Pensamiento apestoso: Mi visión distorsionada de Dios

por Toni Weisz/Pensamiento apestoso

Scriptures: Proverbios 23:7a, Romanos 2:4d, 1 Corintios 6:20, John 3:16, 8:44, 1 John 4:8, and Jeremiah 29:11

Stinking Thinking se refiere a los pensamientos negativos que nos atormentan., especialmente cuando estamos DETENER (hinfeliz, Aenojado, lsolo o tenojado) o tener pensamientos como una visión distorsionada de Dios y de uno mismo, pensamiento negativo, justificación, miedo, y ansiedad. Abordaremos cada uno de estos temas para que podamos discernir entre las mentiras que hemos creído a lo largo de los años y reemplazarlas con la verdad de Dios.. Nuestro objetivo es equiparte para que puedas tener la victoria en estas áreas..

Primero, the Word of God says in Proverbios 23:7a, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Lo que pensamos de nosotros mismos dicta cómo nos vemos a nosotros mismos, Dios, y otros, y cómo respondemos a las cosas. Si nos vemos como hijos de Dios, amado, apreciado y adoptado en la familia de Dios, veremos que somos realmente especiales, apartado por Dios para buenas obras. Tendremos una visión más positiva del mundo. Si sentimos que no somos dignos de ser amados debido a nuestros pecados pasados, y no una persona de valor, nos sentiremos deprimidos, solitario, y sin esperanza. ¿Puedes ver que lo que pensamos determina cómo nos sentimos??

My first distorted view of God started when I was a very young child around six or seven years old. Vi a Dios como un Dios enojado que era inaccesible.. I was told as a child that if I did something wrong God would punish me, Estaba constantemente esperando que el martillo cayera sobre mi cabeza cada vez que hacía algo mal.. The church I attended was old and had beautiful stained-glass windows, pero por dentro estaba oscuro, frío, y la gente hablaba en latín. No vi el amor de Dios ahí. Todo lo que vi fueron reglas estrictas y castigos severos por desobedecer.. Vi a estudiantes golpearlos con reglas regularmente.. Esto me mantuvo escondido de nuevo, como lo hice en casa, cuando mi padre estaba teniendo uno de sus arrebatos de ira.

Es la bondad de Dios la que lleva al arrepentimiento (Ref. Romanos 2:4d). Un método para modificar la conducta es mediante el miedo al juicio.; el otro es a través del amor. Dios quiere que le obedezcamos por amor y no por miedo. Si amas a alguien y él te ama, quieres pasar tiempo con esta persona, pero cuando piensas que alguien es una persona dura, No es alguien con quien te sientas seguro y cómodo.. Ves la diferencia? Dios es amor, y su gracia es inmerecida. Because of what Jesus did for us on the cross, the least we can do is serve Him and obey His Word. We were bought with a price (Ref. 1 Corintios 6:20); the precious blood of Jesus paid the penalty for our sins and the sins of the whole world.

No vi el amor de Dios evidente en mi antigua iglesia.. No fue hasta que fui 34, cuando asistí a una pequeña iglesia bautista en Nueva Jersey, que escuché el evangelio por primera vez. El edificio era muy sencillo., sin vidrieras. Había una cruz en el frente donde estaba el predicador y un piano.. Pero una cosa que sí vi mostrada fue el amor de Dios que estas personas tenían.. Eso es lo que me atrajo a Jesús. Fue la predicación de la Palabra de Dios a través de la Biblia y el amor de Dios en las palabras y acciones y en los rostros de las personas que asistieron a esa pequeña iglesia..

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son…” Él nos amó tanto que dio a su Hijo para morir por ti y por mí.; esa es una imagen de amor sacrificado. Gracias, Jesús, por morir voluntariamente en la cruz por nosotros, Sé que es tu amor por el mundo lo que te mantuvo en esa cruz.

Creo que el enemigo está trabajando duro para distorsionar nuestra visión de Dios., para hacernos dudar de que Él realmente nos ama y se preocupa por nosotros. Mira a Eva en el jardín., la serpiente (Satán), el engañador y padre de la mentira, tratando de plantar semillas de duda en la mente de Eva sobre si se puede confiar en la Palabra de Dios. Me imagino que ella estaba pensando, “Dios me está ocultando algo bueno. Él realmente no me ama porque si lo hiciera, He would give me everything I want.” Adam and Eve did not know what was best for them, y es lo mismo con nosotros; Tampoco sabemos qué es lo mejor para nosotros.. Dios nos dijo que no tuviéramos relaciones sexuales antes del matrimonio.. ¿Estaba ocultándonos?? No, En realidad Él nos estaba protegiendo., especialmente aquellos de nosotros que abortaríamos a nuestros bebés. He was trying to protect us and our babies from physical death, and emotional, mental, and spiritual torment and bondage to the evil one.

Me di cuenta que era por amor que Dios no quería que tuviera relaciones sexuales fuera del matrimonio., porque quería protegerme. If only I had trusted God and invited Him into my decision-making process and believed that He would provide for my baby and me, Entonces tal vez hubiera tenido el coraje de elegir la vida para mi bebé.. En cambio, my distorted view of God made me fearful to approach Him with my needs, which was the enemy’s plan. If the enemy can cause us to panic and not seek God’s wisdom, disposición, y proteccion, entonces ha ganado la batalla.

For you precious ones who were abused, abandoned, and rejected by family, guardians, and friends—those who were supposed to protect and provide for you—God saw and it broke His heart. This deep-seated fear associated with authority figures causes us to doubt that God is a good Father who loves us. We associate the characteristics of these individuals to God. We think He must be abusive and will reject and abandon us too. That is a lie from the evil one. Dios es amor. Love is His character. We will never experience perfect love except through Jesus, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit. The evil one wanted us to believe these lies about God so He could destroy our lives. And he did, for many years, but then GOD!!! God had a different plan for our lives, one that is good to give us a hope and a future.

Preguntas para tomar en serio:

What were your distorted views of God as a child, teen, and young adult? What was He like?
¿Cómo lo ves ahora??
Cómo podemos orar por ti?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you to see how the evil one through his deception and lies did not want us to know God. But God with His great love and mercy toward us, pursued us and drew us to Himself. He is a refuge for the oppressed. He binds up the broken hearted and heals all our wounds.

If you need to talk, please reach out you can email me at: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Eres amado,
Toni

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Cuando finalmente recibí el amor de Jesús en mi corazón

From the time I was a small child, I did not use my voice and hid in the background to keep under the radar. Como resultado, I became what people wanted me to be. I was labeled, “The good, quiet one.” I was fearful of rejection, so I became a people pleaser. I believed the lie that if I were perfect, I would be loved. That’s when I started wearing a mask.

My need for love and acceptance caused me to hide parts of myself. I only showed the good sides so people would love me. Luego, when I was 12 años, I started sneaking whiskey from my parents’ liquor cabinet. Ahora, I was really hiding. I didn’t want my parents to find out. They were very strict with me being the oldest, and I didn’t want them to be angry or disappointed in me.

As I got older, my sins were more and more grievous, and my secrets became bigger and bigger. Entonces, I isolated even more and hid everything. My mask morphed as I got older. As a child, I strived for perfection. I was a good student, good athlete, and an all-around good child. When that wasn’t working, I tapped into a lifestyle of alcohol, drugs and sex. When I was home, I was still the good one. But in high school, I was hanging out with those who smoked and did drugs.

At this point, people pleasing ruled my life. All I strove for were accolades from others and a place I could fit in and feel safe. But I would not find that for a long time. Honestly, I lost my own identity because I wanted to fit in with others. I no longer knew what I liked or what I wanted to do because I became a chameleon and changed depending upon the group I was with. I had lost my own identity striving to please others.

I felt unloved and lost. My drinking and drug use were out of control. I was a walking time bomb. I hated myself and felt so depressed. I struggled with keeping it all together. When I found out I was pregnant as a 21-year-old college student, I panicked. This pregnancy did not fit the narrative I was allowing my parents to see. I was not the good, una tranquila. I was doing very ungodly, sinful destructive things, and now I was going to terminate my baby’s life.

How did I end up here? My whole life was a lie. I will have an abortion and act as if everything was fine. But everything wasn’t fine. After this traumatic event, I was more depressed than before, crying all the time and drinking more. My self-loathing and suicidal thoughts were now continually plaguing me. I just wanted to die so this torment would stop. It was too hard to keep up this façade. Slowly my mask was cracking, and I was so afraid of being exposed. All my sins and lies would come flooding out. I was scared.

In my early 30’s I had a physical and emotional break down. I could not function normally at all. I would lay on the couch for weeks at a time. All the years of stuffing and lying and all the pain I had been holding in all my life were starting to come out sideways. I was a walking volcano, spilling hot ash on anyone who got in my way. I was extremely emotional. I felt I could not look anyone in the eyes because if I did, I would not be able to stop crying.

Slowly I started recognizing I needed help. I needed someone who would love me, accept me, and heal me. I needed a Savior. Then on January 2, 1994, Escuché el evangelio por primera vez. Within 4 weeks I gave my heart to Jesus, confessed my sins, turned from my old ways and turned toward God. I am coming up on the 26th anniversary of my salvation, and it is still the sweetest day of my life. It is the day I finally surrendered my life to God and allowed Him to heal my broken body, my broken heart and my broken mind. He transformed me into the woman He created me to be: a loving, confident woman filled with joy and peace. I have been adopted into the family of God; Soy aceptado, and I am finally loved. I feel safe to be me. I can take the mask off now because I am finally home.

Are you wearing a mask?

What does your mask look like?

Do you have the courage to take off the mask and be real?

I pray that as God heals you, you will be filled with His love and you will have the courage to take off your mask.

Bendiciones,

Toni

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MY Wall—My Prison (Part Two)

Mi muro, mi prisión (Part Two)

When Is it Safe to Let the Wall Down?

In Part 1, Mi muro, mi prisión, we talked about the walls we built around ourselves as children to protect us from others and how these walls became our prisons. We found ourselves cut off from everyone, alone and tormented by the enemy. So how do we start taking the walls down and feeling safe to share what we have been hiding all these years?

Primero, a relationship with God is extremely important. To have this relationship, the Bible says we must be born again. We become born again or saved when we ask God to forgive our sins through confession (Romanos 10:9) and repentance, which means turning away from our sins and turning to God (Lucas 5:32). We must also believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God who died on the cross for our sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day (1 Corintios 15:3–4, Romanos 10:13). We then receive the gift of the Holy Spirit, The Spirit of Truth. He gives us the power to understand Scripture (John 14:17), convicts us of sin (John 16:8), and is our comforter, constant companion, and friend (John 14:16). It is through the power of the Holy Spirit that God connects with us in a deep and intimate way, making us a family.

My life changed dramatically when I finally received the love of God in my heart. I knew Jesus loved me, but I didn’t feel loved. I still believed the lies that I was unworthy to be loved by God, or anyone else for that matter, because of all my sins, especially my abortion. When the truth finally penetrated my heart, I was forever changed. I realized I was a child of God who was adopted into His family. He would never leave me nor forsake me. I was His, and I was bought by His precious blood on the cross for my sins. I am loved by God just the way I am. I am so grateful for this truth.

Second, I believe being in a Christ-centered community is critical for our healing. In this community, the Word of God is used along with the power of the Holy Spirit. Prayer and recovery tools are also used in this loving environment, creating a safe place to share.

I believe abortion breaks the very soul of a women into a million pieces. Those pieces, created by the trauma of having an abortion, can only be picked up and put back together by Jesus. We were designed by God to love, protect, and nurture our children; we did the opposite. This group is a safe place to share our hearts and our hurts without judgment or condemnation.

Por último, it is okay to still be protected from people who are unsafe emotionally and/or physically. God does not want His daughters abused. As God heals you and you become more confident, He will lead you to start sharing with those with whom you feel safe. This group is a good place to start sharing within a safe and loving community to build your confidence.

Healthy boundaries are necessary to keep us safe so we can have more fulfilling and meaningful relationships with others. On the other hand, holding on to secrets is not a good way to have deep and meaningful relationships. When you feel safe to do so, share your secrets so you can be set free, giving the enemy nothing to hold against you.

Preguntas

Are you ready to let your wall down to let God in so you can receive the love and the help you need?
Who are you praying about sharing your past with? Do you have a healthy relationship with this person? It’s okay to keep yourself protected, but do not allow the enemy to isolate you or put you back into the prison.

Eres amado,
Toni

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Mi muro, mi prisión (Part One)

Génesis 1:27, Génesis 2:7, John 8:44, and Luke 15:10

When I look back on my past and try to put all the pieces together, I remember being a very young child, hiding from my father’s anger. He was unpredictable, and I was frightened by him. En el momento, my mother was also struggling. En 23 años, she had rheumatoid arthritis and a husband who was a rageaholic. She would become extremely frustrated and take it out on us kids. It was an extremely difficult time for our family. It was at this point that I began building a wall to protect myself from getting hurt by others. I became very quiet and isolated. It was a way for me to stay out of trouble and the only way I knew how to control my unpredictable environment. Little did I know, this wall would become impenetrable, and I would become a prisoner of it.

Alone and isolated: This was exactly where the enemy wanted me to be so he could torment me and hold me captive, destroying my life. The devil hates anything that God has created, especially humans. He hates humans because we are made in the image of God (Génesis 1:27) and have living souls that connect with God on a deep level (Génesis 2:7). The devil wants humans to bow down and worship him instead of God. How does he accomplish this? He does this by isolating us and lying to us, like he did with me. I built a huge wall around myself, a wall that I did not know would ultimately become my prison cell. He was a murderer from the beginning, as well as a deceiver, liar, and the father of lies (John 8:44). It’s no wonder that he was behind the first sin when Adam and Eve fell in the garden, and also the first murder between their children, Cain and Abel. He is alive and well today in the abortion industry, convincing women that abortion is their only choice.

When I lived behind my wall, I could not receive the love I desperately needed because I was cut off from the rest of the world. When we isolate ourselves, the enemy attacks us the most. We have no one to turn to for love, fellowship, or help. We are alone, tormented by our thoughts and the lies of the enemy. I have learned from experience that when I feel like isolating myself and putting my wall up, I need to do the opposite. So I reach out to someone and ask for help. That’s how I protect myself from the fiery darts of the enemy. I pray this was helpful for you.

All hope is not lost. God performed a miracle on my behalf, and He can on yours too. He pursued and wooed this broken, solitario, and tormented woman. He made me feel safe enough to slowly peek out of the window of my prison cell to hear about the beauty of the Lord and see Him working in my husband’s life. I so desperately wanted to feel loved and connected with another person in a deep and meaningful way. I have heard it said that God created us with a God-shaped hole in each of our hearts. We try to fill this hole with the things of this world, yet only He can fill it.

What I really needed was a Savior: someone who would love me, pursue me, sacrifice His life for me, and tell me I was worth the cost. I was waiting for my prince to come and rescue me, and He did. His name is Jesus, my Savior, my friend, and my Lord. He rescued me from the clutches of the enemy, and I am forever in His debt. I will serve Him all the days of my life, and I will be with Him forever in glory when I pass from this life to the next.

Preguntas

Have you put up a wall to protect yourself?
Are you still hiding behind that wall?
Are you ready to give God a try and lower your wall, so that He can heal you and love you?
Have you asked Jesus to forgive your sins?Do you believe that He is the sinless, Son of God who died on the cross for your sins, rose from the dead on the third day, and is now sitting at the right hand of the Father in Heaven? If you have not, then today is the day of salvation. The angels rejoice over one sinner that repents (Lucas 15:10).

Please let us know how we can help you on your healing journey.

Eres amado,
Toni

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When Is It Safe to Let My Wall Down?

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