husband, I did nothing. I just waited. During the third week of waiting, my Pastor preached on obedience. The Holy Spirit moved in me so strongly that I couldn’t let it go. I went to my husband again and said, “John, you don’t understand. God is calling me to this, and I have to obey.” Thus began my healing journey.

Over the years, I have learned so much from the things that have happened to me on this journey. It has shaped the way I think, speak, and treat others. Desafortunadamente, I was not treated with kindness during the early parts of my journey.

Instead, I received harsh, condemning feedback and was told it was my fault my marriage was not going well and that I was in sin. These painful words led me to accept unacceptable treatment from my husband. My facilitators and mentors did not have experience in any kind of recovery work or co-dependency issues. They did not recognize I was being bullied and emotionally abused.

I thank God for the equipping He has given me. He has given me patience, gentleness, and love toward women who have lost a child to abortion. I know from experience that many factors go into the decision to have an abortion. We don’t grow up as young girls thinking, “I want to abort my baby.” No. It’s not a natural thing for a woman to do.

I decided to write this blog post about the spiritual warfare surrounding post-abortion recovery because many of us will be involved in these healing Bible studies in some capacity. Whether you are a prayer partner, co-facilitator, or a participant, each of us will experience some kind of spiritual warfare.

Know this: the enemy does not want Christian women healed from a past abortion. He wants to keep us in bondage and chains, locked away in a dungeon to be tormented. This frightening truth inspired the name of our eBook, “Leading Them into His Light.” Long before the eBook, God gave me a vision of a dungeon and women sitting in darkness and in chains. Jesus held my hand as I went into the dungeons to grab the women out so they could be rescued from the enemy. It’s a beautiful picture of God’s love for us.

Our eBook is available on our website for a donation of any amount. In it, we share 17 women’s abortion stories (including my own) and how God turned our ashes into something beautiful for our good and His glory.

Ahora mismo, the enemy is trying to trip you up. I am experiencing it in my own home, and you might be also. The enemy will use those closest to you to take you down and discourage you. But do not waiver. God is greater and stronger than the enemy. Stay close to Him and He will protect you.

About six months ago I started reading Psalm 91 every day. I suggest you meditate upon it too. It will strengthen you for the inevitable battle ahead.

 

Preguntas & Closing Thoughts:

  1. What spiritual warfare have you experienced as a result of stepping out and wanting to be healed from a past abortion?

    2. What do you do to protect yourself from the enemy’s fiery darts?

    I am looking forward to an exciting year in which more women will be healed from the trauma of abortion. With the healing power of Jesus, we can reach even more women and stop this cycle of death in their families.

Eres amado,
Toni

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El amor de mi Salvador por mí

El amor de mi Salvador por mí

 

El amor de mi Salvador por mí
By Toni Weisz/Abuse Recovery (Blogs de Toni)
Jeremías 31:3, 1 Corintios 13:3-8a, Isaías 9:6, and Zephaniah 3:17

Jeremías 31:3
The Lord appeared of old to me saying: “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.”

Lord Jesus, what do you want me to say to the precious sisters reading this right now? You know each one intimately. What are some words of encouragement that you want them to hear from Your heart to theirs?

Little Bird, I want you to say to them, “I have loved you with an everlasting love. My love for you is pure, holy, righteous, kind, gentle, and eternal. I am love; it is My character. I created love. I know many of you have been abused or neglected and you have felt rejection from those closest to you. I am so sad that you experienced those things. My desire is for every child to know they are loved from the moment of conception. If you only knew how much I loved you from a child, you would not have looked for it in other places and with other people. But your view of Me and My love were distorted by the father of lies. He doesn’t want you to know My love intimately because he knows the power of My love. It was My love for you that kept Me nailed to the cross so you could have eternal life with Me and the Father in Heaven. We loved you so much that the Father gave you the Holy Spirit, the Comforter to be with you always, so you would never have to walk alone again. All these things I am mentioning show you how precious you are to Me. I am so proud of you for stepping out of the darkness into My glorious light. You know that true healing only comes through Me, because I am the Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, and the Prince of Peace. I created you and I delight in you. I understand you better than you understand yourself. I know how to heal every broken part of your soul. Will you trust me today with your whole heart? Allow me to heal you in all your broken places. I want to do a miracle in your life. I will close with this. Zephaniah 3:17, ‘The Lord your God in your midst, the Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.’ You are my beloved.”

 

Preguntas:

Do you trust God?

Do you know how much you are loved by Him?

Will you allow Jesus into those broken places where you have not allowed anyone else to go?

I pray you will experience the love of God in the innermost part of your being and be forever changed.

 

Eres amado,
Toni

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El hijo pródigo

El hijo pródigo

 

El hijo pródigo
By Toni Weisz/Abuse Recovery

Lucas 15:11-24, Jeremías 31:3b-c, Lucas 15:10, II Corinthians 5:21a, Efesios 2:1b, Lucas 15:10, Revelation 7:9, Romanos 8:15b-c, Revelation 19:9, y romanos 8:35

Lucas 15:11-24

Then He said: “A certain man had two sons. And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.’ So he divided to them his livelihood. And not many days after, the younger son gathered all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal (wasteful) living. But when he had spent all, there arose a severe famine in that land, and he began to be in want. Then he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country, and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. And he would gladly have filled his stomach with the pods that the swine ate, and no one gave him anything.

“But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you, and I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Make me like one of your hired servants.” ’

“And he arose and came to his father. But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight, and am no longer worthy to be called your son.’

“But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry; for this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ And they began to be merry.”

Some have called this, “The Running Father,” instead of, “The Prodigal Son,” because it’s the actions of the father in these scriptures that give a glimpse into the very heart of God, our heavenly Father, towards us, His children. I can imagine the father looking to the horizon every day for a glimpse of his son returning home. And every day, losing hope that he would return. Then one day, he spots his son and is filled with compassion for him. He girds up his loins (takes his robe from back to front between his legs and tucks it into his belt) and runs to his son. During Biblical times, a man of his stature in the community would not do such a thing in public, but he didn’t care what others thought. I read that the son could have been banned from the town or humiliated publicly, because he dishonored his father and their town with his sinful actions. This was another possible reason why the father ran to his son; he wanted to protect him from the humiliation and judgement of others.

Let’s put ourselves in the shoes of the prodigal son. Didn’t we run away from the homes that God had given us in part due to the dysfunction, and/or we wanted to explore the world and live our lives our own ways? All the while, our heavenly Father is watching and looking for us to return home to Him. How it must have broken His heart to see the destructive, ungodly choices we made. And yet, He loves us with an everlasting love; He yearns for us to come home to Him (Jeremías 31:3b-c). The angels in heaven rejoice over one sinner who repents (Lucas 15:10).

God sent His Son to die for us so we could be set free from the judgment we deserved because of all our sins. I love the correlation between the prodigal son’s father and our heavenly Father. Jesus became sin for us (II Corinthians 5:21a) and was naked, beaten, and crucified, and He died for us. He was humiliated and tortured for me and you. When I think of what Jesus did on the cross for me, I am overwhelmed with gratitude because I know I didn’t deserve it, but I humbly receive this precious gift of salvation that cost God the most precious thing He had, His Son.

Por último, we too were once dead in our trespasses and sins against God, (Efesios 2:1b) but when we confessed our sins, like the prodigal son, we were welcomed into the family of God. There was a celebration in heaven the day you received Christ as your Savior (Lucas 15:10). God has clothed you in a beautiful white robe (Revelation 7:9), put a ring on your finger, and adopted you into His Holy Family (Romanos 8:15b-c). One day, we will all be together for the great feast in heaven, the marriage supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:9). Hallelujah! Gracias, Jesús!

Gracias, Father, for the gift of adoption into your family. I am no longer an orphan, a stranger, or an outcast; I am yours forever.

Note: To you precious ones who did not have good earthly fathers, it is hard to think of God as a good heavenly Father. Please know that God’s heart broke when he saw the abuse and neglect you suffered at the hands of your earthly fathers. God is not like your earthly fathers; He is kind, gentle, puro, holy, and faithful. He loves you with an everlasting love. Nothing can separate you from the love of God through Christ Jesus our Lord (Romanos 8:35).

Preguntas:

What was your relationship like with your earthly father?

Do you see God as a good and kind Father? If not, please explain.

Please reach out if you need to talk or you need prayer.

Eres amado,

Toni

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