Frontières

Frontières

Frontières

By Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools

Écritures: Psaume 34:18, Jérémie 29:11, et Jean 3:16

According to Psychology Today, “Personal boundaries are the limits we set with other people, which indicate what we will accept and what we consider unacceptable behavior towards us. To know our boundaries comes from a healthy view of ourselves.”

From the book, Living From the Heart Jesus Gave You, our view is distorted due to emotional trauma we experienced as children. The two types of traumas described in this book are Trauma A & Trauma B. The Trauma A we experience as children is when we do not get the love, attention, and care we need from our family. Trauma B is extreme abuse: sexual, emotional, and/or physical. All these experiences as children cause us to have a distorted view of ourselves, Dieu, et d'autres, and it prevents us from maturing into healthy stable adults.

This distorted view of ourselves, especially those of us who have had abortions, opens up the door to all kinds of unhealthy and destructive behavior. God created women to love and nurture their children, and when we do the opposite, I believe our very souls are shattered into a million pieces. Our hopes and dreams as young girls are dashed, and we are now open to all kinds of ungodly behavior to somehow numb our pain. We are tormented and feel desperately alone, depressed, and even suicidal.

For you precious ones who experienced abuse of all kinds when you were young also struggle to put up boundaries. There is always the fear that people will leave us if we do. But boundaries are to protect us from people who are unhealthy and who will continue to abuse us.

So how can we stop this destructive cycle of accepting and enabling unhealthy behavior from others? D'abord, we must realize we have a Savior and a friend who is the lover of our soul, and His name is Jesus. He is the only one that can heal our broken hearts, our broken bodies, and our broken spirits.

Psaume 34:18 ESV
“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart and saves the crushed in spirit.”

He is the only one who can take the disaster we have made of our lives and restore order and peace. And He alone can give us new hope, new dreams, un nouveau but, and a new life.

Jérémie 29:11 NKJV
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, dit le Seigneur, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

En tant qu'enfant, I did not learn what healthy boundaries looked like. I became a people pleaser at a very young age, et par conséquent, I allowed people to take advantage of me and treat me very poorly, and I never said a word. I wondered why I never truly felt loved by others; what was it? I didn’t think I was a person of value because of the way others treated me. Especially after my abortion, my self-loathing and depression really kicked in, and I was really struggling with feeling deeply connected and loved.

If I do not love myself, how can I expect others to love me and treat me properly. They wouldn’t. I was enabling unhealthy behavior because of the way I felt about myself. But when Jesus started healing me and His love came into my heart and I realized who I was in Him, I no longer felt like I deserved to be abused. I was loved by God. That’s what I needed to give me the extra courage to stand up to the bullies in my life.

For many of us, we had to learn what healthy boundaries were because we did not learn them in our home of origin. I recommend the book, Frontières, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. My son bought me this book back in the late 2000’s. It was so helpful to understand why I didn’t have boundaries and how to start putting them up and insist they be respected.

It takes courage and perseverance because those around you are not going to like your boundaries, and they will challenge them. But stick to your resolve, and eventually, they will respect them and you.

God has clear boundaries. When we sin, there is a separation between us and God. We need to confess those sins so that we are now right with God and that relationship is restored. God’s Ten Commandments are an example of boundaries.

Like you, I had wounds and issues from my past, which caused me to be self-consumed and blinded, and I could not see how I was hurting others closest to me. Only God can give us awareness and the courage to stop enabling unhealthy behavior and establish healthy boundaries. I was a little nervous the first time I used my voice to establish my boundaries. I explained my boundaries and insisted they be respected. There was some pushback, but I was not going to waiver.

D'abord, putting up boundaries is hard to do. But as God heals us, we get stronger, bolder, and more courageous. And we no longer want to just exist; we want to experience the abundant life Jesus came to give us. The first step in recovery is recognizing my life is unmanageable and I need God to help me.

Très Cher, I want you to know that God loves you so much that He sent His Son to die on the cross for you

John 3:16
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”

Have you received this gift of love and forgiveness from God? Sinon, you can do that today?

If you do know the Lord, then ask Him to help you to love yourself and to have courage to put up boundaries and no longer accept unhealthy behavior. He will help you if you ask Him. He did it for me, and I know He will do it for you too.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. Did you grow up in a home with healthy boundaries? Yes or No
  2. When did you first realize you did not have healthy boundaries?
  3. How did you start putting up boundaries? Was it received well? Sinon, what challenges did you experience?
  4. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous dans ce domaine?

I hope this topic has been helpful for you. Please reach out if you need prayer or someone to talk to. You can email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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Tu es la lumière du monde

Tu es la lumière du monde

Tu es la lumière du monde

Par Toni Weisz/Disciplines spirituelles

Écritures: Matthieu 5:3-16

Matthieu 5:3-16
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
Blessed are they which hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.
Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you, when they revile you, and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely, for My sake.
Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets which were before you. You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

Aujourd'hui, we are going to take a break from our usual format because so many of us have been suffering from some very hard trials, and I want to use this time to repent of any sin in our lives and to pray for guidance and wisdom in our personal lives and this ministry. Seigneur, so many in our midst have been suffering for a long time with no relief. We ask, Seigneur, for You to move mightily on our behalf. We are seeking You with our whole hearts. Please attend to the voice of our prayers. Your word says that You collect our tears in a bottle. So precious in Your sight are Your saints.

We pray for our leaders in our government. Lord God, we pray your Holy Spirit will break those whose ways and policies oppose You. We pray that You will bend the arrows they are firing at Ouiour children so their own hearts will be pierced instead. Seigneur, confound those who are swift to shed innocent blood, who cause division, who lie, cheat, steal, and run to mischief. We pray that You will convict them of their sins so they can confess and turn from them. Seigneur, we are praying for their salvation, in Jesus' Name.

We pray for our leaders in the church and in ministry. Seigneur, we bind any spirit of pride in the Name of Jesus. Help us to be humble and teachable. Help us to be quick to hear and slow to speak. I pray our words will not be harsh but will be life–affirming and encouraging. Help us to continually extend grace to others. Help us to be patient, gentil, and compassionate. Let the glorious light of the gospel shine through our actions and words. We pray others will be drawn to You through our testimonies.

We pray for those who have heard the gospel and have rejected it. C'est la bonté de Dieu qui mène à la repentance. Father, help us to reflect Ouiour beauty in this world. Help us to love others the way you do, without partiality. For they are Ouiour image–bearers and Your most magnificent creation. Seigneur, we are praying You will have mercy upon them. Open their spiritual eyes to see who You are. Open their hearts et make them soft and pliable like clay in the M.aster’s hand. Seigneur, we are praying for a mighty harvest of souls saved.

Father, we are praying for a mighty revival in our land; let it start with me, Seigneur.

Many times, we feel alone. I want to encourage you with this song from Hillsong United, "Another in the Fire":
https://youtu.be/WUSsEo52-a0. Let’s listen together.

Now let’s go to the Lord and share our hearts and our burdens. Let us confess sin and receive the forgiveness and healing we all need. Let’s join our hearts in one accord to worship and thank God for His goodness and faithfulness.

Please reach out if you need to talk or need prayer. Ouiou can email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are dearly loved,
Toni

 

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Un pécheur sauve par la grâce de Dieu

Un pécheur sauve par la grâce de Dieu

Un pécheur sauve par la grâce de Dieu

Dust Toni Weisz

 

Quand j'étais une petite fille, J'ai eu du mal à être parfait, pensant que ce serait aimé si c'était. Cela n'a pas fonctionné, Alors je me suis tourné vers l'alcool, au 12 années, Drogues 13, sexe 16, Et puis j'ai eu mon avortement avec le 21 années. Je me suis caché dans mes secrets et j'ai mis le masque de perfection, Mais à l'intérieur, il souffrait d'une profonde dépression et de la solitude.

Je cherchais l'amour et l'acceptation aux mauvais endroits. Ce vide profond m'a rendu vulnérable à l'ennemi. J'avais tellement de colère et de déteste pour moi que j'ai essayé de me blesser en frappant et en donnant des coups de pied sur les murs et les portes. J'étais hors de contrôle. Ma dépression a empiré, Surtout après l'avortement. Je voulais juste mettre fin à cette vie tourmentée.

Mais Dieu avait un plan différent pour moi, Un bon plan avec un bon avenir. Il 6 Février 1994, Dieu m'a sauvé radicalement et je suis né de nouveau au 34 années. Je suis très reconnaissant à Dieu pour sa miséricorde quand j'ai été perdu dans mes péchés, tourmenté, cassé, déprimé et seul. Je pensais que la vie ne valait pas la peine d'être vécue tant que Dieu m'a donné une vie abondante en Christ.

Je ne veux jamais oublier d'où je viens parce que ça m'aide à aimer encore plus Jésus pour ce qu'il a fait pour moi. Je suis un pécheur sauve par la grâce de Dieu, Et vous pouvez aussi être. Si vous n'avez jamais demandé à Jésus de pardonner vos péchés et d'être votre Seigneur et Sauveur, Donc aujourd'hui est le jour du salut pour vous.

La Bible dit:

23 Parce que tout le monde a péché, et sont licenciés de la gloire de Dieu, (Romains 3:23)

23 Parce que la rémunération du péché est la mort, De plus, le don de Dieu est la vie éternelle en Christ Jésus Seigneur nôtre. (Romains 6:23)

9 que si vous confessez avec votre bouche que Jésus est le Seigneur, Et croyez en ton cœur que Dieu l'a retiré des morts, Tu seras sauvé. 10 Parce qu'avec le cœur, on croit pour la justice, Mais avec la bouche, il avoue pour le salut. 11 Eh bien, l'écriture dit: Tous ceux qui croient en lui, Il ne aura pas honte. (Romains 10:9-11)

13 Parce que quiconque invoque le nom du Seigneur, Il sera sauvé. (Romains 10:13)

 

8 Parce que par grâce, vous êtes sauvé par la foi; Et ce n'est pas de toi, Eh bien, c'est le don de Dieu; 9 Pas pour les œuvres, pour que personne ne gloris. (Éphésiens 2:8-9)

Le salut est un cadeau de Dieu.

Recevrez-vous ce cadeau aujourd'hui?

Contactez-nous si vous voulez en savoir plus sur Jésus et ce que cela signifie “être né de nouveau ".

Vous pouvez m'envoyer un e-mail à toni@mystobeauty.com ou vous pouvez aller sur notre site Web, www.myashestobauty.com.

Merci et que Dieu vous bénisse.

— Toni Weisz

 

Un pécheur sauvé par la grâce

Un pécheur sauvé par la grâce

Un beau témoignage

Un beau témoignage

Un beau témoignage

Par Toni Weisz/Disciplines spirituelles

Écritures: Ruth 1:15-18 and James 4:6-8un,10

And she said, “See, your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods; return after your sister-in-law.” But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.” And when Naomi saw that she was determined to go with her, she said no more (Ruth 1:15-18).

Even in Naomi’s suffering, she was a powerful testimony to her two daughters-in-law who were living with her. So much so that Ruth left her family and all she knew and followed Naomi and embraced her God. To suffer well is not an easy thing to do, especially when we are plagued with prolonged suffering, hardship, and pain. We cry out to God and ask, "Seigneur, why is this trial lasting so long? What am I supposed to be learning from this? Please help me to endure.”

I know several of you are in a season of prolonged hardship, grief, difficult family situations, douleur, physical challenges, et dépression. It makes my heart sad to see you suffer so. But I know that our God never wastes our pain. He uses it for a specific purpose, which could be for salvation, or to make us aware of a blind spot, or to expose an unconfessed sin, or spiritual warfare, and/or a combination of several things, or the fact that we live in a fallen world and these human bodies are slowly breaking down.

I know in prolonged seasons of suffering; I have learned some very valuable truths about God that I would not have if I were healthy and strong and able to do my daily routine.

In your season of prolonged trials, what is God showing you?

Others are watching how you handle adversity.

For one of our dear sisters, her prolonged trials are leading her husband to seek the Lord. Praise Jesus for that.

While in this season, how has God used you to share the gospel with others or to pray for others or to receive help from others (which is sometimes hard to do)?

A humble and teachable spirit is of great value in the sight of God.

God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up (James 4: 6-8a and 10).

When we keep our eyes focused on God, I believe suffering can conform us to the image of Jesus. We can reflect His beauty, love, forgiveness and compassion to the world around us. When we have a humble, teachable spirit and we are seeking God with our whole heart, God can do amazing things in and through us. I believe this is what Naomi did, and as a result of her suffering well and seeking God with her whole heart, God turned her ashes of grief, sorrow, and despair and turned them into great joy. Ruth married Boaz and conceived a child who would be the grandfather to King David. Naomi’s life had been redeemed by God. She felt so blessed and cared for by God, and I pray that you too will experience that joy again.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. What is God showing you during this time of prolonged suffering?
  2. How can we come alongside you to help you endure this very difficult season?
  3. How has God used your trials to minister to another person?
  4. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

Je prie ce sujet qui vous a été utile. If you need to talk just text or email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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La paix de Dieu

La paix de Dieu

La paix de Dieu

by Toni Weisz/Spiritual Warfare

 

Références bibliques: Psaume 119:165, Galatians 5:22-23, John 16:33, Psaume 147:4, Isaïe 9:6, Psaume 27:10, et Jean 10:29

 

Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them. Psaume 119:165

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joie, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

These things have I spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world. John 16:33

When my father and mother forsake me, Then the Lord will take care of me. Psaume 27:10

Everyone in this world desires peace. The politicians are promising peace, but they cannot deliver that.

Why do we yearn for peace in our souls? Because we are all created by God, who offers this peace to all His children. Peace is listed third in the list of the fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22-23.

Jesus told us in John 16:33, “In this world you will have tribulation, trials, and suffering, but be assured and confident I have overcome the world.”

God created us for a relationship with Him, but we try to fill this void in our hearts with all kinds of things, but nothing satisfies. Only a relationship with Jesus can satisfy our longing soul for fellowship with our Creator God and Father.

Jesus is the answer to every problem we face in this world. He binds up our broken hearts and heals our wounds (ref. Psaume 147:3). He is the Great Physician.

In Isaiah 9:6, which is a foretelling of His birth, it states that Jesus will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

How can we describe God’s peace to someone who has never experienced it? It’s the knowledge that I am forgiven, and I don’t need to hide my sins and secrets anymore. I don’t have to wear a mask and pretend anymore that everything is great. I can be real. I am loved and accepted by God just the way I am because Jesus paid my sin debt on the cross. I am no longer separated from God. I can love and forgive others because of what God has done for me. I am free. That is what gives me peace. I don’t belong to the devil anymore; I was bought by the precious blood of Jesus. I belong to God now, and no one can pluck me out of the Father’s hand (ref. John 10:29).

During the time of writing this, I have not had peace in a few months, and I didn’t understand why until now. I was allowing the enemy to beat me down in the area of my earthly inheritance and finances. My son has been unable to work for over 2.5 years with an illness that is still undiagnosed, and my daughter is a single mom. And I am still in need.

I just figured out the wound the enemy has been poking. It’s my wound of rejection. As I am writing this, the Lord brought this verse to my mind, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” Psalm 27:10

Oh Lord, I am so grateful for your love and care for me and my family. I am so grateful that you removed the blindness so I could see the root cause for my torment. I feel abandoned and rejected and ne pas an heir in my earthly family. Wow!! That’s so huge, Seigneur. Thank you for this revelation.

At this moment on Sunday, Février 4, 2024, à 7:30 AM, I have experienced a breakthrough. Merci, Jésus. Now I know what I was dealing with. The enemy clouded my mind so I could not see clearly the root cause for my torment and lack of peace. I was feeling rejection from my earthly family.

Many of you dear ones have experienced abuse from your family members, who were supposed to love you and take care of you, and for that, I am so sorry you experienced that trauma. Those wounds are so deep. I pray you know how much you are loved by the Lord and that He wants to heal you in all your broken places. He wants you to come to Him as a little child, believing by faith that He is a safe person and that you can trust Him.

The enemy is continually trying to rob you of your peace because he knows you belong to God. He cannot take your spirit to hell, but he can torment you.

Spend time alone with the Lord in a quiet place, and allow His Holy Spirit minister to you. He loves you so much, and He knows your struggles. He collects your tears in a bottle. He knows everything about you, and He still loves you more than you can comprehend. Ask Him to cover you with His peace and to protect you. Make a daily decision to walk in His peace regardless of what is going on around you.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

1.) Are you experiencing God’s peace? Can you give an example of God’s peace in the middle of a storm or situation? What was that like for you? Please explain.

2.) Sinon, what is preventing you from experiencing His peace?

There are several things that can rob our peace: abuser de, unconfessed sin, severe pain, prolonged trials, rejection, abandon, weariness, solitude, depression, grief, désespoir, hopelessness, etc. Please explain.

3.) Comment pouvons-nous vous encourager aujourd'hui?

My prayer for you is that you will experience the peace and joy of the Lord in your heart, mind, and soul. S'il vous plaît tendre la main. Nous sommes là pour vous. Envoyez-moi un email à: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Tu es aimé,
Toni

P.S. I remembered I made a list of affirmations about five years ago called, “Who I am In Christ to Combat Rejection.” I used to read this list everyday for at least a year. I need to go back to doing that so I have my armor on and I am protected from the evil one’s lies.

 

 

 

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