Victory Over the Darkness

Victory Over the Darkness

Victory Over the Darkness

By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Warfare       

 

If you are a Christian, spiritual warfare is a given. If you want to obey God and honor Him with your life. If you want God to heal your body, soul, mind, and spirit. If you want God to be glorified in your relationships, in your work, in everything you do. If you want to live your life for Him. The enemy will take notice of you.

As an older mature woman in Christ, I want to share with you younger women how to have victory over the darkness. Consistency is the key. Accountability is critical to your success. You were not created to do this alone. You were created for community.

I have noticed a few important areas that are significant in our Christian walk that will help you have a victorious life in Christ. We must guard ourselves from sin, which can come in the form of temptation, pride, unforgiveness, and fear/anxiety.

Primo, we must be in the Word of God daily, reading His Word, memorizing Scripture, and in prayer.

Second, we should be in community, a small group where we can be open and transparent about our struggles.

Third, it is essential that we have an accountability partner. If you follow the steps below, you will experience a greater sense of deep love, joy, and peace.

1.  Temptation
We must keep ourselves unspotted by the world. (Read James 1:27c) What does that mean?  Guard against corruption from the godless world, the MSG translation. If you have a drinking problem, don’t hang out in a bar. If you have an issue with overspending, then don’t shop online when you are bored or need something to help you feel better. Do not watch ungodly things on the TV, movies, or internet. Don’t listen to things that are not healthy or good. Do not live with or have sex with someone who is not your husband. As Christians, we cannot pick and choose certain Biblical principles and ignore some of them. Either we obey God or we don’t.

2. Pride

If pride caused Lucifer, the most beautiful angel, to fall from heaven, it is a very real and dangerous thing for us too (Read Isaiah 14:12-15). 

“You, (Lucifer) were the anointed cherub, Your heart was lifted up because of your beauty, you were perfect in all your ways till iniquity was found in you.” Ezekiel 28:14-15.  

Pride is probably the most common sin among Christians because we can easily become self-sufficient, self-righteous, and harsh towards others. We can look at sin in someone else’s life and not consider the plank in our own eyes (Read Matthew 7:3-5). That’s why it is so critically important that we daily ask God to show us our sins,
shortcomings, and character defects and to remove any blindness so we can see clearly the areas we need to change. Ask Him to show us ways we have failed Him and have hurt ourselves and others.

3. Unforgiveness

I have found in my life when I do not forgive others, it can cause an opening for the enemy to gain a foothold. If you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses, Read Matthew 6:15. Unforgiveness can easily become bitterness, which is pictured in Scripture as having deep roots that take over our soul (Read Hebrews 12:15).  This gives the evil one an advantage over us. We are in a war, ladies, and the sooner we recognize this, the sooner we can begin to have victory in our lives over the evil one.

4. Fear or Anxiety

“Be anxious for nothing, ma in ogni cosa con la preghiera e la supplica, with thanksgiving, let your request be made to God; e la pace di Dio che supera ogni comprensione, guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Phil 4:6-7  

We all know these verses, but do we follow what the Scriptures tell us to do?  Thank God in advance even when you cannot see the victory yet. When we have faith to move mountains, God is able to supernaturally move on our behalf. It takes faith in God to believe that He is who He says He is, the Most High God, the Creator of the heavens and the earth. When we fret or worry, we are telling God, “I don’t trust You or believe You can handle this situation for me.” It is the sin of unbelief. Do not allow fear to paralyze you or cause you to jump ahead of God and make bad decisions.

Conclusion:

God cannot protect us from the evil one if we are in sin. It’s counterproductive. It will not get us the results we need or desire. God is waiting for us to call out to Him for help. We must turn from our sinful ways and run to Jesus. He is the only one that can save us from ourselves. The more we spend time with Him, reading His Word, singing worship songs, and meditating on Scripture, the more we will be conformed into His image. But we must choose Him. He will not force us to obey and follow Him. It’s out of our love and devotion to Him for all He has done for us, the least we can do is honor Him in our lives and serve Him.

romani 12:1-2
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, santo, acceptable to God which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good and acceptable perfect will of God

romani 6:12-14
Therefore, do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under the law but under grace.

Domande da prendere a cuore.

  1. Are you struggling with a sin?
  2. Have you asked God to forgive you?
  3. Have you asked someone to hold you accountable to that area of weakness?
  4. Come possiamo pregare per te?

I pray this topic has been helpful for you to examine your life. If you are interested in an accountability partner, please reach out to me via an email at:
toni@myashestobeauty.com


Sei amato,
Toni

 

 

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Sono così grato a Dio

Sono così grato a Dio

Sono così grato a Dio

By Toni Weisz/Spiritual Disciplines       

Scritture: romani 5:5, 1 John 4:7, Efesini 3:17-19, and Zephaniah 3:17

romani 5:5
Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

1 John 4:7
Amato, amiamoci gli uni gli altri, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.

Efesini 3:17-19
That Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and the depth and height- to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Zephaniah 3:17
The Lord your God, in your midst, the Mighty One will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, he will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.

 

I want to share my journal entry from November 30, 2024. The Holy Spirit speaking to my heart said, “I will never make you grovel or beg for help; My love is extravagant.”

“Yes, it is Lord, and I am so grateful for that.”

The Lord said,
“My love is perfect.
My love is gentle.
My love is kind.
My love is compassionate.
My love builds up.
My love blesses others.
My love encourages.
My love is eternal.”

So many of us have a distorted view of God’s love because of the treatment and/or abuse we have received, especially from those closest to us; those who were supposed to love, nurture, and protect us. We attribute these characteristics to God, and therefore, we think He is angry, harsh, abusive, and unapproachable, but that could not be furthest from the truth.

I believe our distorted view of God’s love causes us to look for it in other places, from all the wrong people; because as children, we are not mature enough to understand how fundamental love is in our emotional, fisico, and spiritual growth and development. It affects every aspect of our lives. We feel we are unworthy of love and that we are flawed and unlovable because of the way others have treated us in our past. The evil one wants us to believe that God does not love us.

So how do we replace our distorted view of God with the truth? 

  1. We must be born-again; we must be a Christian, a child of God, because it’s the Holy Spirit of God who helps us to know God and the truth from His Word.
  2. We have to spend time with God in prayer and the reading of His Word. Just like any other relationship, it grows deeper with time spent together.
  3. We must believe that God’s Word is truth and that He is love, and not like our unkind or abusive family member.
  4. We start meditating on His Word and the Holy Spirit helps us to start believing that truly we are precious in His sight and that we are His beloved children.
  5. We connect with a safe and loving community to walk with us on our healing journey.
  6. We need an accountability partner to help keep us on track and encourage us when we need it.

Once we receive God’s love into the innermost part of our being, we are changed forever. We no longer doubt that we are truly loved by God. We no longer look for another person to validate and affirm us because we are secure in God’s love for us. We don’t have to perform or be perfect in order to be worthy enough to receive His love. We are loved simply because He created us and we are His child.

Domande da prendere a cuore:

  1. Did you grow up feeling loved and secure in your home of origin?
  2. Did you grow up believing God loves you?
  3. How old were you when you received the gift of salvation through Jesus’ death on the cross for your sins?
  4. Was it hard for you to receive God’s love?  Se è così, why?
  5. Come possiamo pregare per te?

Dear One, I pray you too will receive God’s love in the inner most part of your being. He loves you more than you can comprehend. He rejoices over you with gladness, He quiets you with His love, and He rejoices over you with singing (Rif. Zephaniah 3:17).

Per favore contattaci se hai bisogno di parlare. Feel free to email me: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Sei amato,
Toni

 

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Giornata nazionale in memoria dei bambini abortiti 9.12.2026

Giornata nazionale in memoria dei bambini abortiti 9.12.2026

Giornata nazionale in memoria dei bambini abortiti

By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools

Scripture: “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.” Psalm 34:18 (KJV)

settembre 12, 2026 — Remembering the Children

Every September, the Giornata nazionale in memoria dei bambini abortiti gives us an opportunity to pause, remember, and honor the lives of children lost through abortion. A settembre 12, 2026, people across the nation will gather at gravesites, memorials, churches, and places of remembrance to acknowledge these lives and to pray for healing.

Per molti, this day carries a deep personal meaning. Behind statistics and headlines are real stories—mothers, fathers, grandparents, siblings, and families who may carry grief that few people ever see.

Remembering the Children

The National Day of Remembrance is not simply about looking backward. It is about recognizing the value and dignity of every human life and refusing to let these children become forgotten.

Each child had a life that was never given the opportunity to unfold. There were birthdays that were never celebrated, milestones that were never witnessed, and futures that will never be known on this earth.

Yet remembrance can be an act of love.

For those who have experienced abortion, this day can also bring complicated emotions. Some may feel grief. Others may feel regret, vergogna, anger, confusion, or even relief mixed with sorrow. There is no single way to experience loss.

God sees every heart and knows every story.

There Is Hope Beyond Regret

At My Ashes to Beauty, we believe that even the deepest places of brokenness do not have to be the end of the story.

God Meets Us in Our Brokenness

The Bible reminds us that God is close to those who are hurting:

“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.” Psalm 34:18 (KJV)

That promise matters to anyone carrying the weight of a past abortion.

Remembrance does not have to mean living forever in condemnation. There is a difference between acknowledging what happened and believing that your past has the final word over your life.

God offers forgiveness, mercy, restoration, and a new beginning.

A Day to Remember and Pray

A settembre 12, consider taking a quiet moment to remember the children who were lost. Pray for their families. Pray for women and men facing difficult pregnancies. Pray for those who are still carrying the pain of past decisions.

You Do Not Have to Hide Your Tears From God

If this day brings personal grief, allow yourself to bring that grief honestly before God.

You do not have to hide your tears from Him.

The ashes of yesterday do not have to define tomorrow. God can take places of profound sorrow and begin creating something beautiful from them.

Remembering With Hope

This National Day of Remembrance, we remember the children. We honor their lives. We pray for their families. And we hold onto the hope that God is still able to bring beauty from ashes

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week to my email: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Here for you,

Toni

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Sei sopravvissuto a ciò che pensavi ti avrebbe spezzato

Sei sopravvissuto a ciò che pensavi ti avrebbe spezzato

Sei sopravvissuto a ciò che pensavi ti avrebbe spezzato

By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools

Scripture: “… and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes … ” Isaia 61:3

Look How Far You’ve Come

There were moments when you wondered if you would make it.

Maybe the pain was deeper than you ever expected. Maybe someone you trusted disappointed you. Perhaps you walked through rejection, loss, betrayal, disappointment, or a season when God seemed strangely quiet.

And yet… you’re still here.

You survived what you thought would break you.

That doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt. It doesn’t mean you weren’t afraid. And it certainly doesn’t mean you walked through it perfectly. It simply means that somewhere in the middle of your ashes, God was sustaining you.

Your Story Didn’t End in the Fire

Sometimes we look at what happened to us and see only the destruction. We see what was lost, what went wrong, and what can never be changed.

But God sees something different.

He sees the person you are becoming.

The fire may have changed you, but it doesn’t have to destroy you. The tears may have marked your journey, but they don’t have to define your future. What you experienced can become part of your testimony rather than the end of your story.

Isaia 61:3 reminds us that God gives “beauty for ashes.”

That is the heart of redemption. God doesn’t pretend the ashes never existed. He takes what was broken and begins creating something beautiful from it.

Keep Going

As August comes to an end, take a moment to look back—not to live there, but to recognize how far God has brought you.

You may not have everything figured out.

You may still have questions.

You may still be healing.

But you’re here.

And that matters.

Don’t underestimate what it took to get this far. Don’t despise the small victories. Don’t forget the prayers God answered along the way.

You survived what you thought would break you—and God is not finished with you yet.

Your ashes are not the end.

God is still writing beauty into your story.

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week to my email: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Here for you,

Toni

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Mese Nazionale del Benessere: Camminare nella vittoria sul trauma passato

Mese Nazionale del Benessere: Camminare nella vittoria sul trauma passato

Mese Nazionale del Benessere: Camminare nella vittoria sul trauma passato

By Toni Weisz / Recovery Tools

Scripture: Salmo 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Healing Is a Journey, Not a Destination

August is Mese Nazionale del Benessere, a time to focus on caring for our minds, bodies, and spirits. While wellness often brings to mind exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough rest, true wellness reaches much deeper. It includes emotional healing, spiritual growth, and finding freedom from the pain of yesterday.

At My Ashes to Beauty, we believe God never intended for trauma to define your future. Whether your wounds came from childhood, abuso, loss, addiction, betrayal, or life-changing disappointments, healing is possible. The scars may remain, but they no longer have to control your life.

Walking in victory doesn’t mean pretending the pain never existed. It means allowing God to transform your ashes into something beautiful and discovering that your story is still being written.

Choosing Wellness Every Day

Healing from trauma is rarely a single moment. More often, it is a series of small choices made one day at a time.

Choosing wellness may look like:

  • Spending quiet time with God each morning.
  • Reading Scripture that reminds you of His promises.
  • Talking with a trusted friend, pastor, or Christian counselor.
  • Taking a walk while thanking God for His faithfulness.
  • Practicing forgiveness—not because what happened was acceptable, but because you refuse to let bitterness keep you captive.
  • Giving yourself grace on difficult days.

Some days you may feel like you’ve taken two steps forward and one step back. That’s okay. Progress is still progress.

God is patient with us, and we can learn to be patient with ourselves as we heal.

Salmo 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds.

God sees our pain, and His desire is to bring healing and restoration to every broken area of our lives.

Walking in the Victory Christ Provides

The enemy often wants us to believe that our past determines our future. God’s Word tells a different story.

Through Christ, we are not victims—we are overcomers.

Victory isn’t found in our own strength but in trusting the One who restores broken hearts and gives hope where there once seemed to be none. As we surrender our hurts to Him, He replaces fear with peace, shame with purpose, and despair with hope.

That doesn’t mean life suddenly becomes easy. Challenges still come, and memories may still surface. But they no longer have the final word. God’s love is greater than every painful chapter you’ve lived through.

As healing takes place, many discover that the very experiences they once wished they could erase become opportunities to encourage someone else. God often uses healed hearts to help heal other hearts.

This National Wellness Month, take one intentional step toward your own healing. You don’t have to have every answer today. Simply begin where you are and trust God with the next step.

He specializes in restoration. He redeems what seems lost. He brings beauty from ashes.

Your past may explain part of your story, but it does not determine your destiny. In Christ, you can walk forward with renewed strength, restored hope, and the confidence that your best chapters are still ahead.

 

Please reach out if you would like to talk this week to my email: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Here for you,

Toni

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