Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

Pensée puante: Ma vision déformée de Dieu

par Toni Weisz / Prise de pute

Écritures: Proverbes 23:7un, Romains 2:4d, 1 Corinthiens 6:20, John 3:16, 8:44, 1 John 4:8, and Jeremiah 29:11

Stinking Thinking refers to the negative thoughts that torment us, especially when we are ARRÊT (Hfaim, UNEen colère, Lseul ou Tirrité) ou avoir des pensées telles qu'une vision déformée de Dieu et de soi, pensée négative, justification, peur, et l'anxiété. Nous aborderons chacun de ces sujets afin de pouvoir discerner les mensonges auxquels nous avons cru au fil des années et les remplacer par la vérité de Dieu.. Notre objectif est de vous équiper pour que vous puissiez remporter la victoire dans ces domaines.

D'abord, the Word of God says in Proverbes 23:7un, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Ce que nous pensons de nous-mêmes dicte la façon dont nous nous percevons, Dieu, et d'autres, et comment nous réagissons aux choses. Si nous nous considérons comme enfants de Dieu, aimé, chéri et adopté dans la famille de Dieu, nous verrons que nous sommes vraiment spéciaux, mis à part par Dieu pour les bonnes œuvres. Nous aurons une vision plus positive du monde. Si nous sentons que nous ne sommes pas aimables à cause de nos péchés passés, et pas une personne de valeur, nous nous sentirons déprimés, solitaire, et désespéré. Pouvez-vous voir que ce que nous pensons détermine ce que nous ressentons?

My first distorted view of God started when I was a very young child around six or seven years old. J'ai vu Dieu comme un Dieu en colère et inaccessible. I was told as a child that if I did something wrong God would punish me, J'attendais constamment que le marteau me tombe sur la tête à chaque fois que je faisais quelque chose de mal. The church I attended was old and had beautiful stained-glass windows, mais à l'intérieur il faisait noir, froid, et les gens parlaient en latin. Je n'y ai pas vu l'amour de Dieu. Tout ce que j'ai vu, c'était des règles strictes et des punitions sévères en cas de désobéissance.. J'ai vu régulièrement des étudiants frapper avec des règles.. Cela m'a empêché de me cacher à nouveau, comme je l'ai fait à la maison, quand mon père avait une de ses crises de colère.

C'est la bonté de Dieu qui mène à la repentance (Ref. Romains 2:4d). Une méthode pour modifier le comportement consiste à avoir peur du jugement; l'autre c'est par l'amour. Dieu veut que nous lui obéissions par amour et non par peur. Si tu aimes quelqu'un et qu'il t'aime, tu veux passer du temps avec cette personne, mais quand tu penses à quelqu'un comme à une personne dure, ce n'est pas quelqu'un avec qui vous vous sentez en sécurité et à l'aise. Voyez-vous la différence? Dieu est amour, et sa grâce est imméritée. Because of what Jesus did for us on the cross, the least we can do is serve Him and obey His Word. We were bought with a price (Ref. 1 Corinthiens 6:20); the precious blood of Jesus paid the penalty for our sins and the sins of the whole world.

Je n'ai pas vu l'amour de Dieu évident dans mon ancienne église. Ce n'est que lorsque j'étais 34, quand j'ai fréquenté une petite église baptiste du New Jersey, que j'ai entendu l'évangile pour la première fois. Le bâtiment était très simple, pas de vitraux. Il y avait une croix devant où se tenait le prédicateur et un piano. Mais une chose que j'ai vue manifestée était l'amour de Dieu que ces gens avaient. C'est ce qui m'a attiré vers Jésus. C'était la prédication de la Parole de Dieu à travers la Bible et l'amour de Dieu dans les paroles, les actions et sur les visages des personnes qui fréquentaient cette petite église..

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son…” Il nous a tellement aimé qu'il a donné son Fils mourir pour vous et moi; c'est une image de l'amour sacrificiel. Merci, Jésus, pour mourir volontairement sur la croix pour nous, Je sais que c'est ton amour pour le monde qui t'a retenu sur cette croix.

Je crois que l'ennemi travaille dur pour déformer notre vision de Dieu, pour nous faire douter qu'Il nous aime vraiment et se soucie de nous. Regarde Eve dans le jardin, le serpent (Satan), le trompeur et père du mensonge, essayer de semer le doute dans l’esprit d’Ève quant à savoir si on peut faire confiance à la Parole de Dieu. J'imagine qu'elle pensait, "Dieu me cache quelque chose de bon. Il ne m'aime pas vraiment parce que s'il le faisait, He would give me everything I want.” Adam and Eve did not know what was best for them, et c'est pareil chez nous; nous ne savons pas non plus ce qui est le mieux pour nous. Dieu nous a dit de ne pas avoir de relations sexuelles avant le mariage. Était-il en train de nous tenir tête? Non, en fait, il nous protégeait, surtout ceux d'entre nous qui voudraient avorter nos bébés. He was trying to protect us and our babies from physical death, and emotional, mental, and spiritual torment and bondage to the evil one.

J'ai réalisé que c'était par amour que Dieu ne voulait pas que j'aie des relations sexuelles en dehors du mariage, parce qu'il voulait me protéger. If only I had trusted God and invited Him into my decision-making process and believed that He would provide for my baby and me, alors peut-être que j'aurais eu le courage de choisir la vie pour mon bébé. Instead, my distorted view of God made me fearful to approach Him with my needs, which was the enemy’s plan. If the enemy can cause us to panic and not seek God’s wisdom, disposition, et protection, alors il a gagné la bataille.

For you precious ones who were abused, abandoned, and rejected by family, guardians, and friends—those who were supposed to protect and provide for you—God saw and it broke His heart. This deep-seated fear associated with authority figures causes us to doubt that God is a good Father who loves us. We associate the characteristics of these individuals to God. We think He must be abusive and will reject and abandon us too. That is a lie from the evil one. Dieu est amour. Love is His character. We will never experience perfect love except through Jesus, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit. The evil one wanted us to believe these lies about God so He could destroy our lives. And he did, pendant de nombreuses années, but then GOD!!! God had a different plan for our lives, one that is good to give us a hope and a future.

Des questions à prendre à cœur:

  1. What were your distorted views of God as a child, teen, and young adult? What was He like?
  2. Comment le vois-tu maintenant?
  3. Comment pouvons-nous prier pour vous?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you to see how the evil one through his deception and lies did not want us to know God. But God with His great love and mercy toward us, pursued us and drew us to Himself. He is a refuge for the oppressed. He binds up the broken hearted and heals all our wounds.

Si tu as besoin de parler, please reach out you can email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Tu es aimé,
Toni

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Pourquoi le pardon est-il si important pour notre bien-être

Pourquoi le pardon est-il si important pour notre bien-être

Matthieu 6:14-15, Hebrews 12:14-15, Proverbes 16:24 et 17:22

God commands us to forgive others. In Matthew 6:14-15 Jesus says, “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

Unforgiveness toward another person is a sin and separates us from God. If God can forgive me of all the evil I have done, how can I not forgive others? When we are in sin, we give the enemy a foothold. To prevent the enemy from gaining this access to our lives and tormenting us, we must confess our sins. If I hold onto unforgiveness, I become resentful, and then eventually bitter. Hebrews 12:14-15 says, “Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…”

Unforgiveness left unchecked will defile all my relationships including and especially, my relationship with God. By releasing an individual into God’s hands for the offense they have committed against me or my family, I am handing them over to God for Him to deal with them. I then pray for that individual, continually asking the Lord to help me see the good in them and to help me forgive them. Forgiveness is a process. Keep asking God to help you forgive others.

In my family of origin, forgiveness was not demonstrated. Instead, we would just cut people off. For many years I didn’t see my cousins from my father’s side of the family because of some dispute. I picked up on that as a child and learned it as normal behavior. There is no grace and no forgiveness, only harsh words, actions and broken families. My family doesn’t apologize for things. They simply avoid bringing these things up for discussion, leaving the issues unresolved. Over time, I am supposed to forget about the offence because people will never apologize. toutefois, I am a believer and am held to a higher standard; I am commanded to forgive others. I must obey God. He knows what is best for me. Holding onto unforgiveness destroys my peace; it controls me and torments me. On the other hand, when I forgive someone, they no longer have power over me and I am set free.

The Bible says that our words should be life affirming and encouraging to the hearer. Proverbes 16:24 says, “Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” In Proverbs 17:22 nous lisons, “A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.” We represent God to a world sitting in darkness and torment. The world does not know what the truth is; it is deceived by the evil one.

The people I need to forgive who were involved in my abortion decision:

  • The nurses and doctor for performing my abortion
  • Law makers for making abortion legal
  • My boyfriend for not fighting for our baby
  • Myself for thinking it was ok to tell my boyfriend we didn’t need birth control

Who do you need to forgive?

Forgiveness leads to freedom. It sets me free from holding others responsible for the wrongs they have done. By releasing them to God, they no longer have power over me. I choose to let go and to forgive them. This is not always easy, but it is critically important for my peace with God and others.

—Toni

Further reading on this topic:

Le pardon

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The Tool of Detachment

The Tool of Detachment

John 10:10un, 1st Corinthians 14:33b, Proverbes 6:19b, James 1:19

The tool of detachment gives me the ability to love someone without getting caught up in their dysfunction. Satan is the author of confusion, chaos, and discord among the brethren and our families. He has made this his primary mission: to steal, kill, and destroy our testimonies, our relationships, our peace, our joy, and to make our lives miserable. We must guard our hearts from responding to others in ways that are hurtful and mean spirited, instead speaking the truth in love. Use your voice in a way that is pleasing to God and to the hearer. Recognize that everyone has wounds from their past and the way in which people respond to certain situations has a lot to do with where they are in their healing process. It’s important to remember, “Hurting people hurt people.” They are blinded by their wounds and cannot see how they are hurting others.

It is extremely important to have healthy boundaries. I grew up with no boundaries at all. I had to educate myself about boundaries and learn how to communicate them with others. Eventually, I started speaking up for myself and sharing how I was feeling. Over time, it became second nature for me to use my voice and to protect myself from unhealthy people or situations. Starting something new is always the hardest part, but it becomes easier with time.

If you have not read the book, “Boundaries,” by Cloud and Townsend, I suggest you do. This book is a very helpful resource. In my journey with the tool of detachment, I also had to recognize that I cannot fix, sauvetage, or save anyone. I had to realize that I cannot control another person, nor can I change them, but rather, God can. I had to surrender to God and relinquish all control to Him. As soon as I did, I began to feel more peaceful, calmer and less anxious about things.

When I trust God and humble myself before Him, I am released from being tormented by the evil one. A humble, teachable spirit is a very powerful weapon against the enemy, and God draws near to the humble. There are times I need to leave a room and walk away from a conversation because I feel I may say something I will regret. Once I say something that is hurtful, I can never take it back. Removing myself from a volatile situation is sometimes my only option. By doing this, I have a chance to cool down, think, and pray before I respond to this person or situation. I can now respond, instead of just reacting without thinking. God wants me to think and pray before I speak, knowing that my words can be used to lift others up or they can cause others to stumble.

Detachment gives me wisdom and discernment when dealing with a situation or an individual who is in a volatile state. I don’t have to fear or be anxious, and I don’t have to take the situation on as my own. Instead, I can recognize that the occurrence has nothing to do with me. I can respond in a calm and godly manner, and I can speak the truth in love. I can walk away and return when I am calmer and more composed. Seeking God during this process helps me to remain in peace and in control of my emotions; that’s all I am responsible for, and I leave the rest in God’s hands.

In His love and service,

—Toni

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Qu'est-ce que le péché?

Qu'est-ce que le péché?

Sin is living in rebellion against God’s laws. Sin was passed down to us from our first parents, Adam and Eve. Since the fall, the whole earth and every inhabitant has been affected by sin. In essence, sin is a choice to go our own way apart from God’s perfect plans. Sin is self-seeking, prideful, and destructive:

“Sin will take you farther than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay. –” R Zaccharias

Genèse 3: 1-5 Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Seigneur God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?" 2 And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; 3 but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’ ” 4 Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. 5 For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

1 Corinthiens 15:22 For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ all shall be made alive.

Ezekiel 18:20 The soul who sins shall die.

We see from the garden that Satan has been deceiving us into believing that sin is acceptable, that everybody does it, and that there are no consequences for it. As a result of Adam and Eve’s sin the whole world was plunged into sin, la mort, and destruction. Before that time there was no sin or death. Everything and everyone lived in perfect harmony. Sin destroyed the garden, the relationship between Adam and Eve, their relationship with God, and even the relationship between animals (after the fall, animals no longer just ate grass and herbs).  In short, the whole world suffered the consequences of their sin. Once they sinned, Adam and Eve experienced separation from God for the first time. They felt shame, culpabilité, fear and loss.

When I found out I was pregnant at 21, I ran and hid, just like Adam and Eve did. I didn’t want my parents to find out. I thought I could take care of it quickly, on my own, no big deal. That was a lie from the pit of hell. It was a huge deal, and this supposed quick fix plunged me head long into a deeper depression than before. Suicidal thoughts, feelings of unworthiness, self-loathing and despair overshadowed me. I felt I was all alone in a dark place, where no one knew how badly I was struggling with my decision.

Why are we so affected by abortion?  Because we are going against our very nature, God created women to nurture, love, and take care of their children. Instead, we did the opposite and murdered our children. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the truth. The enemy is lying to young woman today, saying that abortion is healthcare and that it is a form of contraception, that is a lie, it is terminating a life. For a woman, nothing good comes out of abortion, nothing.

I am so grateful to God for having mercy upon me. This broken woman who once was barely surviving, is now a woman thriving and filled with the Holy Spirit of God (my constant companion, guide, and friend).  I am hopeful, joyful, and loved completely by God. I am His precious daughter. I pray that you too can experience peace with God and a relationship with Jesus Christ, His Son. God bless you, mon cher.

 

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Self-Pity

Self-Pity

Self-Pity

Philippiens 2:2-4, Galatians 5:22-23

God wants me to spend less time thinking of myself, and more time thinking of Him and others.

Self-pity is being consumed with thoughts about oneself, usually regarding some unfair situation or treatment by others. Self-pity is feeling sorry for yourself and asking yourself questions like, “Why Me? Why is God not doing something about this situation that I am in?"

I feel self-pity when I perceive an injustice, when I am feeling rejected or left out, when I compare myself to other women, or when I am hurt and disappointed by another’s actions. Self-pity is a dark, slippery, deep hole. In this pit I feel alone, abandoned by others, and tormented.

When I focus on self and not God, I have a distorted view of truth. I feel hopelessness because I am doing things in my own strength. I cannot see how my circumstances can change because I am powerless to change them. When I focus on self and not God, the enemy sees that I am vulnerable and attacks me with his fiery darts. My head and eyes are cast down, I am heavy with no energy, and I feel all alone. When I am looking down, I cannot see God and be thankful for all the things He does for me on a daily basis. This is the enemy’s plan. He wants me to isolate myself from God and others. He wants me to focus on that one thing I don’t have, and he continues to lie to me until I start believing him. Puis, he has me exactly where he wants me. His purpose in this world is to steal, kill, and destroy me, my testimony, my joy, and my trust in God.

I also know I am in self-pity mode when I compare myself to other women, being critical and judgmental towards them. This happens when I am feeling insecure about myself and I am not walking in the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). When I catch myself thinking like this and speaking harsh things, I immediately recognize I am in sin, confess this to God, and ask for forgiveness. Instead of judging others, I need to look for the similarities between us and seek out the good in them. Who am I to judge another person? Only Jesus is Judge. I am commanded by God to love others.

How can we get out of the pit of despair and negative thoughts?

  • The Word of God replaces those negative thoughts and lies with His truth. It is His truth that makes us free. (John 8:32)

     

  • By focusing on others. We read in Philippians 2:2-4: “Fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let His mind be in you (The mind that was in Christ)."

In His love & service,

Toni

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