Cómo superar el trauma

Cómo superar el trauma

Cómo superar el trauma
By Toni Weisz/Abuse Recovery

Referencias de las Escrituras: Salmo 147:3, Salmo 27:10, Salmo 100:5

“Trauma can be more than a dark pit of despair or a spiral of depression. It has the potential to be our deepest source of empathy, strongest point of connection, and most forceful impetus (stimulus) for growth if we bravely choose to let others into both the brokenness and the mending. My brokenness becomes beautiful when I see trauma as an opportunity to grow.” (Excerpt taken from the devotional, Suffer Strong: How to Survive Anything by Redefining Everything, by Katherine and Jay Wolf.)

Salmo 147:3
He heals the broken in heart and binds up their wounds.

Salmo 27:10
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

Salmo 100:5
For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations.

It takes courage to face the trauma from our past. This is not an easy process. De hecho, it is quite painful at times, and it is not for the faint of heart. That’s why many people don’t do it. They would rather live in their dysfunction because they know what to expect—it’s familiar.

Change can be hard, scary, and unpredictable. But it can also be beautiful, especially when we are able to come out on the other side of our pain and see the miraculous work God has done.

When I first started this ministry, the Lord encouraged me to be real.

When I am open and transparent with all of you, it gives you permission to share from your heart too. I have experienced tremendous healing as a result of doing these conference calls for the past 11 años. The work of the Holy Spirit, self-examination, and a safe community in which to share are the most important elements for true healing and the ability to break dysfunctional patterns and spiritual strongholds. This group gives me the courage to keep stepping out.

You’re only as sick as your secrets.

When I share my secrets in a safe and loving environment, it helps me to begin the healing process. It brings that secret thing into the light, and the devil no longer has power over me in that area. I am praying that each of you experience true healing in all of your broken areas. You are safe on our conference calls, dearly beloved of the Lord. What secrets are you still hiding?

I also needed to practice what I preached.

If I was telling you to stand up to the bully and use your voice, then I needed to do the same thing. This group has helped me to stay accountable and move forward in my own healing journey.

Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.

God has shown me how to stay calm, to allow the other person to speak, and try to stay on topic. Then when it’s my turn, I share my perspective but in a way that honors God.

I apologize when I need to, but I don’t allow others to just dump on me or yell at me. I walk away or hang up because that’s not an acceptable way to communicate. I don’t allow others to be verbally abusive to me. By sharing with you, it also helped me to practice those same principles in my life.

God showed me He wanted to be first in my life.

Once I put God first in my life, then what others thought of me didn’t matter so much anymore. I was trying to please them so they would love me, but that never worked anyway. It only left me feeling empty, no amado, and depleted of my energy. I realized I could never make someone happy or sad; I didn’t have that kind of power. Only God can love me completely. Entonces, I go to God when I need something because most people are not able to give me what I need anyway.

They cannot give what they don’t have.

Only Jesus can meet all my needs. Jesus is the answer to every situation or problem I have. When I go to Him and ask Him to help me, to show me what’s going on and why I am struggling the way I am, He gives me wisdom and shows me what I need to do.

Preguntas:

  1. What burdens are you carrying right now? Is it health, finances, loneliness, relationships, loss, sadness, or something else?
  2. Are you able to share how you are feeling right now?
  3. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

Remember: When your father and your mother forsake you, then the LORD will take you up. For the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations. He binds up the brokenhearted and heals all of your wounds.

Please reach out if you need prayer or just want to talk. Envíeme un correo electrónico a: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Eres amado,

Toni

 

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Guerra espiritual

Guerra espiritual

The Enemy Is Prowling
by Toni Weisz/Spiritual Warfare

Referencias de las Escrituras: 1 Peter 5:8, Romanos 8:1 y filipenses 4:13

 

Be sober, be vigilant; for your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5:8

I have been under a barrage of attacks by the evil one since I shared the gospel in a letter to two of my family members. I want them to hear the gospel one more time so they can have confidence that when they pass from this life to the next, they can know they are saved and will be in heaven when they die. Not only that, pero at the time of this writing, we have three, and possibly four, Recovery Bible Studies starting within the next few weeks. That’s a lot of women hearing the gospel, being healed and set free from the trauma of abortion and abuse.

The first week, the enemy used family. METROy kids were not in a good place, some hard conversations happened, and people were offended. Finally, they were able to communicate and work things out, without my help. The enemy was trying to get me to fret and worry and jump in and to take matters into my own hands (my old character defect of codependency and fear) instead of trusting God.

Luego on a Saturday, the enemy used people in spiritual leadership. We were in a group setting, but I felt ignored and not included in the discussions. God showed me from this example what not to do as a spiritual leader. I am to be aware of everyone in the group. We all need encouragement and to feel included.

Then on a Sunday, a leader at church made a weird comment. Again, God showed me how important my words are. They can uplift people or put people down. The enemy was trying to use spiritual leaders to pick my rejection wound, desiring to awaken my people-pleasing character defect (my old character defect of people pleasing, putting others before God, which is idolatry).

Then a few days later, tél enemy used a woman who was very involved in serving in this ministry for many years, to react in a peculiar way and say some hurtful things. This one hurt pretty deeply. Again, I did not react. I actually did not send a text I had written because honestly, I did not know what to say. En cambio, I prayed for her because obviously she is not in a good place. My old character defect of condemnation, listening to the lies of the enemy accusing me, was trying to make a comeback.

I was thinking to myself, “What in the world is going on?" Any one of these scenarios in the past would have pushed me over the edge, and I would have reacted badly or taken on rejection. Or my people pleasing would have kicked in and I would have scrambled around trying to make things right.

But because of the work God has been doing in my life over these 17 años, I am able to see with my spiritual eyes what is going on.

I am so grateful God healed my rejection wound and eso I no longer yearn for the approval of man. I want my life to please God. I am grateful there is no condemnation to them who are in Christ Jesus (ref. Romanos 8:1).

The accuser has no dominion over me. the Word of God has set me free, and the Holy Spirit protects me from the fiery darts of the enemy.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (filipenses 4:13)

I am so thankful to God for equipping the called. If God calls you to something, be confident that He will give you everything you need to succeed.

Preguntas para tomar en serio:

  1. What kind of spiritual warfare have you been experiencing lately?
  2. Have you noticed a pattern? When are you most vulnerable to the enemy’s attacks?
  3. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

Espero que este tema te haya sido útil.. Please reach out if you need to talk or need prayer. Envíeme un correo electrónico a: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Eres amado,
Toni

¿Cuáles son tus desencadenantes??

¿Cuáles son tus desencadenantes??

¿Cuáles son tus desencadenantes??
por Toni Weisz/Herramientas de recuperación

Referencias de las Escrituras: Salmo 91:2–4, Salmo 17:8, Salmo 37:40, Jeremías 29:11, Salmo 147:3, Romanos 8:37 and Zephaniah 3:17

 

What are triggers?

A trigger is an impulse that prompts a negative reaction caused by another’s words, actions or a specific situation, especially for those who have experienced trauma from abuse, adiccion, and/or abortion.

 

I suffered from depression since I was a teenager and started going to secular counselors when I was 17 años. It took me a long time to figure out where this depression came from.

What triggered it?

I noticed a pattern. When there was a special occasion, like my birthday, Christmas, college graduation, or moving back to NJ after being away for 10 años, I had certain expectations that I would be celebrated in a certain way with gifts and parties. When those expectations were not met, then I felt unloved and insignificant.

When things did not go as I had hoped, I would fall into a very deep depression that would last weeks at a time. This happened to me until I was 34 años.

I was codependent, and I was triggered by the actions and words of others so much that they determined my outlook on life and how I felt about myself. It was a vicious cycle that lasted many decades.

In my home of origin, we never discussed or worked through hard things. People just yelled or gave you the silent treatment. There was never any resolution. No forgiveness, no grace, no healthy communication. It has taken me many years of hard work to learn how to communicate properly and how to put up healthy boundaries.

I am so grateful for my relationship with Jesus, my Savior. He is my Rock, my Fortress, my Deliverer, my High Tower, my Friend. He is my only hope. He will bind up all my wounds and heal my broken heart. I know what He thinks of me. I am the apple of His eye. He rejoices over me with gladness. He quiets me with His love, and He rejoices over me with singing. He is very pleased with me.

I am forgiven, redeemed, loved and cherished by God. I am adopted into His family. Soy victorioso en Cristo; nothing can separate me from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus my Lord. These are the truths I am focusing on to heal my broken heart.

Preguntas para tomar en serio:

  1. What are some of your triggers?
  2. Have you been able to discern where they come from?
  3. What have you learned over the years to help protect yourself from these intrusive thoughts?
  4. What are some of your favorite Scriptures to help you when you are triggered?
  5. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

Espero que este tema te haya sido útil.. Si necesitas hablar, please reach out with an email at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Eres amado,
Toni

 

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Nuestros sueños rotos

Nuestros sueños rotos

Nuestros sueños rotos
por Toni Weisz/Disciplinas espirituales

 

Referencias de las Escrituras

Jeremías 29:11 (NKJV)
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Isaías 61:7 (ESV)
Instead of your shame there shall be a double portion; instead of dishonor they shall rejoice in their lot; por lo tanto, in their land they shall possess a double portion; they shall have everlasting joy.

I never imagined I would abort my first child. I grew up in a large Italian family. (METROy mom was one of ten children.) At our family get-togethers, there were always children running around. I was the oldest granddaughter, so it was my job to look after the younger ones so the adults could talk without interruptions.

I loved children, and I even thought about getting a teaching degree. What happened to my childhood dreams? How did I go so far off the path I thought would be my life?

Sin destroyed my dreams. I decided that being the “good, quiet one” wasn’t working for me anymore. I wasn’t getting the love and attention I needed, so I decided to take matters into my own hands—a true recipe for disaster.

En 12 años, I started experimenting with alcohol and began sneaking shots of Scotch whiskey while my parents were at my brother’s football practices. My sister and I were left at home to do the dishes for a short while, but that’s all the devil needed—a little bit of time to get me alone and wanting.

My child-brain started thinking of ways to get my needs met but in unhealthy ways. This destructive path the enemy led me down was one of drugs, alcohol, numerous sexual partners, and then my abortion at 21. It was a dark and destructive journey. I hid in my secrets and was tormented by the devil.

How did I get here? One bad choice after another after another; it happens that fast.

I would continue in this self-destructive pattern for 22 años. Thankfully, God finally rescued me at the age of 34 when I heard the gospel for the first time. Jesus died on the cross for MY SINS. I had never heard that before. I desperately needed and wanted someone to take all my sins, shame, and guilt.

I needed a Savior—someone to love me just for me. I found all those things in a relationship with Jesus. I am so grateful for the love, forgiveness, and peace I found in Him.

God has turned my mourning into joy. He has given me a new name, a new life, and a new calling.

No matter what you have done in your past, God is able to forgive and redeem what the devil has stolen. You can still have a wonderful, fulfilling, God-glorifying life. It just may look a little different from your original plan. But rest assured, God is a good Father and has a good plan for your life.

Will you allow Him to help you dream new dreams?

 

Preguntas & Final Thoughts:

  1. What were some of your childhood dreams?
  2. Did the devil steal your dreams of having children and a family?
  3. How have you been able to move on and dream new dreams?
  4. Cómo podemos orar por ti?

I pray that the Lord will minister to your broken heart and give you new dreams. Please reach out if you need a listening ear or a word of encouragement. Email: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Eres amado,
Toni

 

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Expectativas insatisfechas

Expectativas insatisfechas

 

Expectativas insatisfechas
por Luci Boudreaux/Perspectivas espirituales

Referencias de las Escrituras:

Hebreos 4:16
“Acerquémonos entonces con confianza al trono de la gracia para que podamos recibir misericordia y encontrar gracia que nos ayude en nuestro momento de necesidad”.

Salmo 27:13–14
“Creo que miraré la bondad del Señor en la tierra de los vivientes.. espera al señor; sé fuerte, y deja que tu corazón tome valor espera en el Señor!"

 

Después de que entregué mi vida a Jesús a la edad 25, Estaba tan emocionado de ir con Dios y vivir para Él.. Después de años de abuso físico y mental por parte de otros y por mis propias malas decisiones de vida., que incluía el aborto, Estaba ansioso por empezar de nuevo. Y me atreví a soñar con una vida normal con Dios en el centro..

asistí a la iglesia, Estudié las Escrituras y salí con otras personas como–creyentes con mentalidad. Tenía grandes expectativas de cómo Dios cumpliría mis sueños de ser esposa y mamá.. Y ver a todas las familias jóvenes en la iglesia intensificó mi anhelo de tener mi propia familia..

Pasaron los años y mis esperanzas y sueños no se cumplieron., a pesar de mis oraciones. Me cansé de esperar en Dios, así que tomé el control y comencé a salir con un hombre que decía las cosas que quería escuchar., pero resultó ser lo opuesto al hombre piadoso con el que quería estar.. Puedes leer la historia completa sobre “El Ángel de Luz” en MisAshesToBeauty.com bajo lucio Bregistros, Aautobús Recovery.

Después de tres años de abuso y separación de Dios, Terminé la relación y entregué mi soltería al Señor.. Y no mucho después de esto, Conocí al hombre con el que he estado tan agradecida de estar casada 21 años! En esta difícil experiencia, Dios me enseñó que esperar en su momento y confiar en su sabiduría trae los mejores resultados..

Rápido–adelante hasta hoy, y otra vez, Dios me tiene en una posición para aprender a confiar y creer en sus promesas.. He estado sufriendo físicamente durante años con dolor en el tracto gastrointestinal y el estómago.. Tu podrias decir, Llevo estrés en mis entrañas! En los últimos meses, se ha vuelto debilitante. He estado leyendo y aplicando agresivamente lo que los expertos me dicen que haga., pero nada ha traído alivio. También busqué un profesional de la salud que pudiera ayudarme a curarme.. Pero mientras oraba por guía y buscaba durante meses, las puertas continuaron cerrándose.

Mi esperanza se estaba desvaneciendo mientras cuestionaba a Dios., “Whola? Wpor todo este sufrimiento? Wpor toda esta espera?"En mi estado debilitado, Creí la mentira de que Dios no traería sanidad. y que no escuchaba mis gritos de ayuda.

En este proceso, Dios me mostró que necesitaba un ajuste en mi perspectiva porque había perdido de vista lo que Él era y siempre está haciendo en la vida de Sus hijos.. Él me estaba ayudando a ver que estaba permitiendo que las preocupaciones de este mundo me afectaran., que estaba ansioso por muchas cosas, y se estaba manifestando en mi cuerpo descomponiéndose. Además, Estaba preparando el momento perfecto para que yo conociera al médico adecuado.. Ay como beneficio adicional, lo cual sé que era parte de su plan, I no solo reunió su pero era también capaz de ministrar a su preciosa madre que estaba de visita.

Dios no está en el negocio de satisfacer nuestros deseos y necesidades en lo que NOSOTROS creemos que es el momento perfecto.. Él quiere todo ser para nuestro bien supremo (corazón, mente y espíritu) y para su gloria. Al igual que Job, No podemos entender la mente de Dios., ni podemos ver los increíbles planes que tiene para nosotros. Tenemos que confiar en que Él nos ama más allá de nuestros sueños más locos..

Dios ha tenido su mano en las circunstancias de mi vida todo este tiempo.! Pero Él estaba esperando que yo le diera el control y confiara en sus promesas para mí., como SLa escritura nos guía. Y un pasaje a destacar es el Salmo. 25:9: “Él guía a los humildes en lo que es correcto, y enseña a los humildes hes camino."

 

qPREGUNTAS:

¿Qué esperas y esperas en tu vida??

¿Tienes un testimonio de cómo Dios ha respondido a tu oración?es de una manera que te sorprendió y bendijo más allá de tus expectativas.?

Cómo podemos orar por ti?

 

Espero que este tema te haya sido útil.. Puedes alcanzarme en: superador982@icloud.com.

 

Bendiciones,

Luces

 

 

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