Rejection, a Lie of the Devil

Rejection, a Lie of the Devil

Rejection, a Lie of the Devil

por Toni Weisz/Guerra Espiritual
Salmo 27:10, Romanos 8:38-39, Mateus 24:35, Salmo 147:3

The spiritual warfare I am experiencing lately has heightened, due to me taking on the leadership for my church prayer team since our leaders stepped down a few months ago, and now I am about to start a STS (Surrendering the Secret) study session. I am still in a
wheelchair after my foot surgery about a month ago. então, I would say I am a little vulnerable right now. But I am aware of what the evil one is trying to do. Rejection has always been a huge wound for me from my childhood.

When I feel rejected by my earthly family, I am reminded that my peace and security doesn’t come from money, relationships, or anything else this world has to offer. My peace and security come from knowing God my Heavenly Father, and His Son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit my constant companion and friend.

então, when the evil one comes to poke my rejection wound, I remind him, “I belong to God.” I was plucked out of my earthly family and placed into the family of God. I am adopted by God. I will never be rejected. I will never be abandoned. I will never walk alone again. “When my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will take care of me.” (Salmo 27:10)

I am loved by my Heavenly Father, and nothing shall separate me from His love. “For I am persuaded that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities nor powers, nor things present not things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romanos 8:38-39) What a beautiful promise from God’s Word.

Obrigada, Holy Spirit, for giving me God’s perspective. It gives me great comfort to know the truth. I pray for my unsaved family members who do not have a relationship with You. They are desperately holding onto things like money, relationships, their physical beauty, a retirement account, or anything that gives them a sense of security. But it will all burn up in the end. The only real thing in this world is a relationship with You, Jesus. Everything else will rust, corrupt, decay and die, but your Word will never pass away. It is eternal. “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away.” (Mateus 24:35)

Dear one, I pray you know the Lord Jesus as your Savior. He knows what it feels like to be rejected and abandoned. He wants you to surrender all to Him. Stop trying to do things in your own strength. Allow Him to minister to you in all the places in your soul that have been wounded due to trauma from abortion and/or abuse. He comes to bind up the broken hearted and heal all your wounds. (Referência. Salmo 147:3)

Entre em contato se precisar conversar: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Você é amado,
Toni

 

De volta a BLOGUES

Quando finalmente recebi o amor dele

Quando finalmente recebi o amor dele

Quando finalmente recebi o amor dele

by Toni Weisz/Recovery Tools

Escrituras: Genesis 1:26, Mateus 10:30, e 1 John 1: 2-3, 7-9,

As a small child, I did not learn to use my voice. Em vez de, I hid in the background to keep under the radar. My home was chaotic and unsafe emotionally, and as a result, I became what people wanted me to be. I was labeled, “The good, quiet one.” I was fearful of rejection, so I became a people-pleaser. I believed the lie, “If I were perfect, I would be loved.” But that never worked. That’s when I started hiding and wearing a mask.

My need for love and acceptance caused me to hide parts of myself. I only showed the best parts of me so others would like me. This was not working for me, so I decided to rebel. When I was 12 anos, I started sneaking Scotch Whiskey from my parents’ liquor cabinet; then drugs at 13, sex at 16, and my abortion at 21. Now, I was really hiding. I didn’t want my parents to find out. They were very strict with me being the oldest, and I didn’t want them to be angry or disappointed in me.

As I got older, my sins were more and more grievous, and my secrets became bigger and bigger. então, I isolated even more and hid everything. My mask morphed as I got older. Neste ponto, people-pleasing ruled my life. All I strove for were accolades from others and a place I could fit in and feel safe. But I would not find that for a very long time. Honestamente, I lost my own identity because I wanted to fit in with others. I no longer knew what I liked or what I wanted to do because I became a chameleon and changed depending upon the group I was with. I had lost my own identity striving to please others. I so desperately wanted to be loved that I sought it from all the wrong places. I used people, and they used me. But I did not feel loved. I only felt even more alone.

I know many of you can relate to this. You did not experience a safe home environment where you were loved, cherished, or encouraged. Em vez de, you experienced horrific abuse, neglect, and abandonment. My heart breaks when I hear your stories, the very people who should have loved you did the opposite. I know it broke God’s heart too, and He wept. He also knew all the unhealthy things you would do to numb yourself to escape from the pain. Decades of bad decisions and even more sorrow and heartbreak.

God created each and every one of us in His likeness and image (Referência. Genesis 1:26). He knows us intimately, and every hair on your head is numbered (Referência. Mateus 10:30). He created us for fellowship with Him (Referência. 1 John 1:3). There is a hole in our hearts and a void in our souls that nothing else in this world can fill, except for a relationship with our Heavenly Father through His Son, Jesus.

Even after I was saved, I struggled believing I was loved by God. I was still striving for approval from God and others. I had taken my character defects and my false beliefs and had added them to my Christianity. It was Jesus plus pleasing others and Jesus plus my good works. I believed in my head that Jesus loved me, but that truth had not made its way to my heart yet. I struggled to believe that He could forgive all my sins. The enemy lied to me and told me my sins were too great and God would not forgive me. That is a lie from the pit of Hell.

The Bible says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

The blood of Jesus on the cross for us was sufficient to pay all of our sin debt. He was our propitiation, our substitute (Referência. 1 John 1:2). It is finished!

Slowly, God was revealing His truth to me, and I was replacing those lies from the devil with His truth from the Bible. I remember the day I received His love. I felt a lightness and a joy in my heart. I felt a quickening in my spirit. For the first time in my life, I felt loved completely for who I was. God’s love for me was not based upon anything I could do. He loved me because He created me and delighted in me. Jesus made a way for me to know the Father’s love.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. Have you received the love of Jesus in your heart? If you have received His love, how did God reveal that to you? Please share.
  2. If you have not yet received Jesus, are you fearful to trust God because of the trauma from your past?
  3. What lies do/did you believe about yourself?
  4. Como podemos orar por você?

My prayer for you is that you will trust God and allow His love to fill the inner most part of your being, because when you do, you will never be the same. Obrigada, Jesus. Entre em contato se precisar conversar. Envie-me um e-mail para: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Você é amado,

Toni

 

De volta a BLOGUES

Perdão - o caminho de Deus

Perdão - o caminho de Deus

Perdão - o caminho de Deus

By Luci Boudreaux/Spiritual Insights
Escrituras: Mateus 5:44 and Mark 11:25

Mateus 5:44 “But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,”

Mark 11:25 “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

 

In my youth, I learned all about the impact of unforgiveness before I ever understood the incredible power and freedom of God’s plan; and that is forgiveness! That is what we will be talking about today.

I have a brother who is two years older and was incredibly mean to me from a very early age. I was an easy target since there was very little supervision in our home. He tormented, made fun of, beat up on and laughed at me regularly. As we grew older, he became more abusive in his behavior. And by age 11, he and another brother began to sexually molest me. I didn’t dare tell anyone because my greatest fear was that no one would believe me, and if they did, I would be blamed somehow. No 12, I was raped by a stranger in the neighborhood and was robbed of my virginity and whatever childhood innocence I had left. I escaped my abusive home environment at the age of 15. And I took my anger, confusion and bitterness with me into every relationship. Unfortunately, I experienced more violations and abuse from strangers out in the world.

The relationships that I did have were very toxic. I was promiscuous and emotionally unavailable. And when I look back on that season of my life, I also chose men who were unhealthy as well. No 24, I became pregnant by a man whose name I can’t remember, as we had just met that one day and I never saw him again. Unfortunately, I chose to abort my baby. And that was a devastating decision that broke me!

But, praise be to God that, approximately nine months later, the Lord revealed His Spirit, His truth, and I was born again! But there were layers of lies and wounds to process and release to the Lord. então, in my childlike obedience, I did the only thing I knew to do. I surrendered all these hurts and atrocities to Jesus, my Savior. I assumed that once I forgave as the Bible teaches, it was behind me. But I was wrong! The emotions of unforgiveness continued to rise up in my heart, as certain situations triggered them.

So I had a decision to make; I could try and bury the memories of the wrongs done to me and forget about them. But the problem with this is, it continues to surface along with the root of bitterness that continues growing inside.

As a follower of Christ, I worked on past wounds that were causing pain, and in that process, I specifically forgave my brother and have been praying for him for decades. But I recently found out that he has cancer and will need surgery. You would think that at once, I would pray for him, but what happened really surprised me! my immediate response was, “I don’t want to pray for him; he’s awful.”

When the thought came to me, I was convicted. So I took it to the Lord, and He began to help me sort through the unforgiveness, again. I realized there was still a remnant of unforgiveness in my heart against him. I had to deal with it!

I am learning that forgiveness is not only a one-time obedient act for the Lord, but it is also an ongoing process that needs to be revisited when it creeps into our hearts.

What I hadn’t been considering was that he came from the same dysfunctional home as me. My father was very harsh and cruel to him and my other brothers. Although he’s never expressed it, I believe he is burdened from past abuse. And from working through this for myself and for so many others, I’ve come to understand that those who have been abused are prone to hurt others in similar ways.

 

Perguntas para levar a sério:

Are you holding onto unforgiveness toward anyone?

How are you working through the process of forgiveness?

Are you finding it hard to forgive some over others?

 

Pastor Bill Elliff shares his perspective:

“Forgiveness is my responsibility as a choice of my will, made possible

by God’s grace, to release a debt, by faith, for the glory of God.”

 

Let’s look at the breakdown of the above statement:

“My responsibility”:
Regardless of what others have done, I am responsible for the sin of my unforgiveness.

“As a choice of my will, made possible by God’s grace”: It is not an act of my emotions but a choice I can always make because of the sufficiency of Gods empowering grace.

“To release a debt”:
The reason I am holding this in the ledger book of my heart is to make others pay (in multiple ways). Forgiveness transfers this issue from my courtroom to God’s, believing that He is fully capable of taking care of others.

“For the glory of God”:
There is nothing that illustrates God more clearly and shows others the remarkable power of God to help us through the deepest hurts of life than forgiveness.

 

Você é amado,
Lúcia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

De volta a BLOGUES

Sofrimento, uma bênção ou maldição?

Sofrimento, uma bênção ou maldição?

Sofrimento, uma bênção ou maldição?

por Toni Weisz/Disciplinas Espirituais

Escrituras: John 16:33b, 2 Corinthians 1:3-5, Hebrews 4:16, Isaías 43:19

In the world you will have tribulations (trials and suffering); mas tenha bom ânimo (take courage), Eu venci o mundo. (John 16:33b)

Blessed be God and the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation (affliction), that we may comfort those who are in any trouble (affliction), with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation (comfort and encouragement) also abounds (is abundant) through Christ. (2 Corinthians 1:3-5)

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)

senhor, I have been struggling for quite a few years while persevering in prayer for my children Quem have been suffering some of the worst trials anyone can endure: betrayal, divorce, relational problems, mental health issues, a debilitating undiagnosed illness, harsh judgement from others, solidão, depressão, and fear. I am crying out to Sou to help me understand e to help me encourage them. Help me to love them and listen to them to validate and affirm them. These trials have left my children feeling all alone in their struggles; friends and family have left them. They have been judged harshly by others who do not understand.

How do I encourage them when I too am struggling? Turn my perspective around, give me a Godly view of what You are doing so I can encourage them to look up to You, because You are our only hope. I know Sou are a good Father and You do not allow your children to suffer longer than is necessary. But it has been over 3 years and 24 doctors later with no diagnosis for my son. He struggles because there is no vindication, and he is being judged harshly by others. My daughter is fearful to trust a man again because of the betrayal she experienced. My granddaughter is suffering with rejection wounds and anger issues, who cannot understand why her dad and mom are divorced. She struggles to believe in You because she does not perceive You as a good Father.

I am humbling myself before Sou. I am running to Sour throne and bowing down my will, my thoughts, my heartache, and pain, and I am giving them all to Sou. I am boldly coming to Your throne of grace to receive mercy and grace to help us in our time of need. Take all our pain, suffering, confusion, and exchange them with Your peace, Your love, Your joy, Your presence, e make us a beautiful living testimony of Sour faithfulness to a world that is watching us and how we deal with these trials. Show them, senhor, how great a God You are. We want Sou to be magnified and glorified through our testimonies. Give us the strength and courage to stay strong, to suffer well, and to be humble and teachable. Increase our faith and trust in You so that we will not be shaken, nor will we waver, but instead, we will stand strong on Your Word and Your Truth that will endure forever.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. How have you been suffering lately?
  2. Has God reveumaled the purpose for your suffering?
  3. Has God used you to minister to others because of what you have endured?
  4. How can we come alongside and encourage you during this time?

We live in a fallen world, and suffering is a part of life, but prolonged suffering is hard, and we can feel all alone in our suffering. Please reach out if you need prayer or encouragement: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

You are loved dearly,

Toni

Obrigada, senhor, for the blessing of suffering because it brings me closer to You. It humbles me and gets my attention so I am ready and willing to hear from You. Thank You that through my suffering I am conformed to the image of Jesus. I pray through my suffering I will have a greater capacity to love and have compassion for others who suffer. I know You never waste my suffering but You use it for my good and Your glory.

The Lord gave me this verse:
Isaías 43:19
Contemplar, vou fazer uma coisa nova, agora ele brotará; você não saberá disso? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

 

De volta a BLOGUES

Estou tão grato pelo amor de Deus

Estou tão grato pelo amor de Deus

Estou tão grato pelo amor de Deus

por Toni Weisz/Recuperação de Abuso

Escrituras: Romanos 5:5, 1 John 4:7, Efésios 3:17-19, e Sofonias 3:17

Romanos 5:5
Agora a esperança não decepciona, porque o amor de Deus foi derramado em nossos corações pelo Espírito Santo que nos foi dado.

1 John 4:7
Amado, vamos nos amar, pois o amor é de Deus; e todo aquele que ama é nascido de Deus e conhece a Deus.

Efésios 3:17-19
Para que Cristo habite em seus corações pela fé; que você, estar enraizado e fundamentado no amor, possa compreender com todos os santos qual é a largura e o comprimento e a profundidade e a altura- conhecer o amor de Cristo que excede todo conhecimento; para que você seja cheio de toda a plenitude de Deus.

Sofonias 3:17
O Senhor teu Deus, em seu meio, o Poderoso salvará; Ele se alegrará por você com alegria, ele vai te acalmar com Seu amor, Ele se alegrará por você cantando.

 

Quero compartilhar meu diário de novembro 30, 2024. O Espírito Santo falando ao meu coração disse, “Eu nunca vou fazer você rastejar ou implorar por ajuda; Meu amor é extravagante.”

"Sim, é Senhor, e estou muito grato por isso.”

O Senhor disse,
“Meu amor é perfeito.
Meu amor é gentil.
Meu amor é gentil.
Meu amor é compassivo.
Meu amor cresce.
Meu amor abençoa os outros.
Meu amor incentiva.
Meu amor é eterno.”

Muitos de nós temos uma visão distorcida do amor de Deus por causa do tratamento e/ou abuso que recebemos, especialmente das pessoas mais próximas de nós.; aqueles que deveriam amar, nutrir, e nos proteja. Atribuímos essas características a Deus, e portanto, pensamos que Ele está com raiva, severo, abusivo, e inacessível, mas isso não poderia estar mais longe da verdade.

Acredito que a nossa visão distorcida do amor de Deus nos faz procurá-lo em outros lugares, de todas as pessoas erradas; porque quando crianças, não somos maduros o suficiente para compreender o quão fundamental é o amor em nosso emocional, físico, e crescimento e desenvolvimento espiritual. Afeta todos os aspectos de nossas vidas. Sentimos que não merecemos amor e que somos imperfeitos e indignos de ser amados por causa da maneira como os outros nos trataram no passado.. O maligno quer que acreditemos que Deus não nos ama.

Então, como podemos substituir nossa visão distorcida de Deus pela verdade? Primeiro, devemos nascer de novo; devemos ser cristãos, um filho de Deus, porque é o Espírito Santo de Deus Quem nos ajuda a conhecer Deus e a verdade da Sua Palavra. Segundo, temos que passar tempo com Deus em oração e na leitura de Sua Palavra. Assim como qualquer outro relacionamento, fica mais profundo com o tempo que passamos juntos. Terceiro, devemos acreditar que a Palavra de Deus é verdade e que Ele é amor, e não nosso membro da família cruel ou abusivo. Quarto, começamos a meditar em Sua Palavra e o Espírito Santo nos ajuda a começar a acreditar que verdadeiramente somos preciosos aos Seus olhos e que somos Seus filhos amados.

Uma vez que recebemos o amor de Deus no mais íntimo do nosso ser, estamos mudados para sempre. No meu blog, “Minha visão distorcida de Deus,” https://myashestobeauty.com/stinking-thinking-my-distorted-view-of-self-toni-weisz-abortion-recovery-and-abuse-support-group/, Falo sobre como o amor de Deus me mudou para sempre quando recebi Seu amor em meu coração. Já não duvidei; Eu realmente acreditei que era amado por Deus. eu era diferente; Não procurei mais outra pessoa para me validar e afirmar porque estava seguro no amor de Deus por mim. Eu não tive que atuar ou ser perfeito para ser digno o suficiente para receber Seu amor. Sou amado simplesmente porque Ele me criou e sou Seu filho.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. Você cresceu se sentindo amado e seguro nesse amor??
  2. Foi difícil para você acreditar que Deus te ama? Se for assim, por que?
  3. Você recebeu o amor de Deus em seu coração? Se não, o que está impedindo você de acreditar que é amado por Ele?
  4. Como podemos orar por você?

Querido, Oro para que você também receba o amor de Deus em seu coração. Ele te ama mais do que você pode compreender. Ele se alegra com você com alegria, Ele acalma você com Seu amor, e Ele se alegra com você cantando (Referência. Sofonias 3:17).

Entre em contato se precisar conversar. Sinta-se à vontade para me enviar um e-mail: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

 

Você é amado,
Toni

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

De volta a BLOGUES