¿Por qué las mujeres tienen miedo de compartir el secreto del aborto?

¿Por qué las mujeres tienen miedo de compartir el secreto del aborto?

Why are we fearful to share our abortion secret?
John 10:8-11

What is holding Christian women back from admitting this sin and coming forward to ask for healing? Why do women in leadership feel they cannot share they had an abortion? Will their ministries be less effective? I don’t think so. I truly believe when women in leadership come forward and admit this publicly, it gives the rest of the women sitting in the group or congregation, permission to come out and share as well.

The stats provided by Care Net tell us 4 out of 10 women identify as Christians and attend church at least once a month. These women are the first to have an abortion for fear of being found out. The enemy lies to them and tells them they have to take care of this quickly because they are a Pastor’s wife, or daughter, or they are in leadership; it has to be a secret and no one can find out. Entonces, they quickly go to the abortion clinic and have an abortion. Afterwards they are a mess emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is wrong!!! The church and Christians should be the first ones to say we are here to help you, please do not terminate your child’s life because you made a mistake. There are other life affirming options available. That’s what the MLD course through Care Net does. It equips believers to come along side these women and men, to give them information about abortion and the life affirming alternatives, to pray with them, to share the Gospel with them, that Jesus died on the cross for them so they can have freedom, forgiveness of sins, and a new life; and to walk with them on this journey so they don’t feel all alone. This cycle of death in the church needs to stop and I pray Pastors and leaders’ eyes will be opened to this truth, and they will be willing to do something about it.

John 10:8-11 says “All who ever came before Me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not hear them. I am the door, if anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. The thief does not come but to steal, matar, and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep."

The enemy hates everything that God created, especially his most beautiful creation mankind, because we are created in His image and are given a living Spirit. God created us to have a relationship with Him. But He gave us a free will also. The enemy, since the beginning of time, in the garden has lied to us and caused us to doubt God’s Word and His love for us. When we as believers go against God’s best for us or break His laws, we sin. That’s when the struggle begins and the enemy then has a foothold in our lives. That’s where the church is now. The enemy has these women and men who have aborted their babies, in bondage, isolation, and torment. He wants them to keep this a secret, because he wants to prevent them from experiencing true peace with God, forgiveness of sins, and he certainly doesn’t want us, (those who have been healed from our past abortions) to tell others that there is hope and healing in Christ. More people need to hear the truth from us, I pray our voices will be louder than the enemy’s, so people can truly be set free.

How can we encourage Christian women sitting in our churches every Sunday to share their secret of abortion? I believe they must hear someone’s abortion story; they need to see a face associated with an Abortion Recovery Ministry or Bible Study. Then they can feel safe to come forward. But for some reason the church is hesitant to share this from the pulpit, I’m not sure why. I am praying that God will raise up bold and courageous leaders who have had an abortion, to step up and share with other women to encourage them to step out also.

Let me ask you, why did it take you so long to come forward to admit you had an abortion?

Tell me your story. What did God use to get you to step out and come forward for healing?

As a result of your healing what has God called you to do?

Will you join me to stop abortion in the church and come alongside other women to encourage them to break this cycle of death, in exchange for one that leads to life, freedom, and peace?

Bendiciones,

Toni

Centrándome en lo único que no tengo

Centrándome en lo único que no tengo

Focusing on the One thing I don’t have, víspera.

Génesis 2:15-3:9, and Isaiah 61:1-3

How does the enemy torment a believer? It’s very simple actually, by getting us to focus on the one thing we don’t have: it can be financial security, a relationship, good health, a job, a family, a nice home, etc.. Entonces, let me ask you, what one thing are you focusing on right now that you don’t have?

Let’s look at Eve for example, she lived in a beautiful garden in perfect harmony with her husband and all of creation and they walked with and spoke with God daily. She had everything she could ever want, except one thing; God told them not to touch or eat of the tree in the midst of the garden because when they eat of it their eyes will be open and they will know good and evil. Entonces, what does the serpent, the devil do? He comes to Eve after observing her looking at the tree. This is not in the Bible, but we know that the devil cannot read our minds. But he and his demons observe us and how we react to things. Entonces, he is observing Eve over a period of time and notices her looking at the tree; he slithers by and starts talking with Eve. The first thing he does is to put doubt in Eve’s mind that God doesn’t love her or else he would have given her everything, that “God is holding out on you, because he knows if you eat of it you will be like God knowing good and evil.” No, the truth is, that by disobeying God, sin entered the world and there will now be conflict between the woman and her husband, all of creation will be forever changed, and their relationship with God will be broken. They will now experience pain, grief, sorrow, shame, and guilt and Adam and Eve will be forced out of their beautiful garden to never return again. They will be cursed as a result of their sins. That sounds pretty harsh but that’s how evil sin is, we like to justify sin so it doesn’t sound so bad, but the truth is sin is destructive and it separates us form God and others.

Many of us chose abortion, drunkenness, drugs, promiscuity and lying, as a way to cope with all of the pain and destructive choices in our lives. We were spiraling out of control, until one day we met the Savior, who had mercy on us and saved us from the path of destruction we were on. He exchanged our ashes for something beautiful, He took our mourning and grief; he gave us joy and exchanged our rags for a beautiful pure white garment. He gave us a new life, a new destiny, a new song, and a new purpose. I don’t want my old life back because that person is dead and gone. I have been made new and I no longer desire the things I use to do.

 

Let me ask you what are you struggling with today?

 

What thing is the enemy causing you to focus on?

 

Have you ever asked Jesus to forgive your sins and to become your Lord and Savior?

 

Cómo podemos orar por ti?

 

Bendiciones,

Toni

¿Ha resucitado tu vida??

¿Ha resucitado tu vida??

John 1:1,14, Titus 3:5, Lucas 1:28, 2 Corintios 5:21, mateo 27:3-4, 1 Corintios 15:3-4, and Colossians 3:1

For those of us who have suffered the trauma of abortion, can agree that every part of our being, physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional, has been broken and shattered into a million pieces. We found ourselves barely able to function and as a result we chose unhealthy mechanisms to cope with our state of despair; such as alcohol, sex, drugs, shopping, unhealthy relationships or anything that could fill the black hole in our heart. There is only one person who can pick up the shattered pieces of our broken lives and fill the hole in our heart and that is Jesus the only begotten Son of God. Have you truly met the Savior, the lover of your soul? Have you been led out of the darkness and chains, into His glorious healing light?

Where were you when you found Jesus? Era 34 years old and literally on my back laying on my couch for weeks at a time, and thinking this is not living, I am barely surviving, and wanting to end this torment of a life. My depression was so severe that I was incapable of getting on with my life and daily responsibilities. I was a broken, depressed, addicted, suicidal mess. On the outside, I pretended to have a perfect life, but inside I was dying and it became exceedingly more difficult to put on my mask every day. The only thing that kept me from formulating a plan to end my life were my 2 children who were very young, at the time around 7 y 8. I could not abandon them and leave them without a mother.

My husband had been on a quest to find the truth about Jesus and he was attending several churches in our area. In my desperation, I told him I wanted to attend church with him on one such Sunday. All four of us attended a small Baptist church in Browns Mills, NJ on January 2, 1994. For the next four weeks we would attend church as a family for Sunday School, Sunday Service, and on Sunday and Wednesday night meetings. My heart and mind were being saturated with the Bible, the Living Word of God (John 1:1,14). My Spirit was slowly being regenerated or reborn (Titus 3:5). My eyes and ears were opened and I heard things I had never heard before, and I had attended church my whole life. I heard that Jesus was born of a virgin teenager, a woman blessed and chosen by God, (Lucas 1:28) but no different from you or I. He lived a sinless life, (2 Corintios 5:21) was betrayed by Judas Iscariot for 30 pieces of silver, (mateo 27:3-4) was tortured and crucified on a cross, died, was buried and rose again on the third day. (1 Corintios 15:3-4) He is alive and sitting at the right hand of the Father in Heaven. (colosenses 3:1) When I realized that Jesus loved me so much that He died for me and He took upon himself my sins and He willingly died for me. I was finally broken of my self-sufficiency and pride and I humbled myself before God and I asked Him to forgive my sins and I asked Jesus to be my Lord and Savior.

The most memorable life transforming day of my life was on February 6, 1994 when I became a born-again believer in Jesus. I will never forget that evening after Church when I was of all things, smoking a cigarette in my garage; that addiction took longer to stop than my drinking which stopped immediately. It was a clear crisp beautiful February evening and looking up I saw the moon and stars and I had this overwhelming feeling inside that something happened, I felt my spirit quicken in me and I said, “I feel you in me, I am changed, thank you Jesus.” Tears streamed down my cheeks and I was filled with gratitude, love, and hope for the first time in my life, I felt completely loved.

Have you encountered Jesus?

Once you do you will never be the same.

Tell me your story, where were you when Jesus found you?

Bendiciones,

Toni

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Pensamiento apestoso: Pensamientos negativos

Pensamiento apestoso: Pensamientos negativos

2 Corintios 10:3-5 y filipenses 4:8-9

El pensamiento apestoso se refiere a los pensamientos negativos que nos atormentan especialmente cuando estamos DETENER (hinfeliz, Aenojado, lsolo o tenojado) o tener pensamientos como una visión distorsionada de Dios y de uno mismo, pensamiento negativo, justificación, miedo, y ansiedad. Abordaremos cada uno de estos temas para que podamos discernir entre las mentiras que hemos creído a lo largo de los años y reemplazarlas con la verdad de Dios.. Nuestro objetivo es equiparte para que puedas tener la victoria en estas áreas..

2 Corintios 10:3-5 NKJV

“Porque aunque andemos en la carne, no hacemos la guerra según la carne. Porque las armas de nuestra guerra no son carnales sino poderosas en Dios para derribar fortalezas., derribando argumentos y toda altivez que se levanta sobre el conocimiento de Dios, llevando cautivo todo pensamiento a la obediencia a Cristo”.

filipenses 4:8-9 NKJV

"Finalmente, hermanos todo lo que es verdad, cualquier cosa que sea honesta, cualquier cosa que sea justa, cualquier cosa que sea pura, cualquier cosa que sea hermosa, cualquier cosa que sea de buen informe, si hay alguna virtud y si hay algo digno de alabanza, medita en estas cosas. Las cosas que aprendiste y recibiste., y oyó y vio en mí, estos lo hacen, y el Dios de paz estará con nosotros”.

Todos conocemos a una persona que puede aspirar todo el aire de una habitación porque cada palabra que sale de su boca es negativa.. ¿Alguna vez has experimentado eso antes?? Es emocionalmente agotador estar en compañía de una persona negativa durante un largo periodo de tiempo., antes de que nosotros también seamos arrastrados al abismo con ellos. ¿Estás plagado de pensamientos negativos??

El enemigo está continuamente tratando de hacernos tropezar., porque su objetivo es hacer que nos centremos en las cosas negativas, en lugar de todas las cosas por las que deberíamos estar agradecidos. ¿Tienes una lista de agradecimiento?? Si no lo haces, te sugiero que hagas uno hoy, y escribe todas las cosas por las que estás agradecido. Cuando sientes que te viene un pensamiento negativo, simplemente saca tu lista y recuérdate, Dios todavía está en el trono y tiene el control y está al tanto de todo lo que sucede en el mundo.. Él usa todo para Su propósito y planes en todas nuestras vidas.. Debemos recordar que Dios es bueno todo el tiempo., y el es amor, ese es su carácter. el nunca cambia, el es el mismo ayer, hoy, y mañana.

El campo de batalla es realmente la mente., Ahí es donde comienza la guerra espiritual y ahí es donde tenemos la opción de enfrentarla o no.. Ahora mismo, estamos viviendo una pandemia mundial, muchos tienen miedo, pero como creyentes necesitamos buscar al Señor aún más ahora., entonces tenemos su perspectiva sobre esto. ¿En qué te estás concentrando ahora?? ¿Se siente en paz y esperanzado o deprimido y desesperado??

Tengo una lista de verdades bíblicas que leo todas las mañanas para recordarme que soy adoptado y amado por Dios.. Así me pongo mi armadura para protegerme de los dardos de fuego del enemigo.

quien soy en cristo, para combatir el rechazo.

Soy digno.

soy amado.

Soy aceptado.

soy adoptado.

Tengo confianza y soy competente..

soy un niño de Dios.

Tengo el Espíritu Santo dentro de mí..

Soy victorioso en Cristo.

tengo un hogar en el cielo.

Nada podrá separarme del amor de Dios en Cristo Jesús mi Señor.

soy valorado por dios, Soy su precioso hijo, tengo un hogar en el cielo.

no temeré ningún mal!

Cuando leo esto todas las mañanas, protejo mi mente de las mentiras y pensamientos negativos en los que el enemigo quiere que me concentre.. Cuando no leo mi lista, Soy vulnerable a los dispositivos del enemigo.; Soy impaciente, cruel, y fácilmente frustrado. Señor, me estás mostrando que hoy de hecho, Debo hacer tiempo contigo cada mañana; tu eres mi prioridad, leer Tu Palabra diariamente es alimento para mi alma, Orar es un tiempo para saber de ti y hablar contigo., y escribir un diario es un momento en el que profundizo aún más contigo, buscando tu sabiduría y deseando saber de ti para guiarme y guiarme en mi vida y en todo lo que hago., porque quiero que mi vida os sea de agrado y quiero que por ella seáis glorificados. Gracias, Caballero, por recordarme y convencerme de eso hoy.

padre en el cielo, Oro por cada mujer en esta convocatoria y por las mujeres en línea que leen este blog.. Ruego que te busquen con todo su corazón.. Muéstrales cuánto los amas de una manera muy real y tangible.. Protégelos de las mentiras y pensamientos negativos del enemigo y ayúdalos a concentrarse en las cosas que son verdad., honesto, justo, puro, hermoso, y de buen informe. Renueva sus mentes diariamente mientras leen Tu Palabra.. Sánalos y venda sus heridas como sólo Tú puedes, solo para ti, son su Poderoso Consejero y Gran Médico. Encuéntralos donde están y guíalos con tu diestra justa.. Perdona todos sus pecados y sánalos Señor.. Gracias por tu amor, merced, gracia, y compasión sobre ellos. Oramos esto en el poderoso nombre de Jesús., Amén.

¿Luchas con pensamientos negativos??

¿Con qué frecuencia te acosan estos pensamientos??

¿Hay alguna persona o situación que te haga empezar a pensar negativamente??

¿Qué has hecho para protegerte de este tipo de pensamientos negativos??

Bendiciones,

Toni

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MY Wall—My Prison (Part Two)

MY Wall—My Prison (Part Two)

Mi muro, mi prisión (Part Two)

When Is it Safe to Let the Wall Down?

In Part 1, Mi muro, mi prisión, we talked about the walls we built around ourselves as children to protect us from others and how these walls became our prisons. We found ourselves cut off from everyone, alone and tormented by the enemy. So how do we start taking the walls down and feeling safe to share what we have been hiding all these years?

Primero, a relationship with God is extremely important. To have this relationship, the Bible says we must be born again. We become born again or saved when we ask God to forgive our sins through confession (Romanos 10:9) and repentance, which means turning away from our sins and turning to God (Lucas 5:32). We must also believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God who died on the cross for our sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day (1 Corintios 15:3–4, Romanos 10:13). We then receive the gift of the Holy Spirit, The Spirit of Truth. He gives us the power to understand Scripture (John 14:17), convicts us of sin (John 16:8), and is our comforter, constant companion, and friend (John 14:16). It is through the power of the Holy Spirit that God connects with us in a deep and intimate way, making us a family.

My life changed dramatically when I finally received the love of God in my heart. I knew Jesus loved me, but I didn’t feel loved. I still believed the lies that I was unworthy to be loved by God, or anyone else for that matter, because of all my sins, especially my abortion. When the truth finally penetrated my heart, I was forever changed. I realized I was a child of God who was adopted into His family. He would never leave me nor forsake me. I was His, and I was bought by His precious blood on the cross for my sins. I am loved by God just the way I am. I am so grateful for this truth.

Second, I believe being in a Christ-centered community is critical for our healing. In this community, the Word of God is used along with the power of the Holy Spirit. Prayer and recovery tools are also used in this loving environment, creating a safe place to share.

I believe abortion breaks the very soul of a women into a million pieces. Those pieces, created by the trauma of having an abortion, can only be picked up and put back together by Jesus. We were designed by God to love, protect, and nurture our children; we did the opposite. This group is a safe place to share our hearts and our hurts without judgment or condemnation.

Por último, it is okay to still be protected from people who are unsafe emotionally and/or physically. God does not want His daughters abused. As God heals you and you become more confident, He will lead you to start sharing with those with whom you feel safe. This group is a good place to start sharing within a safe and loving community to build your confidence.

Healthy boundaries are necessary to keep us safe so we can have more fulfilling and meaningful relationships with others. On the other hand, holding on to secrets is not a good way to have deep and meaningful relationships. When you feel safe to do so, share your secrets so you can be set free, giving the enemy nothing to hold against you.

Preguntas

  1. Are you ready to let your wall down to let God in so you can receive the love and the help you need?
  2. Who are you praying about sharing your past with? Do you have a healthy relationship with this person? It’s okay to keep yourself protected, but do not allow the enemy to isolate you or put you back into the prison.

Eres amado,
Toni

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