Pourquoi les femmes ont-elles peur de partager leur secret d'avortement

Pourquoi les femmes ont-elles peur de partager leur secret d'avortement

Why are we fearful to share our abortion secret?
John 10:8-11

What is holding Christian women back from admitting this sin and coming forward to ask for healing? Why do women in leadership feel they cannot share they had an abortion? Will their ministries be less effective? I don’t think so. I truly believe when women in leadership come forward and admit this publicly, it gives the rest of the women sitting in the group or congregation, permission to come out and share as well.

The stats provided by Care Net tell us 4 out of 10 women identify as Christians and attend church at least once a month. These women are the first to have an abortion for fear of being found out. The enemy lies to them and tells them they have to take care of this quickly because they are a Pastor’s wife, or daughter, or they are in leadership; it has to be a secret and no one can find out. Alors, they quickly go to the abortion clinic and have an abortion. Afterwards they are a mess emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is wrong!!! The church and Christians should be the first ones to say we are here to help you, please do not terminate your child’s life because you made a mistake. There are other life affirming options available. That’s what the MLD course through Care Net does. It equips believers to come along side these women and men, to give them information about abortion and the life affirming alternatives, to pray with them, to share the Gospel with them, that Jesus died on the cross for them so they can have freedom, forgiveness of sins, and a new life; and to walk with them on this journey so they don’t feel all alone. This cycle of death in the church needs to stop and I pray Pastors and leaders’ eyes will be opened to this truth, and they will be willing to do something about it.

John 10:8-11 says "All who ever came before Me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not hear them. I am the door, if anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. The thief does not come but to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep."

The enemy hates everything that God created, especially his most beautiful creation mankind, because we are created in His image and are given a living Spirit. God created us to have a relationship with Him. But He gave us a free will also. The enemy, since the beginning of time, in the garden has lied to us and caused us to doubt God’s Word and His love for us. When we as believers go against God’s best for us or break His laws, we sin. That’s when the struggle begins and the enemy then has a foothold in our lives. That’s where the church is now. The enemy has these women and men who have aborted their babies, in bondage, isolation, and torment. He wants them to keep this a secret, because he wants to prevent them from experiencing true peace with God, forgiveness of sins, and he certainly doesn’t want us, (those who have been healed from our past abortions) to tell others that there is hope and healing in Christ. More people need to hear the truth from us, I pray our voices will be louder than the enemy’s, so people can truly be set free.

How can we encourage Christian women sitting in our churches every Sunday to share their secret of abortion? I believe they must hear someone’s abortion story; they need to see a face associated with an Abortion Recovery Ministry or Bible Study. Then they can feel safe to come forward. But for some reason the church is hesitant to share this from the pulpit, I’m not sure why. I am praying that God will raise up bold and courageous leaders who have had an abortion, to step up and share with other women to encourage them to step out also.

Laisse-moi te demander, why did it take you so long to come forward to admit you had an abortion?

Tell me your story. What did God use to get you to step out and come forward for healing?

As a result of your healing what has God called you to do?

Will you join me to stop abortion in the church and come alongside other women to encourage them to break this cycle of death, in exchange for one that leads to life, freedom, and peace?

Bénédictions,

Toni

Se concentrer sur une chose que je n'ai pas

Se concentrer sur une chose que je n'ai pas

Focusing on the One thing I don’t have, Veille.

Genèse 2:15-3:9, and Isaiah 61:1-3

How does the enemy torment a believer? It’s very simple actually, by getting us to focus on the one thing we don’t have: it can be financial security, a relationship, good health, a job, a family, a nice home, etc. Alors, let me ask you, what one thing are you focusing on right now that you don’t have?

Let’s look at Eve for example, she lived in a beautiful garden in perfect harmony with her husband and all of creation and they walked with and spoke with God daily. She had everything she could ever want, except one thing; God told them not to touch or eat of the tree in the midst of the garden because when they eat of it their eyes will be open and they will know good and evil. Alors, what does the serpent, the devil do? He comes to Eve after observing her looking at the tree. This is not in the Bible, but we know that the devil cannot read our minds. But he and his demons observe us and how we react to things. Alors, he is observing Eve over a period of time and notices her looking at the tree; he slithers by and starts talking with Eve. The first thing he does is to put doubt in Eve’s mind that God doesn’t love her or else he would have given her everything, that “God is holding out on you, because he knows if you eat of it you will be like God knowing good and evil.” No, the truth is, that by disobeying God, sin entered the world and there will now be conflict between the woman and her husband, all of creation will be forever changed, and their relationship with God will be broken. They will now experience pain, grief, sorrow, la honte, and guilt and Adam and Eve will be forced out of their beautiful garden to never return again. They will be cursed as a result of their sins. That sounds pretty harsh but that’s how evil sin is, we like to justify sin so it doesn’t sound so bad, but the truth is sin is destructive and it separates us form God and others.

Many of us chose abortion, drunkenness, drugs, promiscuity and lying, as a way to cope with all of the pain and destructive choices in our lives. We were spiraling out of control, until one day we met the Savior, who had mercy on us and saved us from the path of destruction we were on. He exchanged our ashes for something beautiful, He took our mourning and grief; he gave us joy and exchanged our rags for a beautiful pure white garment. He gave us a new life, a new destiny, a new song, and a new purpose. I don’t want my old life back because that person is dead and gone. I have been made new and I no longer desire the things I use to do.

 

Let me ask you what are you struggling with today?

 

What thing is the enemy causing you to focus on?

 

Have you ever asked Jesus to forgive your sins and to become your Lord and Savior?

 

Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

 

Bénédictions,

Toni

Votre vie a-t-elle été ressuscitée?

Votre vie a-t-elle été ressuscitée?

John 1:1,14, Titus 3:5, Luc 1:28, 2 Corinthiens 5:21, Matthieu 27:3-4, 1 Corinthiens 15:3-4, and Colossians 3:1

For those of us who have suffered the trauma of abortion, can agree that every part of our being, physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional, has been broken and shattered into a million pieces. We found ourselves barely able to function and as a result we chose unhealthy mechanisms to cope with our state of despair; such as alcohol, sex, drugs, achats, unhealthy relationships or anything that could fill the black hole in our heart. There is only one person who can pick up the shattered pieces of our broken lives and fill the hole in our heart and that is Jesus the only begotten Son of God. Have you truly met the Savior, the lover of your soul? Have you been led out of the darkness and chains, into His glorious healing light?

Where were you when you found Jesus? I was 34 years old and literally on my back laying on my couch for weeks at a time, and thinking this is not living, I am barely surviving, and wanting to end this torment of a life. My depression was so severe that I was incapable of getting on with my life and daily responsibilities. I was a broken, depressed, addicted, suicidal mess. On the outside, I pretended to have a perfect life, but inside I was dying and it became exceedingly more difficult to put on my mask every day. The only thing that kept me from formulating a plan to end my life were my 2 children who were very young, at the time around 7 et 8. I could not abandon them and leave them without a mother.

My husband had been on a quest to find the truth about Jesus and he was attending several churches in our area. In my desperation, I told him I wanted to attend church with him on one such Sunday. All four of us attended a small Baptist church in Browns Mills, NJ on January 2, 1994. For the next four weeks we would attend church as a family for Sunday School, Sunday Service, and on Sunday and Wednesday night meetings. My heart and mind were being saturated with the Bible, the Living Word of God (John 1:1,14). My Spirit was slowly being regenerated or reborn (Titus 3:5). My eyes and ears were opened and I heard things I had never heard before, and I had attended church my whole life. I heard that Jesus was born of a virgin teenager, a woman blessed and chosen by God, (Luc 1:28) but no different from you or I. He lived a sinless life, (2 Corinthiens 5:21) was betrayed by Judas Iscariot for 30 pieces of silver, (Matthieu 27:3-4) was tortured and crucified on a cross, died, was buried and rose again on the third day. (1 Corinthiens 15:3-4) He is alive and sitting at the right hand of the Father in Heaven. (Colossiens 3:1) When I realized that Jesus loved me so much that He died for me and He took upon himself my sins and He willingly died for me. I was finally broken of my self-sufficiency and pride and I humbled myself before God and I asked Him to forgive my sins and I asked Jesus to be my Lord and Savior.

The most memorable life transforming day of my life was on February 6, 1994 when I became a born-again believer in Jesus. I will never forget that evening after Church when I was of all things, smoking a cigarette in my garage; that addiction took longer to stop than my drinking which stopped immediately. It was a clear crisp beautiful February evening and looking up I saw the moon and stars and I had this overwhelming feeling inside that something happened, I felt my spirit quicken in me and I said, “I feel you in me, I am changed, thank you Jesus.” Tears streamed down my cheeks and I was filled with gratitude, love, and hope for the first time in my life, I felt completely loved.

Have you encountered Jesus?

Once you do you will never be the same.

Tell me your story, where were you when Jesus found you?

Bénédictions,

Toni

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Pensée puante: Pensées négatives

Pensée puante: Pensées négatives

Pensée puante: Pensées négatives

par Toni Weisz / Prise de pute

Écritures: 2 Corinthiens 10:3-5 and Philippians 4:8-9

La pensée puante fait référence aux pensées négatives qui nous tourmentent, surtout lorsque nous sommes ARRÊT (Hfaim, UNEen colère, Lseul ou Tirrité) this causes us to have a distorted view of God, self, pensée négative, justification, peur, et l'anxiété. Nous aborderons chacun de ces sujets afin de pouvoir discerner les mensonges auxquels nous avons cru au fil des années et les remplacer par la vérité de Dieu.. Notre objectif est de vous équiper pour que vous puissiez remporter la victoire dans ces domaines.

2 Corinthiens 10:3-5 NKJV
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down of strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself above the knowledge of God, brining every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.”

Philippiens 4:8-9 NKJV
“Finally, brethren whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there be any virtue and if there be anything praiseworthy, meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received, and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with.”

All of us know a person who can suck all the air out of a room because every word that comes out of their mouth is negative. Have you ever experienced that before? It is emotionally draining to be in the company of a negative person for a long period of time before we too are dragged down into the pit with them. Are you plagued with negative thoughts?

The enemy is continually trying to trip us up because his goal is to get us to focus on the negative things instead of all the things we should be thankful for. Do you have a gratitude list? If you don’t, I suggest you do one today, and write down all the things you are thankful for. When you feel a negative thought coming on, just get out your list and remind yourself that God is still on the throne and He is in control and He is aware of everything that is going on in the world. He uses all of it for His purpose and plans in all of our lives. We must remember God is good all the time and He is love; that is His character. He never changes. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

The battlefield truly is the mind. That is where spiritual warfare starts, and that’s where we have a choice to take it on or not. Right now, there is hatred and ethnic cleansing in certain parts of the world, wars and devastation due to earthquakes, fires, mud slides. M.any are fearful, in despair, and feeling hopeless. But as believers, we need to be seeking the Lord even more now so we have His perspective on this. What are you focusing on now? Do you feel peaceful and hopeful or depressed and hopeless?

I have a list of Biblical truths that I read over every morning to remind myself that I am adopted and loved by God. This is how I put my armor on to protect myself from the fiery darts of the enemy.

Qui je suis en Christ, to Combat Rejection

je suis digne.
je suis aimé.
je suis accepté.
je suis adopté.
Je suis confiant et compétent.
je suis un enfant de Dieu.
J'ai le Saint-Esprit en moi.
Je suis victorieux en Christ.
I am forgiven of all my sins and cleansed from all my unrighteousness.
J'ai une maison au paradis.
Nothing can separate me from the love of God in Christ Jesus, my Lord.
I am valued by God.
I am His precious child.
Je ne craindrai aucun mal!

When I read this every morning, it protects my mind and my heart from the lies and negative thoughts that the enemy wants me to focus on. When I don’t read my list on a daily basis, I am vulnerable to the enemy’s devices; I am impatient, unkind, self-righteous, judgmental, and easily frustrated.

Seigneur, You are showing me that today, in fact, I must make time with You each morning; You are my priority. Reading Your Word daily is food for my soul. Praying is a time for me to hear from Ouiou and to talk to Ouiou. Journaling is a time when I go even deeper with You, seeking Ouiour wisdom and wanting so much to hear from Ouiou to lead and guide me in my life and in all I do because I want my life to be pleasing to Ouiou, and I want Ouiou to be glorified through it. Merci, Seigneur, for reminding me and convicting me of that today.

Father in heaven, I pray for each woman reading this blog. I pray they will seek Ouiou with their whole heart. Show them how much Ouiou love them in a very real and tangible way. Protect them from the lies and negative thoughts of the enemy, and help them to focus on the things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of good report. Renew their minds daily as they read Your Word. Heal them and bind up their wounds as only You can, for Ouiou only are their Mighty Counselor and Great Physician. Meet them where they are and lead them by Your righteous right hand. Forgive all of their sins and heal them, Seigneur. Thank you for Your love, mercy, grace, and compassion upon them. We pray this in the powerful name of Jesus. Amen.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. Do you struggle with negative thoughts?
  2. How often are you plagued with these thoughts?
  3. Is there a person or situation that causes you to start thinking negatively?
  4. What have you done to help protect yourself from this kind of negative thinking?
  5. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

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Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

par Toni Weisz / Prise de pute

Écritures: Proverbes 23:7un, Romains 2:4d, 1 Corinthiens 6:20, John 3:16, 8:44, 1 John 4:8, and Jeremiah 29:11

Stinking Thinking refers to the negative thoughts that torment us, especially when we are ARRÊT (Hfaim, UNEen colère, Lseul ou Tirrité) ou avoir des pensées telles qu'une vision déformée de Dieu et de soi, pensée négative, justification, peur, et l'anxiété. Nous aborderons chacun de ces sujets afin de pouvoir discerner les mensonges auxquels nous avons cru au fil des années et les remplacer par la vérité de Dieu.. Notre objectif est de vous équiper pour que vous puissiez remporter la victoire dans ces domaines.

D'abord, the Word of God says in Proverbes 23:7un, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Ce que nous pensons de nous-mêmes dicte la façon dont nous nous percevons, Dieu, et d'autres, et comment nous réagissons aux choses. Si nous nous considérons comme enfants de Dieu, aimé, chéri et adopté dans la famille de Dieu, nous verrons que nous sommes vraiment spéciaux, mis à part par Dieu pour les bonnes œuvres. Nous aurons une vision plus positive du monde. Si nous sentons que nous ne sommes pas aimables à cause de nos péchés passés, et pas une personne de valeur, nous nous sentirons déprimés, solitaire, et désespéré. Pouvez-vous voir que ce que nous pensons détermine ce que nous ressentons?

My first distorted view of God started when I was a very young child around six or seven years old. J'ai vu Dieu comme un Dieu en colère et inaccessible. I was told as a child that if I did something wrong God would punish me, J'attendais constamment que le marteau me tombe sur la tête à chaque fois que je faisais quelque chose de mal. The church I attended was old and had beautiful stained-glass windows, mais à l'intérieur il faisait noir, froid, et les gens parlaient en latin. Je n'y ai pas vu l'amour de Dieu. Tout ce que j'ai vu, c'était des règles strictes et des punitions sévères en cas de désobéissance.. J'ai vu régulièrement des étudiants frapper avec des règles.. Cela m'a empêché de me cacher à nouveau, comme je l'ai fait à la maison, quand mon père avait une de ses crises de colère.

C'est la bonté de Dieu qui mène à la repentance (Ref. Romains 2:4d). Une méthode pour modifier le comportement consiste à avoir peur du jugement; l'autre c'est par l'amour. Dieu veut que nous lui obéissions par amour et non par peur. Si tu aimes quelqu'un et qu'il t'aime, tu veux passer du temps avec cette personne, mais quand tu penses à quelqu'un comme à une personne dure, ce n'est pas quelqu'un avec qui vous vous sentez en sécurité et à l'aise. Voyez-vous la différence? Dieu est amour, et sa grâce est imméritée. Because of what Jesus did for us on the cross, the least we can do is serve Him and obey His Word. We were bought with a price (Ref. 1 Corinthiens 6:20); the precious blood of Jesus paid the penalty for our sins and the sins of the whole world.

Je n'ai pas vu l'amour de Dieu évident dans mon ancienne église. Ce n'est que lorsque j'étais 34, quand j'ai fréquenté une petite église baptiste du New Jersey, que j'ai entendu l'évangile pour la première fois. Le bâtiment était très simple, pas de vitraux. Il y avait une croix devant où se tenait le prédicateur et un piano. Mais une chose que j'ai vue manifestée était l'amour de Dieu que ces gens avaient. C'est ce qui m'a attiré vers Jésus. C'était la prédication de la Parole de Dieu à travers la Bible et l'amour de Dieu dans les paroles, les actions et sur les visages des personnes qui fréquentaient cette petite église..

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son…” Il nous a tellement aimé qu'il a donné son Fils mourir pour vous et moi; c'est une image de l'amour sacrificiel. Merci, Jésus, pour mourir volontairement sur la croix pour nous, Je sais que c'est ton amour pour le monde qui t'a retenu sur cette croix.

Je crois que l'ennemi travaille dur pour déformer notre vision de Dieu, pour nous faire douter qu'Il nous aime vraiment et se soucie de nous. Regarde Eve dans le jardin, le serpent (Satan), le trompeur et père du mensonge, essayer de semer le doute dans l’esprit d’Ève quant à savoir si on peut faire confiance à la Parole de Dieu. J'imagine qu'elle pensait, "Dieu me cache quelque chose de bon. Il ne m'aime pas vraiment parce que s'il le faisait, He would give me everything I want.” Adam and Eve did not know what was best for them, et c'est pareil chez nous; nous ne savons pas non plus ce qui est le mieux pour nous. Dieu nous a dit de ne pas avoir de relations sexuelles avant le mariage. Était-il en train de nous tenir tête? Non, en fait, il nous protégeait, surtout ceux d'entre nous qui voudraient avorter nos bébés. He was trying to protect us and our babies from physical death, and emotional, mental, and spiritual torment and bondage to the evil one.

J'ai réalisé que c'était par amour que Dieu ne voulait pas que j'aie des relations sexuelles en dehors du mariage, parce qu'il voulait me protéger. If only I had trusted God and invited Him into my decision-making process and believed that He would provide for my baby and me, alors peut-être que j'aurais eu le courage de choisir la vie pour mon bébé. Instead, my distorted view of God made me fearful to approach Him with my needs, which was the enemy’s plan. If the enemy can cause us to panic and not seek God’s wisdom, disposition, et protection, alors il a gagné la bataille.

For you precious ones who were abused, abandoned, and rejected by family, guardians, and friends—those who were supposed to protect and provide for you—God saw and it broke His heart. This deep-seated fear associated with authority figures causes us to doubt that God is a good Father who loves us. We associate the characteristics of these individuals to God. We think He must be abusive and will reject and abandon us too. That is a lie from the evil one. Dieu est amour. Love is His character. We will never experience perfect love except through Jesus, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit. The evil one wanted us to believe these lies about God so He could destroy our lives. And he did, pendant de nombreuses années, but then GOD!!! God had a different plan for our lives, one that is good to give us a hope and a future.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. What were your distorted views of God as a child, teen, and young adult? What was He like?
  2. Comment le vois-tu maintenant?
  3. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you to see how the evil one through his deception and lies did not want us to know God. But God with His great love and mercy toward us, pursued us and drew us to Himself. He is a refuge for the oppressed. He binds up the broken hearted and heals all our wounds.

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Toni

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