Por que as mulheres têm medo de compartilhar seu segredo sobre o aborto

Por que as mulheres têm medo de compartilhar seu segredo sobre o aborto

Why are we fearful to share our abortion secret?
John 10:8-11

What is holding Christian women back from admitting this sin and coming forward to ask for healing? Why do women in leadership feel they cannot share they had an abortion? Will their ministries be less effective? I don’t think so. I truly believe when women in leadership come forward and admit this publicly, it gives the rest of the women sitting in the group or congregation, permission to come out and share as well.

The stats provided by Care Net tell us 4 out of 10 women identify as Christians and attend church at least once a month. These women are the first to have an abortion for fear of being found out. The enemy lies to them and tells them they have to take care of this quickly because they are a Pastor’s wife, or daughter, or they are in leadership; it has to be a secret and no one can find out. então, they quickly go to the abortion clinic and have an abortion. Afterwards they are a mess emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is wrong!!! The church and Christians should be the first ones to say we are here to help you, please do not terminate your child’s life because you made a mistake. There are other life affirming options available. That’s what the MLD course through Care Net does. It equips believers to come along side these women and men, to give them information about abortion and the life affirming alternatives, to pray with them, to share the Gospel with them, that Jesus died on the cross for them so they can have freedom, forgiveness of sins, and a new life; and to walk with them on this journey so they don’t feel all alone. This cycle of death in the church needs to stop and I pray Pastors and leaders’ eyes will be opened to this truth, and they will be willing to do something about it.

John 10:8-11 says “All who ever came before Me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not hear them. I am the door, if anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. The thief does not come but to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep.”

The enemy hates everything that God created, especially his most beautiful creation mankind, because we are created in His image and are given a living Spirit. God created us to have a relationship with Him. But He gave us a free will also. The enemy, since the beginning of time, in the garden has lied to us and caused us to doubt God’s Word and His love for us. When we as believers go against God’s best for us or break His laws, we sin. That’s when the struggle begins and the enemy then has a foothold in our lives. That’s where the church is now. The enemy has these women and men who have aborted their babies, in bondage, isolation, and torment. He wants them to keep this a secret, because he wants to prevent them from experiencing true peace with God, forgiveness of sins, and he certainly doesn’t want us, (those who have been healed from our past abortions) to tell others that there is hope and healing in Christ. More people need to hear the truth from us, I pray our voices will be louder than the enemy’s, so people can truly be set free.

How can we encourage Christian women sitting in our churches every Sunday to share their secret of abortion? I believe they must hear someone’s abortion story; they need to see a face associated with an Abortion Recovery Ministry or Bible Study. Then they can feel safe to come forward. But for some reason the church is hesitant to share this from the pulpit, I’m not sure why. I am praying that God will raise up bold and courageous leaders who have had an abortion, to step up and share with other women to encourage them to step out also.

Let me ask you, why did it take you so long to come forward to admit you had an abortion?

Tell me your story. What did God use to get you to step out and come forward for healing?

As a result of your healing what has God called you to do?

Will you join me to stop abortion in the church and come alongside other women to encourage them to break this cycle of death, in exchange for one that leads to life, freedom, and peace?

Bênçãos,

Toni

Focando na única coisa que eu não tenho

Focando na única coisa que eu não tenho

Focusing on the One thing I don’t have, véspera.

Genesis 2:15-3:9, and Isaiah 61:1-3

How does the enemy torment a believer? It’s very simple actually, by getting us to focus on the one thing we don’t have: it can be financial security, um relacionamento, good health, a job, a family, a nice home, etc. então, let me ask you, what one thing are you focusing on right now that you don’t have?

Let’s look at Eve for example, she lived in a beautiful garden in perfect harmony with her husband and all of creation and they walked with and spoke with God daily. She had everything she could ever want, except one thing; God told them not to touch or eat of the tree in the midst of the garden because when they eat of it their eyes will be open and they will know good and evil. então, what does the serpent, the devil do? He comes to Eve after observing her looking at the tree. This is not in the Bible, but we know that the devil cannot read our minds. But he and his demons observe us and how we react to things. então, he is observing Eve over a period of time and notices her looking at the tree; he slithers by and starts talking with Eve. The first thing he does is to put doubt in Eve’s mind that God doesn’t love her or else he would have given her everything, that “God is holding out on you, because he knows if you eat of it you will be like God knowing good and evil.” No, the truth is, that by disobeying God, sin entered the world and there will now be conflict between the woman and her husband, all of creation will be forever changed, and their relationship with God will be broken. They will now experience pain, pesar, sorrow, shame, and guilt and Adam and Eve will be forced out of their beautiful garden to never return again. They will be cursed as a result of their sins. That sounds pretty harsh but that’s how evil sin is, we like to justify sin so it doesn’t sound so bad, but the truth is sin is destructive and it separates us form God and others.

Many of us chose abortion, drunkenness, drugs, promiscuity and lying, as a way to cope with all of the pain and destructive choices in our lives. We were spiraling out of control, until one day we met the Savior, who had mercy on us and saved us from the path of destruction we were on. He exchanged our ashes for something beautiful, He took our mourning and grief; he gave us joy and exchanged our rags for a beautiful pure white garment. He gave us a new life, a new destiny, uma nova música, e um novo propósito. I don’t want my old life back because that person is dead and gone. I have been made new and I no longer desire the things I use to do.

 

Let me ask you what are you struggling with today?

 

What thing is the enemy causing you to focus on?

 

Have you ever asked Jesus to forgive your sins and to become your Lord and Savior?

 

Como podemos orar por você?

 

Bênçãos,

Toni

Sua vida foi ressuscitada?

Sua vida foi ressuscitada?

John 1:1,14, Titus 3:5, Lucas 1:28, 2 Corinthians 5:21, Mateus 27:3-4, 1 Corinthians 15:3-4, and Colossians 3:1

For those of us who have suffered the trauma of abortion, can agree that every part of our being, físico, mental, spiritual, e emocional, has been broken and shattered into a million pieces. We found ourselves barely able to function and as a result we chose unhealthy mechanisms to cope with our state of despair; such as alcohol, sex, drugs, shopping, unhealthy relationships or anything that could fill the black hole in our heart. There is only one person who can pick up the shattered pieces of our broken lives and fill the hole in our heart and that is Jesus the only begotten Son of God. Have you truly met the Savior, the lover of your soul? Have you been led out of the darkness and chains, into His glorious healing light?

Where were you when you found Jesus? Eu era 34 years old and literally on my back laying on my couch for weeks at a time, and thinking this is not living, I am barely surviving, and wanting to end this torment of a life. My depression was so severe that I was incapable of getting on with my life and daily responsibilities. I was a broken, deprimido, addicted, suicidal mess. On the outside, I pretended to have a perfect life, but inside I was dying and it became exceedingly more difficult to put on my mask every day. The only thing that kept me from formulating a plan to end my life were my 2 children who were very young, at the time around 7 e 8. I could not abandon them and leave them without a mother.

My husband had been on a quest to find the truth about Jesus and he was attending several churches in our area. In my desperation, I told him I wanted to attend church with him on one such Sunday. All four of us attended a small Baptist church in Browns Mills, NJ on January 2, 1994. For the next four weeks we would attend church as a family for Sunday School, Sunday Service, and on Sunday and Wednesday night meetings. My heart and mind were being saturated with the Bible, the Living Word of God (John 1:1,14). My Spirit was slowly being regenerated or reborn (Titus 3:5). My eyes and ears were opened and I heard things I had never heard before, and I had attended church my whole life. I heard that Jesus was born of a virgin teenager, a woman blessed and chosen by God, (Lucas 1:28) but no different from you or I. He lived a sinless life, (2 Corinthians 5:21) was betrayed by Judas Iscariot for 30 pieces of silver, (Mateus 27:3-4) was tortured and crucified on a cross, morreu, was buried and rose again on the third day. (1 Corinthians 15:3-4) He is alive and sitting at the right hand of the Father in Heaven. (Colossians 3:1) When I realized that Jesus loved me so much that He died for me and He took upon himself my sins and He willingly died for me. I was finally broken of my self-sufficiency and pride and I humbled myself before God and I asked Him to forgive my sins and I asked Jesus to be my Lord and Savior.

The most memorable life transforming day of my life was on February 6, 1994 when I became a born-again believer in Jesus. I will never forget that evening after Church when I was of all things, smoking a cigarette in my garage; that addiction took longer to stop than my drinking which stopped immediately. It was a clear crisp beautiful February evening and looking up I saw the moon and stars and I had this overwhelming feeling inside that something happened, I felt my spirit quicken in me and I said, “I feel you in me, I am changed, thank you Jesus.” Tears streamed down my cheeks and I was filled with gratitude, love, and hope for the first time in my life, I felt completely loved.

Have you encountered Jesus?

Once you do you will never be the same.

Tell me your story, where were you when Jesus found you?

Bênçãos,

Toni

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Pensamento fedorento: Pensamentos negativos

Pensamento fedorento: Pensamentos negativos

Pensamento fedorento: Pensamentos negativos

por Toni Weisz/Stinking Thinking

Escrituras: 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 e Filipenses 4:8-9

O pensamento fedorento se refere aos pensamentos negativos que nos atormentam, especialmente quando estamos HALT (Hsem raiva, UMAcom raiva, euapenas ou Tirado) Isso nos leva a ter uma visão distorcida de Deus, auto, Pensamento negativo, justificação, medo, e ansiedade. Abordaremos cada um desses tópicos para que possamos discernir entre as mentiras em que acreditamos ao longo dos anos e substituí-las pela verdade de Deus. Nosso objetivo é equipá-lo para que possa ter vitória nessas áreas.

2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NVI
“Pois embora andemos na carne, Não temos guerra de acordo com a carne. Pois as armas de nossa guerra não são carnais, mas poderosas através de Deus por derrubar fortalezas, lançando argumentos e tudo o que se exalta acima do conhecimento de Deus, Sexendo todos os pensamentos em cativeiro à obediência de Cristo. ”

Filipenses 4:8-9 NVI
"Finalmente, Irmãos, o que quer que seja verdade, Quaisquer que sejam as coisas honestas, Quaisquer que sejam as coisas apenas, Quaisquer que sejam as coisas puras, Quaisquer que sejam as coisas adoráveis, Quaisquer que sejam as coisas de um bom relatório, Se houver alguma virtude e se houver algo louvável, Medite sobre essas coisas. As coisas que você aprendeu e recebeu, e ouvi e vi em mim, estes fazem, E o Deus da paz estará com. ”

Todos nós conhecemos uma pessoa que pode sugar todo o ar de uma sala porque cada palavra que sai da boca é negativa. Você já experimentou isso antes? É emocionalmente desgastante estar na companhia de uma pessoa negativa por um longo período de tempo antes de também sermos arrastados para o poço com eles. Você está atormentado por pensamentos negativos?

O inimigo está continuamente tentando nos viajar porque seu objetivo é nos fazer focar nas coisas negativas em vez de todas as coisas pelas quais devemos ser gratos. Você tem uma lista de gratidão? Se você não, Eu sugiro que você faça um hoje, e escreva todas as coisas pelas quais você é grato. Quando você sente um pensamento negativo chegando, Basta sair da sua lista e lembrar -se que Deus ainda está no trono e está no controle e ele está ciente de tudo o que está acontecendo no mundo. Ele usa tudo isso para seu propósito e planos em todas as nossas vidas. Devemos lembrar que Deus é bom o tempo todo e Ele é amor; Esse é o seu personagem. Ele nunca muda. Ele é o mesmo ontem, hoje, e para sempre.

O campo de batalha é realmente a mente. TO chapéu é onde começa a guerra espiritual, E é aí que temos a opção de aceitar ou não. Agora mesmo, Há ódio e limpeza étnica em certas partes do mundo, Guerras e devastação devido a terremotos, incêndios, lâminas de lama. Mqualquer um tem medo, em desespero, e me sentindo sem esperança. But como crentes, Precisamos procurar ainda mais o Senhor agora, então temos sua perspectiva sobre isso. No que você está se concentrando agora? Você se sente pacífico, esperançoso ou deprimido e sem esperança?

Tenho uma lista de verdades bíblicas que li todas as manhãs para me lembrar que sou adotado e amado por Deus. É assim que eu coloco minha armadura para me proteger dos dardos ardentes do inimigo.

Quem eu sou em Cristo, para combater a rejeição

Eu sou digno.
Eu sou amado.
Eu sou aceito.
Eu sou adotado.
Estou confiante e competente.
Eu sou um filho de Deus.
Eu tenho o Espírito Santo dentro de mim.
Eu sou vitorioso em Cristo.
Sou perdoado por todos os meus pecados e limpo de toda a minha injustiça.
Eu tenho um lar no céu.
Nada pode me separar do amor de Deus em Cristo Jesus, Meu Senhor.
Eu sou valorizado por Deus.
Eu sou seu filho precioso.
Não vou temer o mal!

Quando eu leio isso todas as manhãs, Isso protege minha mente e meu coração das mentiras e pensamentos negativos em que o inimigo quer que eu me concentre. Quando não leio minha lista diariamente, Estou vulnerável aos dispositivos do inimigo; Estou impaciente, cruel, auto-justificado, julgamento, e facilmente frustrado.

senhor, Você está me mostrando que hoje, na verdade, Devo reservar um tempo com você todas as manhãs; Você é minha prioridade. REading sua palavra diariamente é comida para minha alma. PRaying é um momento para eu ouvir de ouvir de Sou para falar com Sou. JNossa mora é uma época em que eu mais vou mais com você, buscando Snossa sabedoria e querer muito ouvir Svocê me liderar e me guiar na minha vida e em tudo o que faço porque quero que minha vida seja agradável a Sou, E eu quero Svocê ser glorificado através dele. Obrigada, senhor, por me lembrar e me condenar disso hoje.

Pai no céu, Eu oro por cada mulher lendo este blog. Eu rezo para que eles procurem Sou com todo o coração. Mostre a eles quanto Svocê os amo de uma maneira muito real e tangível. Proteja -os das mentiras e pensamentos negativos do inimigo, e ajude -os a se concentrar nas coisas que são verdadeiras, honesto, apenas, puro, amável, e de bom relatório. Renove suas mentes diariamente enquanto lêem sua palavra. Curá -los e amarrar suas feridas como somente você pode, para SSomente o poderoso conselheiro e um ótimo médico. Encontre -os onde eles estão e lidere com sua mão direita justa. Perdoe todos os seus pecados e cure -os, senhor. Obrigado pelo seu amor, misericórdia, graça, e compaixão sobre eles. Oramos isso no nome poderoso de Jesus. Amém.

Perguntas para levar a sério:

  1. Você luta com pensamentos negativos?
  2. Com que frequência você é atormentado por esses pensamentos?
  3. Existe uma pessoa ou situação que faz com que você comece a pensar negativamente?
  4. O que você fez para ajudar a se proteger desse tipo de pensamento negativo?
  5. Como podemos orar por você?

Entre em contato. Ce adoraria ouvir de você. Envie-me um e-mail para: toni@myashestobeauty.com.

Você é amado,
Toni

 

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MY Wall—My Prison (Part Two)

MY Wall—My Prison (Part Two)

My Wall-My Prison (Part Two)

When Is it Safe to Let the Wall Down?

In Part 1, My Wall-My Prison, we talked about the walls we built around ourselves as children to protect us from others and how these walls became our prisons. We found ourselves cut off from everyone, alone and tormented by the enemy. So how do we start taking the walls down and feeling safe to share what we have been hiding all these years?

Primeiro, a relationship with God is extremely important. To have this relationship, the Bible says we must be born again. We become born again or saved when we ask God to forgive our sins through confession (Romanos 10:9) and repentance, which means turning away from our sins and turning to God (Lucas 5:32). We must also believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God who died on the cross for our sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day (1 Corinthians 15:3–4, Romanos 10:13). We then receive the gift of the Holy Spirit, The Spirit of Truth. He gives us the power to understand Scripture (John 14:17), convicts us of sin (John 16:8), and is our comforter, constant companion, and friend (John 14:16). It is through the power of the Holy Spirit that God connects with us in a deep and intimate way, making us a family.

My life changed dramatically when I finally received the love of God in my heart. I knew Jesus loved me, but I didn’t feel loved. I still believed the lies that I was unworthy to be loved by God, or anyone else for that matter, because of all my sins, especially my abortion. When the truth finally penetrated my heart, I was forever changed. I realized I was a child of God who was adopted into His family. He would never leave me nor forsake me. I was His, and I was bought by His precious blood on the cross for my sins. I am loved by God just the way I am. I am so grateful for this truth.

Segundo, I believe being in a Christ-centered community is critical for our healing. In this community, the Word of God is used along with the power of the Holy Spirit. Prayer and recovery tools are also used in this loving environment, creating a safe place to share.

I believe abortion breaks the very soul of a women into a million pieces. Those pieces, created by the trauma of having an abortion, can only be picked up and put back together by Jesus. We were designed by God to love, protect, and nurture our children; we did the opposite. This group is a safe place to share our hearts and our hurts without judgment or condemnation.

Lastly, it is okay to still be protected from people who are unsafe emotionally and/or physically. God does not want His daughters abused. As God heals you and you become more confident, He will lead you to start sharing with those with whom you feel safe. This group is a good place to start sharing within a safe and loving community to build your confidence.

Healthy boundaries are necessary to keep us safe so we can have more fulfilling and meaningful relationships with others. On the other hand, holding on to secrets is not a good way to have deep and meaningful relationships. When you feel safe to do so, share your secrets so you can be set free, giving the enemy nothing to hold against you.

Perguntas

  1. Are you ready to let your wall down to let God in so you can receive the love and the help you need?
  2. Who are you praying about sharing your past with? Do you have a healthy relationship with this person? It’s okay to keep yourself protected, but do not allow the enemy to isolate you or put you back into the prison.

Você é amado,
Toni

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