Pensamento fedorento: Minha visão distorcida de mim mesmo

Pensamento fedorento: Minha visão distorcida de mim mesmo

Pensamento fedorento: Minha visão distorcida de mim mesmo


por Toni Weisz/Stinking Thinking

 

Referências bíblicas: Isaías 43:18–19, Salmo 62:6-8, Salmo 27:10, John 8:32, e romanos 5:9

Pensamento fedorento refere -se aos pensamentos negativos ou perturbadores que nos atingem, especialmente quando estamos HALT (Hsem raiva, UMAcom raiva, euapenas ou Tirado). Estaremos olhando para a nossa visão distorcida de si mesmo. Aprenderemos a discernir a verdade das mentiras em que acreditamos durante toda a nossa vida. Nosso objetivo é equipá-lo para que você possa ter vitória em todas as áreas da sua vida.

Isaías 43:18–19
“Não te lembres das coisas anteriores, nem considere as coisas antigas. Contemplar, vou fazer uma coisa nova, agora ele brotará; você não saberá disso? Farei até uma estrada no deserto e rios no deserto”.

Salmo 62: 6–8
“Só ele é minha rocha e minha salvação; Ele é minha defesa; Eu não serei movido. Em Deus está minha salvação e minha glória; A rocha da minha força, e meu refúgio, está em Deus. Confie Nele em todos os momentos, vocês pessoas; derrame seu coração diante dele; Deus é um refúgio para nós.”

Salmo 27:10
Quando meu pai e minha mãe me abandonam, O Senhor vai cuidar de mim.

John 8:32
“E você saberá a verdade, e a verdade o libertará. ”

Romanos 5:9
Muito mais então, tendo agora justificado por seu sangue, Seremos salvos da ira através dele.

Eu era o mais velho de três e vim de uma segunda geração estrita, Família ítalo-americana. Meu pai e seus dois irmãos e irmã administraram uma empresa de construção familiar iniciada pelo meu avô.

Meu avô teve um problema de bebida. E meu pai agiu como um alcoólatra, embora ele não tenha bebido. Refiro -me ao comportamento dele como um "rageaholic". Ele trabalhou horas extremamente longas e estava lidando com muito estresse e drama familiar. Ele não foi capaz de se comunicar de maneira saudável sem ficar com raiva e levantar a voz. Ele tinha um fusível muito curto. então, quando ele estava em casa, Eu literalmente gostaria de correr e me esconder.

Minha mãe tentou o seu melhor para controlar nosso ambiente doméstico para não causar estresse ao meu pai. Tivemos que ser muito quieto e obediente quando ele estava em casa. A menor coisa pode desencorajá -lo. Quando meu pai estava no trabalho, Minha mãe tinha sua própria maneira de lidar com o caos em nossa casa. Ela gritou muito também. Não era um ambiente muito calmo ou pacífico. Mas eu acredito que eles fizeram o melhor que puderam. Eles estavam preocupados em apagar incêndios que minha irmã e irmão estavam começando. Foi fácil para mim me esconder nas sombras.

Quando criança, Como eu deveria receber o amor e a atenção que eu precisava? Depois do “bom, Persona quieta não estava mais funcionando, Comecei a esgueirar -me de uísque escocês do gabinete de bebidas de meus pais em 12 anos. Agora eu estava realmente escondido por causa de todos os meus segredos, que agora estavam se acumulando, E ficou ainda mais difícil manter minha fachada. Por 13, Eu estava ficando chapado e usando outras drogas. No 16, Eu estava fazendo sexo; Então o impensável, meu aborto em 21. Minha vida foi um desastre, Uma decisão ruim após a outra me levou a um caminho muito escuro. Eu estava muito sozinho neste poço, apesar de ter amigos; Ninguém realmente sabia o que eu estava sofrendo porque eu usava a máscara perfeita. Eu estava exatamente onde o mal me queria. Isolado, sozinho, e se escondendo em meus segredos.

Agora, no início dos meus 30 anos, depois de muitos anos de escolhas destrutivas, mecanismos de cópia prejudiciais e vícios, minha auto-aversão estava no auge de todos os tempos. Minha depressão duraria por semanas, E estava me impedindo de funcionar normalmente, E toda a dor que eu estava enchendo toda a minha vida estava saindo de lado. Eu não tinha controle sobre isso. Eu era como um vulcão ambulante. Eu literalmente só queria acabar com este tormento de uma vida. Mas Deus me deu dois filhos, E eu não ia deixá -los sem uma mãe. então, Eu decidi que precisava fazer algo diferente porque o que estava fazendo não estava funcionando. Eu estava cansado de colocar minha máscara todos os dias e fingir.

Eu senti que não era digno de ser amado. Na verdade, Eu pensei que merecia ser abusado emocionalmente pelos outros por causa do meu pecado. Eu não me via como uma pessoa de valor para ninguém, nem mesmo para Deus. Esse padrão destrutivo continuaria até que eu estivesse 34, quando pela graça de Deus, Eu ouvi o evangelho e dentro 4 semanas fui salvo e pedi a Jesus para perdoar meus pecados e ser meu Senhor e Salvador. O dia mais lindo e memorável da minha vida é fevereiro 6, 1994, quando nasci de novo.

Mesmo depois da minha salvação, Eu senti que tinha que trabalhar por amor e aprovação de Deus e especialmente de outros em liderança na igreja. Meu agrada de pessoas estava consumindo minha vida, e Deus me mostrou que isso é idolatria, que qualquer coisa que eu coloquei acima dele é um pecado.

Sobre o passado 20 anos, Deus tem me mostrado lentamente meus defeitos e áreas de pecado, Minha codificação, Pessoas agradáveis, e falta de limites claros e como eu estava permitindo um comportamento prejudicial à saúde. Eu não me amava ou me respeitava, então como eu poderia esperar que os outros. Eu permiti que as pessoas andassem por cima de mim, Para me manipular e me controlar, Mas lentamente com o tempo, Comecei a colocar limites e usar minha voz.

Deus me ajudou a me ver através de seus olhos de amor, cuidado, e compaixão. De volta 2015 Ao lutar com a rejeição, Eu escrevi essas palavras de afirmação que li em voz alta para mim todos os dias: Eu sou digno, Eu sou amado, Eu pertenço, Eu sou aceito, Eu sou adotado, Estou confiante e competente, Eu posso fazer todas as coisas através de Cristo que me fortalece, Eu sou um filho de Deus, Eu sou vitorioso em Cristo, Só para citar alguns. Esta é minha armadura espiritual; Eu coloquei isso todas as manhãs para me proteger dos dardos ardentes do inimigo. Nossa batalha é vencida e perdida em nossas mentes. O que acreditamos sobre nós mesmos e sobre Deus importa. A Palavra de Deus é verdade, E a verdade vai te tornar livre.

Espero nunca ter como certo o milagre que ocorreu na minha vida 31 anos atrás, Quando recebi o presente da salvação através do sangue de Jesus derramar na cruz para mim.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. Como sua visão distorcida de si mesmo o abriu para todos os tipos de abuso e pecado como uma maneira de lidar com sua dor?
  2. Como você se viu?
  3. Quem Deus diz que você é? Dar exemplos de verdade bíblica.
  4. O que você faz para colocar sua armadura espiritual diariamente para se proteger do inimigo?
  5. Como podemos orar por você?

Eu rezo para que este tópico tenha sido útil para você se você precisar falar, você pode me enviar uma mensagem ou enviar um e -mail para: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Você é amado, Toni

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Secrets

Secrets

SECRETS

by Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools
Referências bíblicas: John 8:31–32, 36

John 8:3132, 36
Então Jesus disse aos judeus que acreditaram nele, “Se você permanecer na Minha palavra, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, e a verdade o libertará. ”

“Therefore, se o filho te libertar, você será realmente livre. ”

 

YOU’RE ONLY AS SICK AS YOUR SECRETS

You may have heard the familiar recovery term, “You’re only as sick as your secrets,” and it is a true statement. Until we feel safe to share our secrets, we keep them locked up in a type of “Pandora’s Box,” where we keep all of our deepest and darkest secrets hidden, because we fear them coming out to expose the ugly truth.

For the postabortion woman, it is the truth that we terminated the life of our child. This horrible secret was our child. For those of us who have been abused, our fears of retaliation, rejection and judgment keep us silent. Where can we go to share in a safe place?

God doesn’t want us operating in secrets because He knows how destructive isolation and secrets are. I started secrets when I was 12 anos, hiding my drinking. Then it was getting high at 13, then sex at 16, and the worst offense was meu aborto em 21.

My secrets and sins were piling up, and it became harder and harder to keep them from coming out. I feared my parents’ reaction, punishment and disappointment in me. I knew all of this was wrong, but I kept those secrets until I was 50 anos.

They had no idea about my destructive, pecaminoso, sorted past because I wore a great mask. It was not an easy conversation, but I wanted them to hear it from me because I was starting this ministry and I didn’t want them to find out from another source. It needed to come from me. I felt a great release when I was finally able to share this with my parents.

CHY ARE SECRETS DESTRUCTIVE?

Primeiro, secrets keep us isolated from God and others, and that’s exactly where the enemy wants us. He wants us isolated and hiding because then he can torment us over and over again, until we realize what’s going on. Secrets keep us from the very people that can help us.

Segundo, the dysfunction is perpetuated and will continue as long as we nurture this thing, and protect it, like it was some prized possession. The secret needs to be exposed and brought into the light.

Terceiro, secrets can hinder or prevent healing in our lives. Because of the abuse many of us have experienced in our past, we are already fearful of exposure, e we think this secret is a way to keep us safe. But actually it is causing us to stay sick. God gives us the courage to step out of isolation and secrets so we can be healed.

Quarto, secrets are destructive because they distort our view of reality, and we feel like we are all alone. Secrets are usually combined with lies that we believe about ourselves, Deus, ou outros. God’s Word and the Holy Spirit help us to know the truth so we can walk in it and so these secrets and lies can no longer hold us back from becoming the women God created us to be.

God wants us free from bondage. Secrets keep us in chains and in darkness.

Jesus cumame to set the captives free.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. What secrets are you still holding onto?
  2. Why are you fearful to share them? Is it fear of retribution, fear of rejection, fear of hurting another person, fear of abandonment, or fear of judgment?
  3. When did you have the courage to share your secrets?
  4. How did you feel after you shared your secrets?
  5. Como podemos orar por você?

Please be aware que even in Church, there are some people who are emotionally unsafe to share secrets with. Make sure it is a person/group you trust.

I pray you have the courage to trust God and allow Him to show you the areas of your life that need healing. Trust Him with your secrets.

If you need help, please reach out to me. My email is: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Você é amado,
Toni

 

 

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Oração pelo Reavivamento

Oração pelo Reavivamento

Oração pelo Reavivamento
by Toni Weisz/Spiritual Discipline

Referências bíblicas: Salmo 51:117, Salmo 139:2324,
2 Timothy 2:21, James 5:16, and Ephesians 4:2931

Read Psalm 51:1–17

Dentro Fevereiro 1970, revival broke out at Asbury College in Wilmore, Kentucky.

On Wednesday, Fevereiro 8, 2023 (53 anos later almost to the day), revival again broke out on the campus at Ashbury University in Wilmore, Kentucky. UMAfter chapel service, some students lingered for spontaneous worship, prayer, and confession. The revival continued for many days and spread to other universities, and many people traveled from all over the world to experience God in que place.

PRAYER & SCRIPTURE

We are hungry for Sou, senhor. Just like in 1970, there was much turmoil in the world, the Vietnam War, protests, bad economy, high gas prices, inflation, and chaos all around, not much different today in our world. People are hurting. They are confused e fearful about what the future will bring. But our hope is in Você, senhor. Only You know it all, see it all, and control it all.

We humble ourselves before you today and ask Your Holy Spirit to help us. We cry out as David did in the Psalms.

Salmo 139:23–24
Search us, O God, and know our hearts. Try us, and know our thoughts and see if there be any wicked way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting.

Lord God, remove any blindness that may be keeping us from repenting of sin in our lives.

2 Timothy 2:21
Portanto, if anyone cleanses himself from these things, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work.

We want to be clean vessels sanctified and useful in your kingdom work. Purify us by the Word of God and the working of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

Father God, ce are expecting You to move mightily to heal the brokenhearted and to heal all our wounds. We are waiting for you to heal us and our families from disease and demonic oppression, in the name of Jesus, we pray.

We are praying for our family members, friends, and neighbors who do not know Sou yet, that Your Holy Spirit will break their hearts of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Have mercy upon them, O Lord. We are crying out to You for revival in our own hearts, our homes, our neighborhood, our state, our nation, and the world. Come, Holy Spirit, and have Your will and Your way in us today.

We are surrendering all to You today. Ce are asking, buscando, and knocking on the door. Let revival continue right here and right now in us.

In the powerful name of Jesus, we pray, amen.

James 5:16
Confess your faults one to another and pray one for another that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Efésios 4:29-31
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Deixe toda amargura, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, compassivo, perdoando um ao outro, even as God in Christ forgave you.

 

Preparation for Revival:

  1. Is there someone who you are harboring unforgiveness toward for something they did or did not do?

Would you like to confess that right now?

 

  1. Are you willfully going against what you know is right?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Is there something that you are unknowingly doing that is not honoring to God? Ask the Lord to show you so you can repent.

Would you like to confess that now?

 

  1. Are you angry with God because you are really struggling with loneliness, depressão, loss of job, health issues, um relacionamento, and God is not moving fast enough and you are really suffering?

Would you like to confess that now?

 

Please reach out if you need prayer or encouragement. Svocê pode me enviar um e-mail para: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Você é amado,

Toni

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A Vontade “Perfeita” de Deus

A Vontade “Perfeita” de Deus

A Vontade “Perfeita” de Deus

by Luci Boudreaux/Spiritual Insights
Junho 4, 2023
Escrituras: John 14:23 and Colossians 1:9b–12

 

John 14:23 (NVI)
“Jesus answered him, ‘If anyone loves me, he will keep my word; and my Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him.’”

Col 1:9b–12 (NIV)
“We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.”

 

Before I met Jesus at 25, I had lived a hard life. I carried a lot of baggage because of others who had harmed me, both physically and emotionally. And because of my damaged self-image, I made a lot of poor choices. I abused alcohol and drugs and became promiscuous after being raped at age 12. As a single woman at 24, I got pregnant. Then I added injury to the pain and confusion by aborting my precious child.

As Jesus entered my life, He began to open my eyes and show me a love that I had never experienced. There was acceptance and a desire to know and be known, without fear of rejection. I knew I was safe, and this is when I began to open up to receive God’s will for my life.

Early on in my faith, I thought that God was in the business of answering “reasonable” prayers just because I prayed them. After all, I was His beloved daughter, and I knew He wanted to bless me. I strongly desired a godly husband and children, a smooth path to a vibrant ministry where I could share my faith and help other women who had been wounded, and to have no conflict with other members in the church.

I didn’t marry until I was 43, have no living biological children, didn’t establish a “vibrant” ministry (not how I imagined) and have had conflict with other members of the body of Christ. God hasn’t answered my prayers the way I desired. He did so much more! He answered them according to His perfect wisdom. então, I was able to grow closer to Him, and He has been glorified in my life.

As I grow in my faith, I am coming to understand that God’s perfect will is not always Him answering prayers according to my desires and my limited perspective. I am learning that His perfect will comes about when, in humility, I surrender. It’s key to a fulfilling relationship with Him. I had to come to the place where I wanted to fully surrender to God and be in an intimate relationship with Him, more than having any of my prayers answered, whatever that looks like.

 

Perguntas:

 

  1. Have you surrendered your will to God? Se não, por que? What are you afraid of?
  1. Are you in God’s will right now? Se for assim, what does that look like?
  1. How do you respond to detours and unanswered prayers?
  1. Como podemos orar por você?
Eu ainda sou responsável por minhas ações

Eu ainda sou responsável por minhas ações

I am Still Responsible for my Actions
by Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools

Romanos 3:23, John 16:8, Filipenses 4:13, Mateus 7:7-8, e Salmo 147:3

We have all grown up in homes that were dysfunctional because we have all been born into sin and have a sin nature. The Bible says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romanos 3:23). Some of us have experienced extreme neglect, abuso, abandono, and rejection. This has caused a deep wound in our souls and a distorted perception of love. Because of this trauma, we don’t trust others and are fearful of them coming too close; we don’t want to be hurt again. For this reason, it is hard to trust that God is not going to hurt us either. Many women struggle developing an intimate relationship with God, our Heavenly Father, because they did not have a good relationship with their earthly father.

Regardless of what we have experienced in our lives, we are still responsible to make good, healthy, godly decisions. It’s the Holy Spirit inside us that leads us to walk in the truth and convicts us of sin, righteousness, and judgement (Read John 16:8). We have the ability through the help of the Holy Spirit to stop the cycle of dysfunction stemming from our home of origin or the traumas we’ve experienced elsewhere.

We can make good choices. We do not have to react to things without pausing, praying, and thinking through them. We are in control of our thoughts and actions. Na verdade, it’s the only thing we have control over. We have to make a conscious decision not to perpetuate this dysfunction and pass it onto our children and future generations. The only way we can do that is by:

1. Having a relationship with Jesus.

2. Getting help either through Christian counselling and/or recovery meetings, and reading helpful books.

3. Having accountability—a safe person or community to help keep you working on yourself.

Perguntas:

  1. What areas did you have to work on as a result of past trauma?
    Toni:
    Rejection was a huge wound for me. Also trusting others not to control, manipulate, and use me was another. I had to learn to use my voice and put-up healthy boundaries to protect myself. I had to learn self-control because I was a walking volcano, filled with rage. I learned why I was so angry and came to terms with that. God has healed me in all these areas because I was willing to let Him in and heal me.
  2. What are some areas you still need to work on?
    Toni: I have been struggling with codependency, so I started reading the book, Codependency No More, by Suellen McDolly. It has been very helpful for me to stop and check my motivation for doing the things I was doing. I always want to be willing to work on myself. When I am triggered by something, I ask God to show me what’s really going on. I usually journal when this happens because I need to hear from Him in a place where/when I am ready to listen.

Our healing is a lifelong process, but if God is involved in it, we will be victorious. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us (Read Philippians 4:13). If you are just starting your healing journey, keep asking God to help you, keep seeking Him with your whole heart, and keep knocking on the door for more insight and godly wisdom (Read Matthew 7:7-8). God is faithful, and He wants to bind up your broken heart and heal your wounds (Read Psalm 147:3).

I pray this was helpful. Entre em contato; we are here to help you and to pray for you.

Você é amado,
Toni

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