Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes

Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes

Je suis toujours responsable de mes actes
par Toni Weisz/Outils de récupération

Romains 3:23, John 16:8, Philippiens 4:13, Matthieu 7:7-8, et Psaume 147:3

Nous avons tous grandi dans des foyers dysfonctionnels parce que nous sommes tous nés dans le péché et avons une nature pécheresse. La Bible dit, « Car tous ont péché et sont privés de la gloire de Dieu. » (Romains 3:23). Certains d'entre nous ont connu une extrême négligence, abuser de, abandon, et le rejet. Cela a provoqué une blessure profonde dans nos âmes et une perception déformée de l'amour.. A cause de ce traumatisme, nous ne faisons pas confiance aux autres et avons peur qu’ils s’approchent trop près; nous ne voulons plus être blessés. Pour cette raison, il est difficile de croire que Dieu ne nous fera pas de mal non plus. De nombreuses femmes ont du mal à développer une relation intime avec Dieu, notre Père céleste, parce qu'ils n'avaient pas de bonnes relations avec leur père terrestre.

Peu importe ce que nous avons vécu dans nos vies, nous sommes toujours responsables de réparer, en bonne santé, décisions pieuses. C’est le Saint-Esprit en nous qui nous conduit à marcher dans la vérité et nous convainc de péché., droiture, et jugement (Lire Jean 16:8). Nous avons la capacité, grâce à l'aide du Saint-Esprit, de arrêt le cycle de dysfonctionnement provenant de notre pays d’origine ou les traumatismes que nous avons vécus ailleurs.

Nous pouvons faire de bons choix. Nous ne sommes pas obligés de réagir aux choses sans nous arrêter, prier, et y réfléchir. Nous contrôlons nos pensées et nos actions. En fait, C'est le seulement chose sur laquelle nous avons le contrôle. Nous devons prendre la décision consciente de ne pas perpétuer ce dysfonctionnement et de le transmettre à nos enfants et aux générations futures.. La seule façon d'y parvenir est de:

1. Avoir une relation avec Jésus.

2. Obtenir de l'aide soit par le biais de conseils chrétiens et/ou de réunions de rétablissement, et lire des livres utiles.

3. Avoir des responsabilités : une personne ou une communauté sûre pour vous aider à continuer à travailler sur vous-même.

Des questions:

  1. Sur quels domaines avez-vous dû travailler à la suite d'un traumatisme passé?
    Toni:     Le rejet a été une énorme blessure pour moi. Faire également confiance aux autres pour ne pas contrôler, manipuler, et m'utiliser en était une autre. J'ai dû apprendre à utiliser ma voix et à imposer des limites saines pour me protéger. J'ai dû apprendre la maîtrise de soi parce que j'étais un volcan ambulant, rempli de rage. J'ai appris pourquoi j'étais si en colère et j'ai accepté cela. Dieu m'a guéri dans tous ces domaines parce que j'étais prêt à le laisser entrer et à me guérir..
  2. Quels sont les domaines sur lesquels vous devez encore travailler?
    Toni: J'ai eu du mal avec la codépendance, alors j'ai commencé à lire le livre, Plus de codépendance, par Suellen McDolly. Cela m'a été très utile de m'arrêter et de vérifier ma motivation pour faire les choses que je faisais.. Je veux toujours être prêt à travailler sur moi-même. Quand je suis déclenché par quelque chose, Je demande à Dieu de me montrer ce qui se passe réellement. J'ai l'habitude de tenir un journal lorsque cela se produit parce que j'ai besoin de l'entendre dans un endroit où/quand je suis prêt à l'écouter..

Notre guérison est un processus qui dure toute la vie, mais si Dieu est impliqué, nous serons victorieux. Nous pouvons tout faire par le Christ qui nous fortifie (Lire Philippiens 4:13). Si vous commencez tout juste votre parcours de guérison, continue de demander à Dieu de t'aider, continue de le chercher de tout ton cœur, et continuez à frapper à la porte pour plus de perspicacité et de sagesse divine (Lire Matthieu 7:7-8). Dieu est fidèle, et Il veut panser ton cœur brisé et guérir tes blessures (Lire le Psaume 147:3).

Je prie pour que cela soit utile. S'il vous plaît tendre la main; nous sommes là pour vous aider et prier pour vous.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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Ma vie serait à jamais changée (Partie 6): Le dernier chapitre

April’s Story

My Life Would be Forever Changed (Partie 6)
Le dernier chapitre

In July 1997, I accepted the Lord into my life. I felt like I was a new person. I was alive in Christ. The same year I accepted the Lord into my life, I met my husband, and we were married three years later. I got pregnant right away, but sadly, lost the baby. This was ten years after my abortion. Of course, I thought God was punishing me. But I soon learned that it wasn’t God. It was actually my body holding onto the pain of the past. During that time, I had a lot of anxiety and fear in my heart. I knew God was near, but I didn’t really believe it. I was afraid in my own home and scared to drive my car on the freeway. I asked myself how I could possibly raise a baby with this hurt still inside me. I was holding onto everything. I walked around with a smile on, but deep down I was hurting.

Soon after this pregnancy, I became pregnant again. Alors, in 2002, we had our first child! Our second child followed a few years later in 2005. Malheureusement, right after the birth of our second child, I became really crazy about germs. I couldn’t do it; I felt helpless in my own body. I was so afraid I was going to die. I started to search my heart, and I realized that I was afraid of death for our children. Why was I afraid of death? Because I had faced death myself as a child. Later, I found out that death has NO sting!!!

Aujourd'hui, I have the honor and privilege of walking women through their abortion stories as well as mentoring women that have been through trauma, including sexual abuse. I get to see women be set free from the pain of their past and walk in their newfound freedom in Christ. My goal is to help lead women to freedom from the bondage that has been holding them back.

I now hold a Mental Health Coaching Certificate, and I am working on getting a Christian Counseling Certificate. I have been through the Making Life Disciples course and some trauma classes through church. But one of my favorite accomplishments to date is that I’ve completed one year of Bible College to be able to minister the Word to those who are lost and hurting. #SetFree

I share my whole story to tell you that our God is good, no matter what our circumstances. When I was around drugs and alcohol throughout my life, God was good. When I was kidnapped and raped at 12, God was good. When I had an abortion, God was good. When I was living in sin, God was good. When I felt shame, culpabilité, or fear, God was right there. When I was afraid, God was revealed. When death was around me, God saved me. When I was hopeless, God was full of hope for me. God is forgiveness and my help. What would I do without my Father? He saved me, forgave me, and redeemed me. It was only recently that I discovered that God has been with me all along. He has been pursuing me and chasing me since the day I was born.

I believe that Jesus takes all the hurt on Himself. I believe that I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I believe I am reconciled to Him. Merci, Jésus, that the old is gone and the new has come. Merci, Jésus, that I am highly favored and deeply loved. Thank you that I am a called out, separated person for God’s Kingdom work. Merci, Jésus, I am a New Creation. Merci, Jésus, for Your Amazing Grace!!!

 

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L'amour de mon Sauveur pour moi

L'amour de mon Sauveur pour moi

 

L'amour de mon Sauveur pour moi
By Toni Weisz/Abuse Recovery (Blogs de Toni)
Jérémie 31:3, 1 Corinthiens 13:3-8a, Isaïe 9:6, and Zephaniah 3:17

Jérémie 31:3
The Lord appeared of old to me saying: “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.”

Lord Jesus, what do you want me to say to the precious sisters reading this right now? You know each one intimately. What are some words of encouragement that you want them to hear from Your heart to theirs?

Little Bird, I want you to say to them, “I have loved you with an everlasting love. My love for you is pure, holy, righteous, kind, gentle, and eternal. I am love; it is My character. I created love. I know many of you have been abused or neglected and you have felt rejection from those closest to you. I am so sad that you experienced those things. My desire is for every child to know they are loved from the moment of conception. If you only knew how much I loved you from a child, you would not have looked for it in other places and with other people. But your view of Me and My love were distorted by the father of lies. He doesn’t want you to know My love intimately because he knows the power of My love. It was My love for you that kept Me nailed to the cross so you could have eternal life with Me and the Father in Heaven. We loved you so much that the Father gave you the Holy Spirit, the Comforter to be with you always, so you would never have to walk alone again. All these things I am mentioning show you how precious you are to Me. I am so proud of you for stepping out of the darkness into My glorious light. You know that true healing only comes through Me, because I am the Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, and the Prince of Peace. I created you and I delight in you. I understand you better than you understand yourself. I know how to heal every broken part of your soul. Will you trust me today with your whole heart? Allow me to heal you in all your broken places. I want to do a miracle in your life. I will close with this. Zephaniah 3:17, ‘The Lord your God in your midst, the Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.’ You are my beloved.”

 

Des questions:

Do you trust God?

Do you know how much you are loved by Him?

Will you allow Jesus into those broken places where you have not allowed anyone else to go?

I pray you will experience the love of God in the innermost part of your being and be forever changed.

 

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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Le courage de Marie

Le courage de Marie

Le courage de Marie

By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Disciplines

Scriptures: Luc 1:26-38, 1 John 1:9. Deutéronome 22:20-21, et les romains 8:28

Dans le livre de Luc, nous lisons à propos d'une adolescente incroyablement courageuse nommée Mary. Mary était un nom commun à l'époque; cela signifiait amer. Le peuple était amer parce que les prophètes se sont tus pendant 400 années. Il n'y a pas eu de révélation du tout entre l'Ancien Testament et le Nouveau Testament pendant tout ce temps. Ils se sont sentis amers parce qu'ils pensaient que Dieu les avait oubliés et Sa promesse de leur Messie.

On voit cet incroyable dialogue entre Marie et l'ange Gabriel. Il lui a dit, “Rejoice, highly favored one, le seigneur est avec toi; bénie es-tu entre les femmes! N'ayez pas peur, Marie, car tu as trouvé grâce auprès de Dieu. Il se mit à lui dire qu'elle concevrait et enfanterait un fils et appellera son nom Jésus. Dieu a puissamment utilisé cette jeune femme pour enfanter le Messie promis, Emmanuel—Dieu avec nous. Au lieu de fuir sa situation ou de paniquer, elle a prié et recherché la conduite du Seigneur. Why didn’t we trust God when we found ourselves with an unplanned pregnancy? Si vous Lui avez confessé ce péché, Il t'a pardonné. 1 John 1:9: « Si nous confessons nos péchés, Il est fidèle et juste pour nous pardonner notre péchés et pour nous purifier de toute iniquité ».

Mary aurait pu être lapidée parce qu'elle était enceinte hors mariage parce que c'était la loi à l'époque. Deutéronome 22:20–21 parle des lois relatives aux péchés sexuels. Non seulement Mary aurait pu être lapidée, mais Joseph, son mari, aurait pu abandonner la relation en rédigeant une lettre de divorce parce qu'ils étaient légalement fiancés l'un à l'autre. Mais Dieu a protégé Marie de ces deux conséquences parce qu'elle avait ne pas péché. Elle a été fécondée surnaturellement par le Saint-Esprit de Dieu. Elle était si courageuse et courageuse. Elle a risqué sa vie et sa réputation pour obéir à Dieu. Quel beau témoignage nous voyons dans sa vie.

Cette semaine sera 44 ans depuis que j'ai avorté mon fils, Joseph, en décembre 10, 1980. J'aimerais avoir le courage comme Mary d'avoir mon bébé, mais j'ai laissé la peur de l'homme me pousser à avorter mon bébé. Je ne peux pas changer mon passé, mais je peux apprendre de mes erreurs.

Dieu a utilisé mon avortement pour me mettre dans une relation avec Jésus. À présent, J'ai l'insigne honneur de marcher avec vous tous dans vos voyages de guérison. Dieu a certainement pris mes cendres, mes horribles péchés, et les a transformés en quelque chose de beau pour mon bien et sa gloire, et vous en faites tous partie. Je crois que Dieu fait que toutes choses concourent au bien de ceux qui l'aiment, à ceux qui sont appelés selon son dessein (Ref. Romains 8:28). Dieu, par l'oeuvre du Saint-Esprit, nous sanctifie continuellement et nous conforme à l'image de Jésus. Vous êtes tous si précieux pour lui; J'espère que vous le savez.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. Combien de temps s'est-il écoulé depuis votre dernier avortement ?(s)?
  2. T'accroches-tu toujours à ton secret de l'avortement(s)?
  3. Avez-vous permis à Dieu d'accéder à tous vos endroits brisés afin qu'il puisse vous guérir? Sinon, faites-lui confiance aujourd'hui. Il veut que tu sois guérie et entière afin que tu puisses devenir la femme qu'il a créée pour que tu sois.
  4. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you. Please reach out if you need to talk or need prayer: toni@myashestobeauty.com. I wish you a very blessed Christmas. God is still performing miracles today.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

 

Audio de "Le Courage de Marie" article de blog

Mary, Did You Know video

"Marie, Le saviez-vous?"

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Musique de la ville non-conformiste

 

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Le but de mon bébé

Le but de mon bébé

Le blog de Lucie

Genèse 50:20: “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.”

II Peter 3:9: “The Lord is not slow to fulfill His promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”

Growing up in my dysfunctional family, which included neglect and sexual, physical, and verbal abuse, did not equip me to care for or respect myself as I grew in the way God intended for me. I spent many years allowing others, especially men, to use and take advantage of me for sexual purposes. Au moment où j'étais 15, I was deeply wounded and hurting. My way of coping was to act out in self-destructive ways. As I mentioned earlier, I allowed others to use me. I also drank daily and experimented with most drugs, including mind-altering substances.

I had no hope that anything in my life would improve but that it would just continue to get worse until I died. I was so angry at the way I had been treated by my father and brothers but didn’t understand how to break out of this pattern of destructive behavior.

At the age of 24, I slept with a man whom I hardly knew. En fait, I couldn’t even tell you his name. All I know was that he said all the right things that my heart longed to hear: that he cared for me, really wanted to be with me, and made me feel special, even if it was just for a brief time. He kept insisting that we have sex, and I resisted at first but then gave in when he said he had a vasectomy, since that meant he could not get me pregnant.

I was desperate for this man’s attention but certainly didn’t want to have a baby with him! But like most of the men I opened my life up to, he had lied to me and much to my dismay, I became pregnant. I was devastated and felt a sense of desperation as to how I would “fix” this predicament I was in. Of course, the guy who said he cared so much about me left the scene as soon as he got what he wanted.

I confided in a friend that had introduced me to him. I remember that she had a 9-year-old daughter and no husband, and it was clear that she resented her daughter greatly by the way she treated her. She told me to “Get rid of it; you don’t want a kid!” All I could think about was how I didn’t want to end up like this woman, mistreating my own child! Alors, against my better judgement and my conscience that told me “NO, this is wrong,” I chose to abort the only child I would ever conceive.

I cried every night when no one was around to see my pain. I cried for myself because of how empty this act made me feel, but mostly for this innocent child whose life I had taken so violently. I cried unconsolably, every night for months. Not knowing my Lord Jesus Christ at that time, I had no one to turn to for forgiveness and healing. As I look back on this desperate act of selfishness, I realize this was the final self-destructive thing that drove me into the arms of God! I just couldn’t live with the emptiness and pain anymore. Nine months after my abortion, J'ai abandonné ma vie à Jésus, asked forgiveness for my sins, and began to walk in the newness of life that He offers to all who come to Him in humility.

I want to read a section of the letter to the baby I named Gabriella, which means “God is My Strength”:

Although your earthly life was so short, you impacted mine for eternity because precisely nine months after I allowed that abortion clinic to strip you away from my womb, je suis né de nouveau! And on that amazing day, my heart, soul, and spirit were transformed from darkness and condemnation into the forgiving and precious light of Jesus Christ and His Holy Spirit! God took our pain and ashes and turned them into eternal beauty!

I am pouring much of my life into other women who have experienced the pain and grief of abortion by helping them to acknowledge and heal from this event. I love you with all my heart, my precious little one, and I will see you soon!

Your forgiven Mom

 

What purpose did your unborn child serve in your life?

 

Did it move you towards God or away from Him?

 

Additional portions of letters to the unborn:

Bien-aimé, God knows your life was not a mistake. Your life spurred me to a deeper faith and a passion for Christ. God showed me grace, love, and healing in ways that I can’t describe. He used all these things for good (Rom 8:28). Your life allowed me to defend the defenseless, to value life in the womb, and to have compassion for the hurting moms who fell into the same trap as I did. God numbers our days and although yours were few, they continue to fuel my passion.

I, your mother, hold you in my arms today in a way I could not 10 years ago because I feared to look into your eyes and to hear God’s voice speak through the gentle grasp of your fingers saying "choose life.” In the light of my mind, I now behold you, my first child—the first of three girls. Do you know that you have two sisters? Do you know that your life has given great meaning to their lives? Because of you, I cherish the very breath of life God has gifted me and those whom I hold close to my heart.

As I embrace you today and always, I let go of shame, culpabilité, humiliation, rejection, abandon, pride, and pain. I reject the lies that once kept your memory hidden in darkness far from the light of truth. My love, my beautiful baby girl, you were never forgotten.

Heaven has documented each moment of your existence in the book of life. À présent, it is time for me to write your page into the story of my life.

In the years to come, when we find ourselves reunited in the spirit, I will delight in the unfolding of your unique personality woven together with the experience of your brief, yet significant life. For now, sweetheart, I entrust your care and protection to the Father, whose plans for you are greater than either you or I can imagine.

I named you Joseph because what the enemy meant for evil, God turned around for my good and for His glory. He exchanged my ashes into something beautiful. Joseph, you inspired a ministry called My Ashes to Beauty to help other moms heal from their past abortions.

 

Bénédictions,

Lumières

 

 

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